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Why do people want teens on social media??

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theprincessthepea · 16/06/2026 00:11

I have a teen.

Today I told her that by the time the ban comes into affect when she is 16, it won’t make a difference to her life. But it will affect my toddler, and I’m happy that he will be growing up during a time where social media will be banned for children and young teens.

What I realised is that there are so many parents against the ban.

I see it every day. I was the last parent (out of my DDs friendship group of 6 girls) to give her a smart phone and allow her on social media - mainly because I was aware of what it’s like, and I witnessed my friend abuse MSN and Bebo back in the day and end up with older guys and pervs - that’s another story. But I remember a parent (DDs friends mum) telling me “I’ve set up a Snapchat for my daughter” (there were in year 5).
I asked her “why”
she said “I was told it’s good for them to socialise”

WTF!? AIBU for thinking that a lot of the work will go into convincing the public and parents that social media is bad. Just like we had to convince the public that smoking is bad.

If the amount of exploitation, low self esteem, online bullying, literally having an online account that is borderline only fans when you are a minor, whilst mum and dad think you study and love school (me and my daughter are super open about socials, she might have an account I don’t know about - but this is the point - us parents don’t get to protect our kids when they are in a virtual world that could be harmful).

Anyways that’s my rant. I’m all for the ban. Good luck with them implementing it. But I think we will be in a better place 10 years later (if the multiple crisis don’t get to us first).

Im also all for educational videos - but I don’t think this falls under this. As I do tell my DD to find an appropriate video when she’s stuck for revision.

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Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 11:44

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:15

The ban will affect all sites where you can talk to other people. It includes mumsnet. This will be the start of mission creep. Next will be "look the ban isnt working. You will all need a digital I.D to use the Internet so your use can be monitored so we can stop kids using social media" and people like you will say "thays fine, think of the children"

I think internet access via ID is inevitable, looking at the direction it's all going.

Givemeachaitealatte · 16/06/2026 11:41

cheekynamechang3 · 16/06/2026 07:25

what's your solution then? I've seen a few people say this but I don't know what the answer is.

Get the companies to actually do something about their algorithms, inappropriate content, perverts, radicalisation. It isn't going to be solved by banning teenagers.

I don't allow social media for my children so it isn't going to impact them but it's just putting a plaster over a deep wound. We need to hold these companies to account. We have the technology to do so they just don't want to.

Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 11:40

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:12

You missed the bit where the law says we will also have to submit weekly DNA samples and have RFID chips implanted in our arses before we are allowed to play Angry Birds.

Like in the lockdowns? 😷

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 16/06/2026 11:38

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:10

The internet is a lot more than social media (which many adults do not use anyway). You think people are going to stop online banking or streaming netflix because they have to verify their age to access X? Give over.

Of course people won't stop using it, but I think many could use it more hesitantly and discriminatingly. Something that's convenient, familiar and accessible may be seen as less so and viewed as less of a central go-to facet of their lives.

If it's your bank or email, then of course people expect to have to ID and verify themselves to access; but if it's just a way of passing time or satisfying a random curiosity (e.g. you see somebody on TV and are trying to think what else you've seen her in), you may just not bother. I already do that with sites that demand you go through and individually decline hundreds of cookies: I either find an alternative site or just don't bother.

By way of analogy, presumably because of mass shoplifting, my local branch of Sainsbury's Local now puts much of the slightly more expensive products in massive transparent plastic boxes; and they have these other weird plastic barriers on the shelves, so you have to reach your hand in and around to try to grab stuff, rather than it being right there in front of of you to simply reach out and take. I've never shoplifted anything; but because of all the added security faff, even though the items are still there and available to buy as they were before, I just can't be bothered with it if it's an impulse-style buy and not something that I really need, so I ignore it. I realise they want to protect their profits, and they have every right to do so; but to me as a customer, their store is now much less attractive to me, so I spend considerably less there than I used to.

Similarly, the whole idea of speed bumps is to slow people down and discourage them from using certain roads. You can still use the roads (although you may end up having to prematurely replace your exhaust), but their very presence makes you stop and consider whether you actually want to bother. I lived in a flat for a year where I was 8 flights of stairs up, with no lift. The stairs were strong and perfectly functional - and I was young and wasn't even disabled back then - but that factor meant that I nipped out for a few minutes far less than I would have done had I been on the ground floor. To be honest, even if there had been a lift, I would have been less inclined to bother as much.

Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 11:36

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 16/06/2026 11:10

Well, in that official fact sheet, they say "We plan to use the same model for a social media ban as Australia. Their model included platforms like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook and X." It's not especially conclusive and easy to follow, when you begin with "We'll have what they're having".

And they call it 'social media', but then start talking about YouTube - which is television, not social media; so they're banning some social media (maybe all? They haven't mentioned whether certain currently-established less-popular platforms are included) but they're also banning some television - or will it be all of it, except things like iPlayer and ITVx (which also include some content that is very much adults only)?

So if we take them at their word that YouTube will indeed be banned for U16s, does that include Rumble, Vimeo, DailyMotion and all the other many platforms where you can upload and watch video content - or will the kids just have to move to one of those; or wait for somebody to set up a new one if those are all blocked too? What about other sites that can't just be categorised simply, but which allow multimedia and many different kinds of content?

What about Reddit? That's a cesspool too - and extremely mainstream and popular - but I haven't seen a single mention of it in any of the reports. Then what about Quora? There's loads of extremely inappropriate content on Wikipedia too - just because it's presented in a matter-of-fact style, it doesn't mean that it's suitable for minors. In fact, you only need to go on Google to find EVERYTHING - lots of great stuff, lots of neutral stuff and lots of extremely harmful stuff. We'd need to ban Google and every other search engine. Where does it end?

Will we end up with the whole internet banned for under 16s/18s - possibly with a few approved sandboxed sites, like they do in China? It reminds me of the time it went viral that a school in Sussex auto-blocked its own school website as unsuitable for their students, because of the last three letters of their county name.

This all just smacks of Fr Ted & Fr Dougal standing nervously in the street with their sign saying "Down with this sort of thing!"

I agree with this, except I don't know much about things in China.

We don't have a say on the law anyway, and the crowds will be howling "protect our children!!!".

EarthlyNightshade · 16/06/2026 11:33

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:16

Have you read the law? It means exactly what I said.

Can you link to the law?
I thought it was just at proposal stage at the moment?

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:21

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:16

Have you read the law? It means exactly what I said.

No, I haven't read the 'law' - because it doesn't exist. The government proposes to introduce regulations by the end of the year. The regulations have not been drafted yet.

Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 11:21

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:08

From the fact sheet:

"We plan to use the same model for a social media ban as Australia. Their model included platforms like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook and X. "

The Australian model imposes a duty on social media companies to only issue accounts to those 16 and over. It does NOT prevent those under 16 from accessing youtube (for example) as an un-logged in user. Or from accessing it via the family TV that is logged in using a parents account. If you are not logged in you cannot post content and it is MUCH harder to access inappropriate and damaging content - which at the end of the day is what the 'ban' is supposed to achieve.

How social media companies age-verify their users will be up to them. The fact sheet says that OFCOM will come up with a list of acceptable methods, but the implementation will be down to the social media companies themselves.

Thanks, I'll have a look at Australian regulations though ours may be different, they only say "model", not particular details.

If you are not logged in it is MUCH harder to access inappropriate and damaging content

It's exactly the opposite.

How social media companies age-verify their users will be up to them. The fact sheet says that OFCOM will come up with a list of acceptable methods, but the implementation will be down to the social media companies themselves.

Yes, it's authoritarian government control AND corporate harvesting. Our state is merging with techno bros, the state helps them do business, they help the state control the plebs. Isn't it nice.

Puzzledandpissedoff · 16/06/2026 11:21

How social media companies age-verify their users will be up to them. The fact sheet says that OFCOM will come up with a list of acceptable methods, but the implementation will be down to the social media companies themselves

If so, @SadiraOfTyr, then even leaving aside the issue of irresponsible parenting there won't be a hope in hell of this working - not least because the cost of any fines will be eclipsed by the ongoing profits to be made

As always the devil's in the detail, and while the push factor may be worthwhile it remains to be seen whether this will become more than a headline

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:16

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:12

You missed the bit where the law says we will also have to submit weekly DNA samples and have RFID chips implanted in our arses before we are allowed to play Angry Birds.

Have you read the law? It means exactly what I said.

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:15

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:10

The internet is a lot more than social media (which many adults do not use anyway). You think people are going to stop online banking or streaming netflix because they have to verify their age to access X? Give over.

The ban will affect all sites where you can talk to other people. It includes mumsnet. This will be the start of mission creep. Next will be "look the ban isnt working. You will all need a digital I.D to use the Internet so your use can be monitored so we can stop kids using social media" and people like you will say "thays fine, think of the children"

shinypen · 16/06/2026 11:15

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:10

The internet is a lot more than social media (which many adults do not use anyway). You think people are going to stop online banking or streaming netflix because they have to verify their age to access X? Give over.

You need to extrapolate - it starts with banning kids. Where does it end? Who has your data. Companies spend fortunes getting your data, now they get it for free.

Once the infrastructure is there, it's not going to magically disappear if you change your mind.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:12

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:01

This law will mean every adult will.have to submit selfies on a daily basis to use the Internet. Every site where you can engage in communication with another person falls into the remit. Have you read the proposed law?

You missed the bit where the law says we will also have to submit weekly DNA samples and have RFID chips implanted in our arses before we are allowed to play Angry Birds.

ApplebyArrows · 16/06/2026 11:10

Most people who are parents of teens now will not be old enough to have had access to social media when they themselves were under 16. This can lead in some cases to an ignorance of the dangers. (Though in other cases it probably leads people to see SM as more dangerous than it really is.)

And there have always been parents who think children should be treated just like adults. Showing 18 certificates to their 8-year-olds etc. Ironically such adults are probably themselves rather immature and childish.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:10

shinypen · 16/06/2026 11:02

Perhaps not kill it, but I think a large proportion of adults will stop using the internet as they don't want to show ID. So older adults probably, and ones who are sceptical of these changes. In other words, how to create online "forums" that only have 1 viewpoint.

Kill the internet and return things to offline conversation though? That will be too much wishful thinking perhaps.

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The internet is a lot more than social media (which many adults do not use anyway). You think people are going to stop online banking or streaming netflix because they have to verify their age to access X? Give over.

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 16/06/2026 11:10

Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 10:37

Sorry I didn't rtft but where is this info from? The regulations are not published yet.

I cannot see any mention of "ban on setting up SM accounts" in the official fact sheet
The wording is "From Spring 2027, under‑16s will no longer be able to use certain social media."
"Use" is a general term that may include pretty much any access.
The fact sheet also reads that adults will have to provide their data.

Well, in that official fact sheet, they say "We plan to use the same model for a social media ban as Australia. Their model included platforms like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook and X." It's not especially conclusive and easy to follow, when you begin with "We'll have what they're having".

And they call it 'social media', but then start talking about YouTube - which is television, not social media; so they're banning some social media (maybe all? They haven't mentioned whether certain currently-established less-popular platforms are included) but they're also banning some television - or will it be all of it, except things like iPlayer and ITVx (which also include some content that is very much adults only)?

So if we take them at their word that YouTube will indeed be banned for U16s, does that include Rumble, Vimeo, DailyMotion and all the other many platforms where you can upload and watch video content - or will the kids just have to move to one of those; or wait for somebody to set up a new one if those are all blocked too? What about other sites that can't just be categorised simply, but which allow multimedia and many different kinds of content?

What about Reddit? That's a cesspool too - and extremely mainstream and popular - but I haven't seen a single mention of it in any of the reports. Then what about Quora? There's loads of extremely inappropriate content on Wikipedia too - just because it's presented in a matter-of-fact style, it doesn't mean that it's suitable for minors. In fact, you only need to go on Google to find EVERYTHING - lots of great stuff, lots of neutral stuff and lots of extremely harmful stuff. We'd need to ban Google and every other search engine. Where does it end?

Will we end up with the whole internet banned for under 16s/18s - possibly with a few approved sandboxed sites, like they do in China? It reminds me of the time it went viral that a school in Sussex auto-blocked its own school website as unsuitable for their students, because of the last three letters of their county name.

This all just smacks of Fr Ted & Fr Dougal standing nervously in the street with their sign saying "Down with this sort of thing!"

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:08

Ubertomusic · 16/06/2026 10:37

Sorry I didn't rtft but where is this info from? The regulations are not published yet.

I cannot see any mention of "ban on setting up SM accounts" in the official fact sheet
The wording is "From Spring 2027, under‑16s will no longer be able to use certain social media."
"Use" is a general term that may include pretty much any access.
The fact sheet also reads that adults will have to provide their data.

From the fact sheet:

"We plan to use the same model for a social media ban as Australia. Their model included platforms like Instagram, YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, Facebook and X. "

The Australian model imposes a duty on social media companies to only issue accounts to those 16 and over. It does NOT prevent those under 16 from accessing youtube (for example) as an un-logged in user. Or from accessing it via the family TV that is logged in using a parents account. If you are not logged in you cannot post content and it is MUCH harder to access inappropriate and damaging content - which at the end of the day is what the 'ban' is supposed to achieve.

How social media companies age-verify their users will be up to them. The fact sheet says that OFCOM will come up with a list of acceptable methods, but the implementation will be down to the social media companies themselves.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 16/06/2026 11:05

Over 6 billion people—roughly 73% of the global population—use the internet every day. Of course this new law isn't going to kill the internet. Absolute bollocks.

shinypen · 16/06/2026 11:02

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 16/06/2026 10:56

Kill the internet? Most ridiculous thing I've read today. Yeah, I mean, no adults use the internet on a daily basis...

Perhaps not kill it, but I think a large proportion of adults will stop using the internet as they don't want to show ID. So older adults probably, and ones who are sceptical of these changes. In other words, how to create online "forums" that only have 1 viewpoint.

Kill the internet and return things to offline conversation though? That will be too much wishful thinking perhaps.

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 11:01

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 16/06/2026 10:56

Kill the internet? Most ridiculous thing I've read today. Yeah, I mean, no adults use the internet on a daily basis...

This law will mean every adult will.have to submit selfies on a daily basis to use the Internet. Every site where you can engage in communication with another person falls into the remit. Have you read the proposed law?

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 10:59

EarthlyNightshade · 16/06/2026 10:37

I wonder what Mumsnet are thinking about this? They can't come out and say they are against the ban (can they?) but having to ID to use Mumsnet would massively affect their audience.
It would cut down on bad faith actors and trolls of course, but I wouldn't be here to see that myself either.

And I would never trust any of these verification companies to actually delete anything. Every selfie or I.D will.be stored and sold. You'd be an idiot to think your picture will be deleted. Selfie to log into mumsnet will mean your picture or I.D linked to your account.

shinypen · 16/06/2026 10:57

u3ername · 16/06/2026 10:40

Societies only function when they believe in the same things - even if they are fictional like the rule of law, limited companies, countries, religion (and these are all made up by people).
You need to regulate, of course. Stupid people doing stupid shit all over the world, from the Taliban to the pedophiles - people are not innately good.
You’re either believing in different things and fighting or believing in similar and cooperating.

Banning YouTube for kids will bring on two things - YouTube improving and cleaning the content for children, or a child friendly video platform will replace it. We cannot just say oh the occasional disgusting video on there is fine as long as we get the educational ones. You have to ask for better to get it.

Look, I just don't want (and I'm sure you don't either) 1984 to happen in this country. It does in others.

I don't believe you should control information for adults because of the very fact that someone needs to control it. And you can bet that someone who rises to the job is probably the very person you don't want for the job. Life is messy, you can't have freedom without loosing control.

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 16/06/2026 10:56

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 10:52

I wont be either. This law will kill the internet. I wonder if mumsnet HQ will respond?

Kill the internet? Most ridiculous thing I've read today. Yeah, I mean, no adults use the internet on a daily basis...

baroqueandblue · 16/06/2026 10:55

Givemeachaitealatte · 16/06/2026 00:26

I agree with you but I still voted YABU as I think it's state over reach to start being involved in parenting our children. I won't allow social media, but what others do with their children is their choice.

I also disagree that banning teenagers from social media is the answer. The world has changed since we were young and there is no going back, it's how they communicate, have fun, and interact. How about we hold these companies to account for all the perverts and addictive nature of their apps. It's obscene how they get away with lack of safety and accountability.

Your thinking is all over the place. Unfortunately there are far too many 'other parents' who do fuck all to protect their own children from social media, and it has had horrific consequences for some families who have tried to protect their children. That's why state intervention is now needed.

The world has changed in the ways you describe because too many people have stood back and done nothing to stop those harmful changes happening. So people decide to do something about it and all you can say is "there's no going back"? You'll be right if you just accept it all as inevitable. Well, you do you. There are a lot of extremely concerned parents and families who are willing to try something to make a better, safer world for their children.

And those companies? They get away with "lack of safety and accountability" because parents like you don't tell them 'no' loud enough.

ThePeppyOpalScroller · 16/06/2026 10:52

EarthlyNightshade · 16/06/2026 10:37

I wonder what Mumsnet are thinking about this? They can't come out and say they are against the ban (can they?) but having to ID to use Mumsnet would massively affect their audience.
It would cut down on bad faith actors and trolls of course, but I wouldn't be here to see that myself either.

I wont be either. This law will kill the internet. I wonder if mumsnet HQ will respond?