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to say please and thank you when talking to ChatGPT?

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Holsandcritters · 15/06/2026 23:56

I feel rude not to!

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Sugarnspicenallthingsnaice · 16/06/2026 03:05

I'm assuming this is a spin off as I had a conversation about this on another thread yesterday. The poster I asked about it insisted if they weren't polite to AI they'd break their 'habit' of using manners in day to day life.

So apparently some people can't adjust their communication style to suit the context.

Anyway, regardless of what others do I think it's important to maintain awareness that you're dealing with a machine not a person and treat it accordingly. Otherwise you end up like the OP of that other thread. So when I use AI, which I'm required to do at work, I don't say please and thank you to it.

Fedupofthisgame · 16/06/2026 02:54

I also say please and thank you to Alexa 🤣

Anarchy99 · 16/06/2026 02:46

19lottie82 · 16/06/2026 02:30

Apparently it costs them money every time you say please or thank you 😂

And it costs the rest of us in water and energy.

Treetreetreetree · 16/06/2026 02:32

What’s a few more millions of gallons of water so long as you’re all jolly friendly?

19lottie82 · 16/06/2026 02:30

Apparently it costs them money every time you say please or thank you 😂

MistressoftheDarkSide · 16/06/2026 01:53

ExOptimist · 16/06/2026 01:50

I think that's bizarre. Do you thank your car, your TV or kettle? AI isn't a person, you don't need to interact with it as if it is. You're just telling it to perform functions rather than using buttons, it isn't sentient, you don't need to talk to it as if it's alive.

I don't disagree with you at all, but try telling it to those eminent people debating the "rights' of AI at the moment.

ExOptimist · 16/06/2026 01:50

I think that's bizarre. Do you thank your car, your TV or kettle? AI isn't a person, you don't need to interact with it as if it is. You're just telling it to perform functions rather than using buttons, it isn't sentient, you don't need to talk to it as if it's alive.

Nanof8 · 16/06/2026 01:04

I have always said thank you my Alexa.
But I also apologize to my kids stuffies if knock them over.

Chicca1970 · 16/06/2026 00:07

anotherdaytosmile · 16/06/2026 00:00

When the computers take over, your kindness will be noted

Exactly THIS! Call me paranoid …

PrincessFairyWren · 16/06/2026 00:06

I say thank you to Siri because I am speaking. I type please to chat GPT. I did hear lately ( from an unsubstantiated source) that being polite to ai is worse for the environment and that it takes more energy from the computer servers. Now I can’t win.

ValueofNothing · 16/06/2026 00:05

YABU. AI uses up way too much energy as it is.

SixtySomething · 16/06/2026 00:04

Holsandcritters · 15/06/2026 23:56

I feel rude not to!

I do that too. I think it makes ChatGPT be polite back!

anotherdaytosmile · 16/06/2026 00:00

When the computers take over, your kindness will be noted