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To struggle with not being kept in the loop post 18yrs?

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DarkRabbit · 15/06/2026 14:03

I have a DS who is an older teenager, he has a multitude of serious medical conditions. A week ago, he was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for obviously significant issues. He hasn’t been in contact the last couple of days & I want to understand what is going on & how he is doing.

I appreciate that he is now “an adult” but it will be my job to care for him when he gets out & my job to support him if he isn’t able to study or work.

I appreciate his right to privacy but I am so angry, worried, heartbroken that I don’t know what’s going on or how he’s doing.

There’s obviously nothing I can do about it but sit at home stressing & trying to keep work / home / other kids going as normal.

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DarkRabbit · 15/06/2026 14:14

I know he’s still there as I’m paying for it & he has nowhere else to go & no transport.

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Notimefor · 15/06/2026 14:09

This must be very very hard. If he has significant mental health problems he is getting help from professionals. You know he isn't doing well - it's natural for you to want to know how he is, just try and let him be until he leaves the hospital as hard as that is . As you say you will likely have to look after him anyway, so take some space while you can.

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/06/2026 14:07

I’m sorry, that sounds so worrying and how you feel is completely understandable 💐

Smartiepants79 · 15/06/2026 14:06

I completely understand how you feel but sadly I doubt there is anything to be done. If he has capacity then his choice not to contact you overrides everything else.
Hopefully he will be in touch soon.