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AIBU to feel resentful about work, money and commuting in my 50s?

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Highnone · 15/06/2026 08:17

I’m early 50’s and I am really starting to find my long commute and stressful job a lot harder than I did 5 years ago - I’m physically so exhausted most of the time.
This is compounded by not feeling the financial benefits I thought I would at this stage of my career. My children are finishing exams and I’d love to take them away for a few days as a treat. But there just isn’t the spare money to do this - everything costs so much!
How do I move on from feeling resentful and how can I keep going for another 10 years!

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Highnone · 15/06/2026 08:27

It’s a good question. I’m on HRT, which has helped me but it’s likely my mood is still impacted. I have so many good friends who are starting to wind down or have continued to work part time and if I am honest I envy their set up so much!

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AccidentallyOnTrend · 15/06/2026 08:22

This might feel left-field but how are your peri- or menopausal symptoms being managed? I ask because I felt low, resentful and tired of everything before I got HRT. Sending you Flowers for what I can hear is a busy time.

Highnone · 15/06/2026 08:22

Ideally in the future yes, I’m in the NHS and at my level there are very few roles - especially with the most recent structural changes. I’m the main earner so I need to maintain my salary. This is where the trap is.

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PurpleCoo · 15/06/2026 08:22

Sounds like you need to find another job that is closer and less stressful

AnneLovesGilbert · 15/06/2026 08:18

Can you look for a different job that’s closer or remote, depending on your industry?