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AIBU to think banning social media for under-16s is a good idea?

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LizardLore · 15/06/2026 08:18

Just being announced now - social media banned for under-16s.

My instinct is it’s great, but I am interested in other views. My kids are very small so not an issue here yet.

YABU - the ban is bad
YANBU - the ban is good

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K0hlrabi · 18/06/2026 06:55

Dbank · 17/06/2026 11:55

I agree, adding Social Media to the list sounds fairly innocuous, but it's the impact on other users that concerns me.

Any adult who wishes to continue to access SM on the restricted list, will have to do an age check that will include personal information that identifies you, and according to the AI and Technology minister may include having to share your passport details.

Are you prepared to share this data with companies that have repeatedly been fined hundreds of millions of pounds for breaches to personal data protection legislation?

I’m staggered this isn’t happening already and that you’d prefer to throw vulnerable children under the bus to protect adults!

Changingplace · 18/06/2026 06:42

TheNaturalBronde · 17/06/2026 22:23

Just a thought, would this mean mea. Having a family photo of your children would be illegal under the new laws?

No, I think you should read up on what’s being proposed because this isn’t anything to do with it.

It’s concerning under 16s accessing social media content, not family photos including under 16s.

Anon501178 · 18/06/2026 04:15

LizardLore · 15/06/2026 08:40

All really interesting points. Agree kids will get around it - but they also do with drinking, vapes, smoking and we still ban those things to create a social norm (actually Starmer made a point like this in his speech that I’m somewhat paraphrasing).

I see whatsapp as not too dissimilar to things like MSN Messenger which I used as a teen to chat to friends. As you say, so long as it’s people they actually know and they’re not posting out to the world it’s not such a concern - but where does one draw that line?

Reddit is a bit of a grey area as it’s technically anonymous but many people do still post photos of themselves on it and share personal information. And of course it’s an outrageous time suck (just like Mumsnet!).

I lived on MSN messenger at 15/16! 😍 I remember the little butterfly fluttering as it loaded.
I did get chatting to some random boy on there though who seemed abit dodgy- my mum looked through my messages behind my back and I was mortified, although now as a parent i'd do the same for my kids if I had to.

AcidReflux3 · 17/06/2026 22:51

i think it's a good idea. i'd also support banning smart phones in schools. and i'd like schools to backtrack on the massive, aggressive expansion of iPads in classes too - we all talk about screen time concerns, but my daughter's school is the one teaching PE from YouTube, music lessons from YouTube, they've even had drawing lessons on YouTube - it's gone completely over the top. when i asked the school what apps my 5 year old had been signed up to exactly, i got a list of 11 they could confirm.. but she's mentioned 3 more on top! Including using AI tools to generate images during class time! This is in the Scottish Borders Council area.

This seems to be "normal" in the council schools where I am, but I'm appalled at what's happening. I'm not from here originally. my local council has brushed off concerns from a number of parents that i've heard have complained, now i've started to pay more attention to what's happening.

THAT is an equally big problem to tackle alongside the problems with kids being glued to their smartphones and bullied on social media. if i can't control what's happening during school hours, what chance have parents got outside of that??

TheNaturalBronde · 17/06/2026 22:23

Just a thought, would this mean mea. Having a family photo of your children would be illegal under the new laws?

FlappyDappyDoo · 17/06/2026 14:56

Lifewontbethesame · 16/06/2026 08:53

Well at least we won't have the likes of Victoria Beckham prostituting their children all over social media, setting them up with 'brands' at the age of 14 and trying to sell us shit we don't need, or worse praying on young girls insecurities and trying to sell them crap they don't need.
Win

This will not stop VB putting her daughter into the media spotlight via SM.

Why are so many people clueless about what is being proposed?

FlappyDappyDoo · 17/06/2026 14:55

Changingplace · 16/06/2026 06:57

The government already tells you how to parent your child in loads of ways.

Alcohol rules, tobacco, age restrictions on driving, classifications on films, the 9pm tv watershed, age of consent for sex, getting married, joining the army or police, gambling laws.

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You are missing the point.

None of those restrictions make it necessary for UK adults to subsribe to digital ID and to share this ID with any social media platform they want to access.

The reason for the backlash is because this is about Digital ID through the back door using child 'mental health' as an excuse to push it through.

Dbank · 17/06/2026 11:55

Changingplace · 17/06/2026 06:17

The state has lots of laws around the appropriate age for all kinds of things, age restrictions on films, alcohol, gambling, driving, voting, smoking - this is no different.

I agree, adding Social Media to the list sounds fairly innocuous, but it's the impact on other users that concerns me.

Any adult who wishes to continue to access SM on the restricted list, will have to do an age check that will include personal information that identifies you, and according to the AI and Technology minister may include having to share your passport details.

Are you prepared to share this data with companies that have repeatedly been fined hundreds of millions of pounds for breaches to personal data protection legislation?

Ferro · 17/06/2026 09:18

fanOfBen · 15/06/2026 08:45

LizardLore Mumsnet hadn't occurred to me. Suppose we had an influx of children here, as it was one of the few places they could still gather. What could possibly go wrong, lol?

Can’t really see kids being interested in the things people talk about here.

But they could learn that adults also have problems, some adults are less mature than themselves, and how to make one chicken feed a family for a week.

ChubbyPuffling · 17/06/2026 08:41

Bolloxtoitall · 17/06/2026 06:52

I personally would be focussed on only allowing under 16s to have a very basic phone that couldn’t link to the internet.

I would not.

My teens ( now early 20s) have/had active social lives and I think smart phones were very useful.

We had large reductions in bus ticket prices if you use the app. And as theyhad to get a couple of buses each way, that was very handy. They used their phones to open lockers at karate class and at swimming at the gym. Maps and transport apps to get around - especially when stuff changes , cancelled trains etc. Tickets for just about anything, paying for stuff, loyalty discounts, booking a haircut, so much easier using an app.

No social media does not mean no smart phone.

Changingplace · 17/06/2026 08:27

Bolloxtoitall · 17/06/2026 06:54

Then internet could be managed by parents in the home with appropriate filters and school etc

If that were possible it would happen now, there’s plenty of filters available and most social media is supposed to be 13+ and younger kids are still accessing inappropriate content.

I think a lot of adults even don’t understand how algorithms work and how quickly on social media you can end up being fed some very dark stuff without actually trying.

Bolloxtoitall · 17/06/2026 06:54

Then internet could be managed by parents in the home with appropriate filters and school etc

Bolloxtoitall · 17/06/2026 06:52

I personally would be focussed on only allowing under 16s to have a very basic phone that couldn’t link to the internet.

Changingplace · 17/06/2026 06:20

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 10:14

It won’t work. Teenagers are ingenious at finding the work around.

Starmer is just desperate to find something he can anchor himself to re his legacy.

Some kids will smoke & drink alcohol when though they shouldn’t too, but we will have laws in place because it’s the right thing to do.

Changingplace · 17/06/2026 06:17

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:28

I just think this is about responsible parenting and the state should stay out.

I feel this is more of an agenda re gleaning more information on adult individuals as it will be impossible to enforce and a waste of time.

The state has lots of laws around the appropriate age for all kinds of things, age restrictions on films, alcohol, gambling, driving, voting, smoking - this is no different.

Dbank · 16/06/2026 20:08

Newsnight (15.6.2026, 7' 10'') AI and Online Safety Minister (Kanishka Narayan) has confirmed you may have to use your Passport to access Social Media.

What could possibly go wrong?

EasternStandard · 16/06/2026 12:42

ChubbyPuffling · 16/06/2026 12:39

Lol if only it was the government dealing with data. The whole uprising on digital ID was due to data gathering and handling being thrown open to the lowest bidder... and most of those in the race had severely breached.

Anyhow... my 2 (now uni) ran with their "Nerd Herd" of techies. Their playground value/popularity would be through the roof.

Watch out for the little-geek takeover.

Yep. Data is hugely valuable these days. The gov / state getting hold of it is no exception.

ChubbyPuffling · 16/06/2026 12:39

LizardLore · 16/06/2026 12:29

Looking around you, does it feel like the majority of parents are handling social media use responsibly? If they aren’t, why did you think they are suddenly going to start, unless the state does get involved?

As I’ve said elsewhere in the thread I do take on board the point about data collection and the possible issues there. I will be interested to see how the age verification is managed in practice.

I think, being honest though, normalising no social media for kids is such a huge social good that I don’t necessarily mind having to share personal data to achieve it - especially since most of that data is already out there.

If the data is going to the government - well they already have my date of birth, address, national insurance number and possibly my face due to services like HMRC etc.

Apple presumably have my face as well as all the above since I have facial recognition to unlock my phone.

I understand that is just my case and others may have more successfully protected their personal data. But isn’t that really hard to achieve in this day and age?

Lol if only it was the government dealing with data. The whole uprising on digital ID was due to data gathering and handling being thrown open to the lowest bidder... and most of those in the race had severely breached.

Anyhow... my 2 (now uni) ran with their "Nerd Herd" of techies. Their playground value/popularity would be through the roof.

Watch out for the little-geek takeover.

LizardLore · 16/06/2026 12:29

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:28

I just think this is about responsible parenting and the state should stay out.

I feel this is more of an agenda re gleaning more information on adult individuals as it will be impossible to enforce and a waste of time.

Looking around you, does it feel like the majority of parents are handling social media use responsibly? If they aren’t, why did you think they are suddenly going to start, unless the state does get involved?

As I’ve said elsewhere in the thread I do take on board the point about data collection and the possible issues there. I will be interested to see how the age verification is managed in practice.

I think, being honest though, normalising no social media for kids is such a huge social good that I don’t necessarily mind having to share personal data to achieve it - especially since most of that data is already out there.

If the data is going to the government - well they already have my date of birth, address, national insurance number and possibly my face due to services like HMRC etc.

Apple presumably have my face as well as all the above since I have facial recognition to unlock my phone.

I understand that is just my case and others may have more successfully protected their personal data. But isn’t that really hard to achieve in this day and age?

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SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 12:15

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:38

I don’t think they should get a free pass.

So what regulations should be imposed on them to protect children (in the same way that other industries have regulations to protect children)?

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:38

I don’t think they should get a free pass.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:35

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:28

I just think this is about responsible parenting and the state should stay out.

I feel this is more of an agenda re gleaning more information on adult individuals as it will be impossible to enforce and a waste of time.

Do you not think that it is the government's job to impose a duty to act responsibly on social media companies? They do it on plenty of other industry sectors: food, alcohol, tobacco, tools (sharps and glue), films and DVDs (age rating). Why do you think social media companies should get a free pass?

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 11:28

I just think this is about responsible parenting and the state should stay out.

I feel this is more of an agenda re gleaning more information on adult individuals as it will be impossible to enforce and a waste of time.

SadiraOfTyr · 16/06/2026 11:25

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 10:14

It won’t work. Teenagers are ingenious at finding the work around.

Starmer is just desperate to find something he can anchor himself to re his legacy.

Some will find workarounds, some will have parents who enable them to set up accounts with fake ages (as they do on TikTok now). So what? Lots of people drop litter, should we abandon litter laws simply because not everyone abides by them.

LizardLore · 16/06/2026 10:18

Bolloxtoitall · 16/06/2026 10:14

It won’t work. Teenagers are ingenious at finding the work around.

Starmer is just desperate to find something he can anchor himself to re his legacy.

I agree it probably won’t work for current teens who are all already on SM and highly incentivised to find a workaround since all their peers are on there.

But for younger kids, who are still to reach the usual age of having SM - don’t you think it will make a difference to have the default position be that none of them and their peers have it?

Of course some will find workarounds, some will have parents who don’t care about the law. But that will not be the starting position.

I think there is more to be done, for sure. Hopefully this is just the start of a more thoughtful and effective approach. But I just cannot see how thinking some kids will get around it is a reason not to do it?

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