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AIBU to think banning social media for under-16s is a good idea?

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LizardLore · 15/06/2026 08:18

Just being announced now - social media banned for under-16s.

My instinct is it’s great, but I am interested in other views. My kids are very small so not an issue here yet.

YABU - the ban is bad
YANBU - the ban is good

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Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 10:14

It won’t work. Teenagers are ingenious at finding the work around.

Starmer is just desperate to find something he can anchor himself to re his legacy.

LizardLore · 16/06/2026 10:11

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 09:50

No, it sadly isn’t average. But it illustrates that taking it away will literally only damage the kids who obey the rules - the others will still access whatever.
So it is a completely useless but highly populistic thing to do. Literally a policy put in place to look good, while knowing it will change absolutely nothing. A bit like saying they would hire 1000s of teachers (but never fid do), and just manifesting that SENDs kids are fine in mainstream (they are not).
Mind you, i completely agree with a total ban on facebook, tiktok, instagram etc!

What do you think about the arguments people here have made that it will make it easier to shut down requests for social media from their kids? “Everyone’s got it!” “No they havent, it’s against the law.”

That is a situation I can see being easier for parents if the law is on our side.

I think focusing on the very specific and unusual case of the 9-year-old boy who only watches wholesome and educational youtube videos is a bit myopic tbh. Isn’t it more about social media more widely, and about the knock-on effect of the cultural change on children too young to have any social media at all yet?

I find it hard to believe it will make absolutely no difference in the long term.

(As an aside, kids will still be able to watch wholesome youtube content I’m pretty sure, just logged out)

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SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 10:07

elliejjtiny · 16/06/2026 09:40

Thanks, I didn't realise that. I thought it was just a blanket ban on all YouTube videos.

Sadly, there is a huge amount of disinformation flying around. The government has said that it will follow the Australian model which you can read about here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwyp9d3ddqyo

A circle of young people from the shoulders down holding a smartphones in multicoloured cases

How does Australia's under-16 social media ban work?

The world-first law aims to reduce the risks children face online.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cwyp9d3ddqyo

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 09:50

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:38

You do realise this is not a normal 9 year old YouTube video content history and your post smacks of middle class privilege devoid of any thought of the huge number of children viewing hugely damaging material. My child’s fine and dandy in his MC bubble f*k the rest of them.

No, it sadly isn’t average. But it illustrates that taking it away will literally only damage the kids who obey the rules - the others will still access whatever.
So it is a completely useless but highly populistic thing to do. Literally a policy put in place to look good, while knowing it will change absolutely nothing. A bit like saying they would hire 1000s of teachers (but never fid do), and just manifesting that SENDs kids are fine in mainstream (they are not).
Mind you, i completely agree with a total ban on facebook, tiktok, instagram etc!

elliejjtiny · 16/06/2026 09:40

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 08:11

They will still be able to use YouTube. The social media companies will simply be banned from offering accounts to under-16s.

Thanks, I didn't realise that. I thought it was just a blanket ban on all YouTube videos.

Needmorelego · 16/06/2026 09:38

Lifewontbethesame · 16/06/2026 08:53

Well at least we won't have the likes of Victoria Beckham prostituting their children all over social media, setting them up with 'brands' at the age of 14 and trying to sell us shit we don't need, or worse praying on young girls insecurities and trying to sell them crap they don't need.
Win

Isn't that just advertising.
You get that on telly.

Needmorelego · 16/06/2026 09:37

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:43

It’s so easy to slip through and they only need to see something once for it to be deeply traumatising. My son was showed a beheading on the school bus. Parents can not keep ahead of every site and continuously go through history day in and day out. Most are working full time.

Ok you can't control what your children see on other people's gadgets.
That is a difficult situation.
But that's happened since back in the days of 18 certificate horror VHS videos and top shelf porn magazines. One kid gets hold of some and invites mates around to show them.
What did parents do if they found out? Stop letting their children go to that's child's house.
(I'm not sure what working full time has to do with it).

Jellycatspyjamas · 16/06/2026 09:16

LBuLisa · 15/06/2026 19:58

I agree with it. My daughter is starting secondary school and they’re banning smartphones on site. I understand this too but how can I track her as been using life360 on her iPhone. All us mums been talking about brick phones but how do we track. Apple tags only locate reliably if nearby a smartphone!!!!

Why do you need to track? Kids have been going to school untracked for decades before phones.

EasternStandard · 16/06/2026 09:11

Lifewontbethesame · 16/06/2026 08:53

Well at least we won't have the likes of Victoria Beckham prostituting their children all over social media, setting them up with 'brands' at the age of 14 and trying to sell us shit we don't need, or worse praying on young girls insecurities and trying to sell them crap they don't need.
Win

Is that going to be impacted?

Lifewontbethesame · 16/06/2026 08:53

Well at least we won't have the likes of Victoria Beckham prostituting their children all over social media, setting them up with 'brands' at the age of 14 and trying to sell us shit we don't need, or worse praying on young girls insecurities and trying to sell them crap they don't need.
Win

ArabellaScott · 16/06/2026 08:47

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:38

You do realise this is not a normal 9 year old YouTube video content history and your post smacks of middle class privilege devoid of any thought of the huge number of children viewing hugely damaging material. My child’s fine and dandy in his MC bubble f*k the rest of them.

Don't be ridiculous.

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:46

The behaviour my dc experienced on sleepovers is deeply concerning too. Girls talking to paedos as a joke and men exposing themselves to them. My daughter experienced this in a very naice friend’s house.Parents think they have it sorted, they haven’t.

definitelybothered · 16/06/2026 08:46

I think it’s the correct thing to do though I’m not sure how it will be enforced. I think it’s about 20 years too late though, and I think the age should be 18.

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:43

Needmorelego · 16/06/2026 08:40

Why are these children watching "hugely damaging material" though?
Who is letting them?
Their parents presumably.

It’s so easy to slip through and they only need to see something once for it to be deeply traumatising. My son was showed a beheading on the school bus. Parents can not keep ahead of every site and continuously go through history day in and day out. Most are working full time.

Needmorelego · 16/06/2026 08:40

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:38

You do realise this is not a normal 9 year old YouTube video content history and your post smacks of middle class privilege devoid of any thought of the huge number of children viewing hugely damaging material. My child’s fine and dandy in his MC bubble f*k the rest of them.

Why are these children watching "hugely damaging material" though?
Who is letting them?
Their parents presumably.

K0hlrabi · 16/06/2026 08:38

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:08

I just looked through my 9 year olds youtube videos watched the last month (we have locked things down)

  • Royal Ballet (loads of it)
  • English national ballet
  • Corbett maths
  • chess programs
  • national geographic (loads)
  • 2 minecraft videos on how to build a rollercoaster
All free for him to watch. We don’t need a blanket ban on youtube, we need proper controls that allow them to access educational stuff but not the crap. I completely agree in tiktok etc, but youtube just needs decent controls, a blanket ban is doing more damage than good

You do realise this is not a normal 9 year old YouTube video content history and your post smacks of middle class privilege devoid of any thought of the huge number of children viewing hugely damaging material. My child’s fine and dandy in his MC bubble f*k the rest of them.

Needmorelego · 16/06/2026 08:37

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:16

@SadiraOfTyr let’s hope so. But if it will indeed be banned for under 16s, they’ll have to introduce mandatory age verification, which means no account - no access

Don't most children that watch YouTube etc just use their parents accounts anyway.
Who pays for the WiFi? Parents.
Who pays for a TV licence if watching TV/iPlayer? Parents.
Who pays the phone bills and packages? Parents.
I mean my daughter has her own email address (she's 18 now but had it for a few years) but the Google account is mine.

ArabellaScott · 16/06/2026 08:33

Changingplace · 16/06/2026 08:19

And if YouTube get themselves organised so their content is organised into age appropriate categories then that’s entirely possible, at the moment the issue is there’s nothing but a few clicks between those videos and some really disturbing content.

Youtube has age controls and filters. They have parental control accounts and a separate account for younger children.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 08:25

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:16

@SadiraOfTyr let’s hope so. But if it will indeed be banned for under 16s, they’ll have to introduce mandatory age verification, which means no account - no access

This doesn’t happen with the current age limit of 13. Why do you think it will happen with the age limit being raised to 16?

Changingplace · 16/06/2026 08:19

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:08

I just looked through my 9 year olds youtube videos watched the last month (we have locked things down)

  • Royal Ballet (loads of it)
  • English national ballet
  • Corbett maths
  • chess programs
  • national geographic (loads)
  • 2 minecraft videos on how to build a rollercoaster
All free for him to watch. We don’t need a blanket ban on youtube, we need proper controls that allow them to access educational stuff but not the crap. I completely agree in tiktok etc, but youtube just needs decent controls, a blanket ban is doing more damage than good

And if YouTube get themselves organised so their content is organised into age appropriate categories then that’s entirely possible, at the moment the issue is there’s nothing but a few clicks between those videos and some really disturbing content.

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:16

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 08:12

He’ll still be able to watch all of this. He just won’t be able to have an account. You can watch YouTube without an account.

@SadiraOfTyr let’s hope so. But if it will indeed be banned for under 16s, they’ll have to introduce mandatory age verification, which means no account - no access

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 08:12

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:08

I just looked through my 9 year olds youtube videos watched the last month (we have locked things down)

  • Royal Ballet (loads of it)
  • English national ballet
  • Corbett maths
  • chess programs
  • national geographic (loads)
  • 2 minecraft videos on how to build a rollercoaster
All free for him to watch. We don’t need a blanket ban on youtube, we need proper controls that allow them to access educational stuff but not the crap. I completely agree in tiktok etc, but youtube just needs decent controls, a blanket ban is doing more damage than good

He’ll still be able to watch all of this. He just won’t be able to have an account. You can watch YouTube without an account.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 08:11

elliejjtiny · 15/06/2026 21:14

I'm on the fence. My 15 year old uses you tube but none of the other sites on the list. But he will be 16 by the time the ban comes in anyway. My 13 year old who has learning disabilities is going to struggle as he uses YouTube videos a lot to do things like cooking etc as he finds reading instructions difficult. My 12 year old doesn't watch YouTube anyway.

They will still be able to use YouTube. The social media companies will simply be banned from offering accounts to under-16s.

herewegoagainonwednesday · 16/06/2026 08:08

I just looked through my 9 year olds youtube videos watched the last month (we have locked things down)

  • Royal Ballet (loads of it)
  • English national ballet
  • Corbett maths
  • chess programs
  • national geographic (loads)
  • 2 minecraft videos on how to build a rollercoaster
All free for him to watch. We don’t need a blanket ban on youtube, we need proper controls that allow them to access educational stuff but not the crap. I completely agree in tiktok etc, but youtube just needs decent controls, a blanket ban is doing more damage than good
Changingplace · 16/06/2026 06:57

Kickinthenostalgia · 15/06/2026 18:09

All I’m saying is it shouldn’t be the government telling us what to do, they are our kids. my daughter is almost 14, she has some of the SM platforms which are very well policed by me, she has spot checks, she’s not allowed to be on her phone in her room after 9.30. Tbh 90% of the time when it kicks off on one of her what’s app groups she comes to tell me the gossip anyway, and her best friend always gives me the low down too. Thankfully my daughter has a good group of friends and they are always bigging each other up on any posts, not tearing each other down. Shes never behind on homework. And she has a better social life than me, she’s off out on about 10 different trips/parties and gatherings in the next month. Not everyone’s kids are addicted to social media or the phones.

The government already tells you how to parent your child in loads of ways.

Alcohol rules, tobacco, age restrictions on driving, classifications on films, the 9pm tv watershed, age of consent for sex, getting married, joining the army or police, gambling laws.

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