I’m not going to daughters prom

One of my kids went in a limo hired with friends, the other i dropped off and left, as did all their mates parents - try not to see it as a big deal, youll be there to help her get ready and take pictures of her, that you and she can look back on. I really doubt the grandparents will be allowed to stay beyond watching them go in anyway. Think of all the lovely times youve shared, and will share, with the DD you've raised, have a chilled evening doing something you enjoy, be kind to yourself and just let it go

How can your parents be so included in your own daughter's life if you don't even speak with them?

I didnt go with my son. Him and his mates decided it was all too commercialised and met up and walked there together! In the end, the idea took off, and there were about 15 of them, mainly lads but some girls, and all with parents pleased they didnt have to pay big bucks for cars. Living in a small town with a prom in the local hotel, all of this was easy for them to do.

Apparantly they had a great arrival and reception - but I was barred from going as it would ruin their independent vibe!

At our school it’s very common for parents to stand outside the venue, it’s mainly just to see all the weird and wonderful vehicles kids arrive in and the different outfits everyone is wearing. Takes about an hour for everyone to arrive, there’s usually a massive procession of cars, and the school take photos as everyone is getting out. When the students are allowed into the venue then parents leave.

Does your DD want her GP's to be there?

I have nothing to do with them due to being treated badly as a child really badly. We don’t speak I had to cut them off for my own mental health. They have always spoilt my daughter and and undermined me

How do they have a relationship with your dd?
Does your dd know about them and why you are nc?

Yanbu BTW...

Gosh none of us parents went to our kids proms. For my son a relative of his GF had a fleet of cool cars and they took them all from the pre party. For my DD one of the parents hired a vintage car to take her and four friends.
As her grandparents are going there’s no need for you to go. Good that you are prioritising the day for your daughter.

Lorelai Gilmore, is that you?

That sounds really tough if that's the expected thing in your area. I thought parents generally took photo before they left home and they went with their friends/boyfriend?

How come your parents are going?

How does your DD feel about this? I completely get your reasons for not going, but does she understand? You are in an impossible position really- she may feel sad you aren't going, but also respect that you don't want any drama to take away from her special event

It's a weird idea anyway, following children around.

It's more common for photos to be taken at home, outside the home and in front of the posh transport.