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Typical woman driving a car too big for her

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Lewqa · 15/06/2026 13:36

That’s what my work colleague (a woman) said whilst sat next to me this morning when I gave her a lift in. We were waiting to pass a car (SUV) in the work car park where the driver was taking a while to park, lining it up etc.

I have heard this sentiment before from others, it’s not the first time.

AIBU for saying that men are just as bad as women when it comes to their driving/parking ability with these bigger cars?

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MagnesiumBathSalts · 15/06/2026 17:09

Jellybunny98 · 15/06/2026 13:41

I’ve had this said to me before, but if they saw me getting a baby, toddler and 2 big Labrador’s out of the car they would probably realise I could actually do with an even bigger car😂

I salute anyone who is fabulous at parking bigger cars! Most parking spaces are just not built for them, I was a great parker when I had my little A1 and would love to just go back to a smaller car ha

Same here. We have 3 (nearly 4) children and a huge buggy so have a huge 7 seater SUV.

I actually find it a lot easier to park then our previous smaller car though. It has an aerial view of the parking plus all the sensors etc it’s great.
currently heavily pregnant so too big to fit in a normal parking space though 😅

SerenaCat93 · 15/06/2026 17:00

NormasArse · 15/06/2026 15:46

The poster said she hates them bought solely for height and safety, not that she hates them being used for what they’re built for.

She has no idea why a stranger bought the SUV she's judging them for owning or if they need it because of where they live or not. Us country folk do actually visit towns you know! Being in a town in our massive car doesn't mean we live there and don't actually need one!

She's just assigning a stereotype to them after seeing them drive it in public. That's my point.

CokeinBottles · 15/06/2026 16:40

I'm afraid IME it is more often women who do this. Men (not all men) are more likely to drive aggressively or speed, so it's not that one sex is worse at driving, more that each sex has its own faults (on average- of course I'm a brilliant driver as is everyone reading this).

tokennamechange · 15/06/2026 16:29

Lewqa · 15/06/2026 13:43

Along the lines of ‘yes, she’s delaying my morning coffee’!

well that told her, didn't it!

If you care enough about internalised sexism (which I agree this is an example of) to mull it over for half a work day and then start a thread about it, why not address it at the source and say something to her at the time?

HamBap · 15/06/2026 16:22

Sexist bollocks but I do wonder when I pass tiny women (occasional teen boy) whose eyes seem to be level with the steering wheel how on earth they manage to drive safely when they can't possibly see half the road in front of them.

ithappenstootherfamilies · 15/06/2026 16:15

I will be honest I am embarrassed when I see some women parking and reversing.

FedUpCelery · 15/06/2026 16:04

Womanofcustard · 15/06/2026 15:55

A few months ago in a supermarket car park, a small blonde woman approached in a monster suv.
I decided to watch. She reverse parked perfectly in one smooth movement!
I am an experienced driver with a clean licence 30+ years.
I cannot reverse park my small car!

Often bigger cars come with lots more bells and whistles.
I drive a large estate car and park it much more easily as my husband much smaller car.
I've become so used to having a reverse camera in my car that I'm out of practice reversing without one.

Littlebitpsycho · 15/06/2026 16:03

SnappyUmberLion · 15/06/2026 13:50

In my experience, when I see a driver struggling to reverse or park a large car, more often than not, it's a woman driving.

This unfortunately. I say that as a woman who does have one of these enormous cars but can park it quickly and efficiently anywhere, even whilst towing a horse trailer

nomas · 15/06/2026 15:59

Yanbu, I see terrible parking and driving from men too.

If anything, men are often worse because many have bad road rage.

Womanofcustard · 15/06/2026 15:55

A few months ago in a supermarket car park, a small blonde woman approached in a monster suv.
I decided to watch. She reverse parked perfectly in one smooth movement!
I am an experienced driver with a clean licence 30+ years.
I cannot reverse park my small car!

Monty36 · 15/06/2026 15:55

I do think there is a problem with car sizes generally. We are not the size of America, Spain or Italy even. Nor France. Our roads in places are very narrow and small. Sometimes you see vast campervans getting stuck down little Devon roads. And wondering why. Or huge SUV’s struggling around a multi-storey car park built in the 70’s.
I have seen middle aged ladies who are clearly well heeled driving very cautiously in pot holed Kent scared of damaging the large car they seem terrified of driving.
I have also seen some women guilty of being in the middle lane of a motorway. And not understanding it is not for driving slowly in.
Then again there are plenty of drivers who are male who drive like aggressive so and so’s. Ones who have no insurance or licence even.

TheIdlerReturns · 15/06/2026 15:49

Cars are too big these days TBH. This isn't America. Some people can't even park their cars in older properties with small garages. You have to use the garage for something else because the monster vehicle won't fit. On the gender front, statistically men (young men) are worse drivers. They kill more people anyway

MissVerucaSalt · 15/06/2026 15:48

The latest data I could find is from 2023, but:

  • male drivers are 50% more likely to hit another car whilst parking compared to a female driver.
  • 21% of men have hit another car whilst parking in the last 12 months, compared to 14% of women.

Maybe if men took a bit more trouble and more tries to park, they’d be better off…. 🤷‍♀️

ZanyMaker · 15/06/2026 15:48

No denying it - my husband is great at parking whereas I seem to make a right meal of it! I must be a ‘typical woman’. Mind you, I’d still be terrible trying to reverse parka micra!

oliviaAustin · 15/06/2026 15:47

Aren’t the seating areas generally the same size no matter the car?

NormasArse · 15/06/2026 15:46

SerenaCat93 · 15/06/2026 13:52

Has it ever occurred to you that a lot of women need an SUV for it's actual capabilities? I bought an outlander to tow a horse box, off road in the paddock, tow a trailer of hay, for all of my camping gear in and drive off-road to wild locations to camp in. All the women I know with SUVs actually use them for what they were built for. Also we all live in the country side where our roads regularly flood and snow and ice means that my husband in his regular car can't get to work/pick up our daughter when the roads get too bad so he takes my car or I go. Obviously everyone we know here is also having to contend with those conditions on a regular basis.

The only person I know driving an SUV for status and safety is a man.

The poster said she hates them bought solely for height and safety, not that she hates them being used for what they’re built for.

ForPlumReader · 15/06/2026 15:46

I'd say most people driving these are driving a car that's "too big" (for them). Generally speaking nobody needs a car as big as the ones you are referring to.

MissVerucaSalt · 15/06/2026 15:43

Women are much more likely to struggle to park…. Because they tend to do it more carefully. It’s no coincidence that male drivers account for about 51% of drivers but over 65% of accidents…..

Monty36 · 15/06/2026 15:39

Saw a man recently make a right meal of parking a car. The reason was it was too long for the little car park at the GP’s/pharmacy. Took him ages. Even then he parked in the disabled space. Not that anyone disabled got out of it.

SlightFerret · 15/06/2026 15:34

Men driving vans are the worst. You only have to look at the state of these vans to see that.

damemaggiescurledupperlip · 15/06/2026 15:32

I suspect that, out of any couple, it is usually the man who has had more input into choosing the family car. The female half might have preferred somethig nippier

(thinking particularly if my old boss. He actually had the pedals of his enormous vehicle extended for his petite wife rather rhan choose something sensible. And yes, I have heard him use the exact works ‘that car is too big for her ‘ about women drivers. Oh the irony!)

LlynTegid · 15/06/2026 15:30

I would guess about 99% of people with an SUV do not need one. I would have a separate category of licence for larger and high performance cars, with higher standards, more regular eyesight and theory tests, and a clean standard licence for a period (say five years) before you could ever have this licence.

Problem would end very quickly as most people would have standard size cars.

SnappyUmberLion · 15/06/2026 15:27

Boreded · 15/06/2026 15:26

But are we talking about office hours, because if we take the general view of when people drive I would suspect that women are doing it more often during office hours than men, just because of things like SAHM and that often women also work part time around their husbands for childcare.

it could still be this contributes a lot to it

Nope, evenings, weekends, any time.

Boreded · 15/06/2026 15:26

SnappyUmberLion · 15/06/2026 15:22

No, just when I'm out and about, at any time. I don't do a school run.

But are we talking about office hours, because if we take the general view of when people drive I would suspect that women are doing it more often during office hours than men, just because of things like SAHM and that often women also work part time around their husbands for childcare.

it could still be this contributes a lot to it

SnappyUmberLion · 15/06/2026 15:22

Boreded · 15/06/2026 14:46

Is that because of the timings of it, school run etc, which are generally more frequently done by women?

It’s situational bias isn’t it 🤷‍♀️

No, just when I'm out and about, at any time. I don't do a school run.