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AIBU to say I cannot keep lifting my mum’s chair?

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Elphabayo · 14/06/2026 16:11

My mum had a fall 3 years ago and had a broken hip also diabetes and heart issues
she brought a chair to be go out however it is down to me her only child to lift the chair in and out of everywhere and I hate it. It’s so heavy I have severe shoulder pain each time it rips my clothes and gets mud all over them I feel I cannot do it anymore but if I don’t her life is even more limited than it is.

OP posts:
coronafiona · 14/06/2026 16:17

Get a scooter? Presume you are taking about a wheelchair.

Shinyandnew1 · 14/06/2026 16:16

I think there are some words missing on your post. Do you mean a wheelchair?

If it’s a heavy one-tell her that it’s not possible for you to use it. People are often giving away lightweight ones on local freecycle type pages here.

Arlanymor · 14/06/2026 16:16

Have you been in touch with any disability charities to see if they could offer support with a more appropriate mobility device that is lighter and more portable, which still meets her and your needs?

Brideofclover · 14/06/2026 16:16

Does she have an occupational therapist or someone you can talk to about something easier?
Sadly you’re going to get to a point where you won’t be physically able to do it whether you want to or not as you’re heading for an injury.
where did she get the original chair from?
would she get on with one of the walkers that has a seat built into it???

SnappyUmberLion · 14/06/2026 16:13

A wheelchair?