AIBU to say Mumsnet has some particularly bonkers opinions?

in fairness, when your entire life is turned around your looks and appearance, and you have unlimited funds, it's not quite the same challenge as a working mother of preschool kids who doesn't have anywhere near the time nor money for exercise, facial treatments and so on.

Mums of young children can't even leave them home early. mornings or late evenings to go to the gym

I don’t agree with all your points but I have noticed the past week or so Mumsnet has been a particularly vile place to be. If I accidentally read a thread from a few years ago it’s actually jarring to see how supportive 90% of the comments are.

You should probably change the circles you move in if people are referring to women as ‘controlling old bitches’

If you are slim like the Princess of Wales it's only because you have a personal chef, a physical trainer and lots of money.

And an 'obvious eating disorder' according to many 🙄

If real life was like MN, there would be no hope for me (or all of humanity) and I'd probably be in utter despair. It's bad on here but at least I can log off and touch grass.

If you are slim like the Princess of Wales it's only because you have a personal chef, a physical trainer and lots of money.
The fact that her parents, siblings and children are slim and that it is probably genetics are irrelevant.

Certainly I agree that a lot of people have opinions very different to my own, and I also think they have very different backgrounds and lifestyles.

Just looking at your list though, I agree that many posters seem to have a similar view on adult DC. Often these are posters who don’t have DC, or who only have pre-schoolers.

Points 2, 3, 5 and 6 are more contentious and the topics of many a thread where there is certainly not overall agreement.

I think though that very few posters believe number 1, and if they do they are very quiet about it. MN is generally very vocal in being gender critical and supportive of safe places for women.

It's almost as if we all have very different upbringings, personalities and lived experiences.. who knew? 😂

true, in real life, it would be "controlling old bitch"

I dont' really hear the word witch in that context in real life.

The one I always find most baffling is that step mums are public enemy #1. No matter how brilliant a step mum is and what she does for her step kids it’s not enough - even in some cases where she does more than mum and dad she’s still in the wrong and then when a step mum wants recognition for the fact she does her best she needs to know her place!

No-one on Mumsnet would use the misogynistic and ageist phrase 'controlling old witch'.

It’s the miserly attitude to money that are striking to me…such as one along the lines of:

“I have £40k in savings, excluding pensions and savings for children’s future, both DH and I have stable jobs and no debt or any big costs due… AIBU to spend £2k from these savings on a holiday knowing I can replace this in a few months.”

Cue a significant number of posters writing “no, you should save up before spending on a holiday” and “that’s very extravagant, do something less expensive that doesn’t require savings.”

so many Scrooges out there!

For me, nothing beats the baby name threads. I regularly cry with laughter at some of the names put forward to expectant mothers. Or indeed, the ones that the mothers themselves are considering for their poor offspring. “I like Ptolemy, Ezekiel or Jebediah, but my DH wants Trevor. Help us decide”.

YANBU @coulditbeme2323

1. Men cannot ever become women. They can live their version of being what they think a woman is. They cannot force others to see them as a woman. They are trans identified men TIM's who live as they thinkk a woman does. That doesn't give them the right to enter woman's safe spaces or impose on women.

Number 4 is the only one I would say is a commonly held opinion on MN.

Some people take great exception to any parent asking for advice on how to help their 19 year old with a tricky problem. They are accused of mollycoddling or not allowing the young person to learn lessons.
Or to parents who help their kids financially because " I never got a penny from mine and it made me a better person than than those who do"

And woe betide anyone who lets their child live at home after graduation rent free and pays for them to join the family holiday or meal out.

Yes I do meet people like that in real life. If you spent 5 minutes working in healthcare you would agree.

I just thought your post was a bit ironic.

The ones you have listed are the most tame. You've been quite diplomatic, IMO.

I think S&B is definitely getting less nuanced, i.e. people seem to be taking more extreme positions (I know that sounds ridic for a fashion board 😁). There certainly seems to be a more "my way or the highway" approach, and even more pearl-clutching than ever although perhaps not always about the same stuff.

but you don't want people to be as "polite" on here. Remove the bonkers ones who are either hateful or offended by anything and everything (that must be exhausting 😂)

you also get the truth of what people are saying behind your back, or think. So it's quite interesting to read.

Sigh

Are you actually saying that those people truly believe they have changed sex? Unless they’re incredibly hard of thinking, they know they haven’t.

I believe this to be true as well. Literally every point you make, MN opinion is usually the opposite and I've never come across a poster who has drank the Trans coolaid

do you honestly. meet people as angry and bitter in real life? I sure don't!

I am not surrounded by women who hate men, or even treat them as a different species, and people love holidays and parties. People in real life are too busy living to have time to be that angry, or scared to death about anything and everything.

🙄🙄🙄

Nicely put. Yes!