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AIBU to say Mumsnet has some particularly bonkers opinions?

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coulditbeme2323 · 15/06/2026 11:37

I have been a long time MN lurker, but the last 3 weeks have actually been posting due to a post op. The place is bonkers, and I am going to miss it now I am on the mend.

Here are a few bonkers opinions.

  1. Men can become women

  2. If you have more than £3.46 left for the week, you have loads and shouldn't ask for budgeting advice.

  3. If you are uncomfortable with husband going to a strip club or a candlelit dinner with his ex, you are a controlling old witch who doesn't trust him.

  4. Something magical happens to your children the day they turn 18, and you should charge them market rent and not help them anymore.

  5. If you want to see a country that is a long haul flight away, you are environmentally worse than a Bond Villain.

  6. Dogs should always be on their leads, even in dog walking parks.

What else?

OP posts:
Muffsies · 15/06/2026 14:39

LuckyHazelFox · 15/06/2026 14:29

That MN should never accept new posters because they are bots sent from Reform or Tory HQ. The drawbridge was pulled up many moons ago so no newbies please. Nice all inclusive forum and all that.

Every now and again the far right sent their minions to teach us middle class, woke bleeding-heart women a lesson. They're very welcome to join in, but they are kidding if they think they're actually influencing anything in society. Let's just say there's a clear difference in education levels 😂

ilovemybluesharpie · 15/06/2026 14:35

Most MN do not think that men can become women, but the complete opposite from what I have seen.

Also, regarding 18 year olds, I have seen more threads where people ask how much to charge their DC, then get told that they are disgusting for wanting to do so (even if cannot support them they are expected to somehow keep their DC after losing child benefit and council tax discounts etc), so maybe you are not seeing all the threads and getting the wrong idea.

LuckyHazelFox · 15/06/2026 14:29

That MN should never accept new posters because they are bots sent from Reform or Tory HQ. The drawbridge was pulled up many moons ago so no newbies please. Nice all inclusive forum and all that.

nocoolnamesleft · 15/06/2026 14:21

Re 1), Mumsnet is one of the very few places on the internet where lots of people openly agree that men absolutely cannot become women.

NorthernJim · 15/06/2026 14:21

Yabu - not everyone has to have the exact same thoughts and opinions as you. Except in 1984. The things that you've stated appear to be the minority viewpoint on mn.

Muffsies · 15/06/2026 14:16

Blimms · 15/06/2026 13:39

OP, I’m not sure if you missed my message earlier. Can you point me in direction of a thread or post on MN where the person actually believes someone can change their sex?

There are plenty of people (although they are a minority on MN) that believe a man can choose to live as a woman - not genetically change into one (i've never heard that). Problem is, people just hear "a man can become a woman!" And flip their shit.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 15/06/2026 14:14

I find it really strange when people don't realise that

  1. People on MN also exist in real life.
  2. You are more likely to get people's true thoughts when they are posting anonymously, rather than asking your friends and family
But
  1. MN is full of fantasists and trolls.

Best not to take anything at face value, either claiming "nobody irl thinks like MNers" or "MN is representative of people in general."

Blimms · 15/06/2026 14:11

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:51

when people react angrily, I just assume I've touched a nerve and they somewho took a general comment as a personal attack - as most angry posters on here seem to do 😂

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Or maybe sometimes poster like me have fat fingers and end up quoting the wrong post! 😆

Muffsies · 15/06/2026 14:09

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:51

when people react angrily, I just assume I've touched a nerve and they somewho took a general comment as a personal attack - as most angry posters on here seem to do 😂

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Yes people often do that, they take a comment personally like it's aimed at them. Some people are just fragile and don't like feeling like they've been told they're wrong.

But.. in some cases there are people who feel very passionately about something they have lived experience of, and maybe they've been told they're wrong all their lives, or they're still getting over something traumatic.. hitting a nerve could be an understatement. We've all seen this happen in real life, i'm sure.

TheLoneliestSnail · 15/06/2026 14:04

Fillies4DeclanRice · 15/06/2026 12:25

You think men can become women??

Holy moly!!

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I didn’t say that. I meant OP was wrong that these are popular opinions on here.

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:51

Shinyhappyapple · 15/06/2026 13:49

I agree with you and I have no idea why you got such a passive aggressive comment.

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when people react angrily, I just assume I've touched a nerve and they somewho took a general comment as a personal attack - as most angry posters on here seem to do 😂

Shinyhappyapple · 15/06/2026 13:49

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:09

do you honestly. meet people as angry and bitter in real life? I sure don't!

I am not surrounded by women who hate men, or even treat them as a different species, and people love holidays and parties. People in real life are too busy living to have time to be that angry, or scared to death about anything and everything.

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I agree with you and I have no idea why you got such a passive aggressive comment.

Shinyhappyapple · 15/06/2026 13:46

Dollymylove · 15/06/2026 13:06

All boomers are stinking rich

Now I agree that does seem to be a popular opinion on here! I’m guessing you are one of the majority who are just getting by and have never been in a position of power to be held to blame for the state the country is in or the process of property!

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Blimms · 15/06/2026 13:39

OP, I’m not sure if you missed my message earlier. Can you point me in direction of a thread or post on MN where the person actually believes someone can change their sex?

Original poster
coulditbeme2323 · 15/06/2026 13:38

CoffeeCantata · 15/06/2026 13:37

Or are they just incredibly vocal?

I tend to find minorities always punch way about their weight in terms of being vociferous.

For eg, I had no idea that trans people only made up 0.1% of the population. My God! They make one hell of a racket considering what a tiny minority they apparently are.

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True

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Muffsies · 15/06/2026 13:37

ShutupLwren · 15/06/2026 13:34

When I become a billionaire, or maybe even trillionaire and become one of the most evil things on the planet, I’m going to get Mumsnet to choose me the most phenomenal holiday homes. That’s where Mumsnet really comes into its own, very well travelled women who know their destinations. Since I have the finances currently to sleep on the bench in my garden for some variety, my house hunting is on hold, but if you were to say to Mumsnetters, please find me this brief, they’d nail it. I’ve so much faith in this.

This is so true, the 'hive mind' can be extremely knowledgeable, experienced and helpful (people love being those things - more than they love being oppinionated in debates and arguements).

CoffeeCantata · 15/06/2026 13:37

coulditbeme2323 · 15/06/2026 12:16

Oh quite a few do!

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Or are they just incredibly vocal?

I tend to find minorities always punch way about their weight in terms of being vociferous.

For eg, I had no idea that trans people only made up 0.1% of the population. My God! They make one hell of a racket considering what a tiny minority they apparently are.

Original poster
coulditbeme2323 · 15/06/2026 13:36

MrsShawnHatosy · 15/06/2026 13:36

Shower gel doesn’t get you properly clean.

And that sort of ties in to, "showering once a week is normal"

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MrsShawnHatosy · 15/06/2026 13:36

Shower gel doesn’t get you properly clean.

ShutupLwren · 15/06/2026 13:34

When I become a billionaire, or maybe even trillionaire and become one of the most evil things on the planet, I’m going to get Mumsnet to choose me the most phenomenal holiday homes. That’s where Mumsnet really comes into its own, very well travelled women who know their destinations. Since I have the finances currently to sleep on the bench in my garden for some variety, my house hunting is on hold, but if you were to say to Mumsnetters, please find me this brief, they’d nail it. I’ve so much faith in this.

Differentforgirls · 15/06/2026 13:29

Pollqueen · 15/06/2026 13:09

I believe this to be true as well. Literally every point you make, MN opinion is usually the opposite and I've never come across a poster who has drank the Trans coolaid

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Hi! 👋

Shinyhappyapple · 15/06/2026 13:29

Fillies4DeclanRice · 15/06/2026 12:25

You think men can become women??

Holy moly!!

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Eh? This poster was saying that the OP has got it wrong on MN opinion on this. Most MNers don’t think this at all (unless they keep their thoughts to themselves). Think you’ve misread.

Muffsies · 15/06/2026 13:28

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:22

true, in real life, it would be "controlling old bitch"

I dont' really hear the word witch in that context in real life.

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I'm reclaiming the word witch. I'm starting by growing witch hair by not getting haircuts.

happygreenscissors · 15/06/2026 13:28

Blimms · 15/06/2026 13:26

You should probably change the circles you move in if people are referring to women as ‘controlling old bitches’

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not "women"

just the ONE woman who is a "controlling old bitch" if there's one in their life 😂
Sadly, many MIL are an absolute nightmare, what can I do.