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AIBU to think this intimidating house buying letter should be reported to police?

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Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

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2O26 · 16/06/2026 00:37

This reminds me of similar scams in the USA. Scammers pose as "foreclosure specialists" to approach people behind on their mortgage payments, offering a way to save their homes. They trick owners into signing complex paperwork disguised as financial assistance, when in reality, the owner is signing their property over to a shell company for a fraction of its value. Another scam is real estate agents aggressively target older or financially vulnerable Black homeowners with cash offers. By using high-pressure tactics and manipulation, these agents convince owners the property is worth less, buy it for a lowball price, and quickly resell it for a massive profit.

ThesebeautifulthingsthatIvegot · 16/06/2026 00:26

Fillies4DeclanRice · 14/06/2026 15:27

It's disgusting.

There's huge incentives for landlords for big homes to turn them into HMOs .. they get significantly more income, which is of course all paid for by the taxpayer.

This man who wrote the letter knows this and is probably contacting all the elderly owners of all large properties in the area.

How is it paid by the taxpayer? My tax definitely doesn't go to subsidizing landlords. In fact, landlords pay tax on rent. We may not like HMOs, but surely they are helpful for the tax budget.

Genuinely happy to be corrected if I'm wrong here.

WearyAuldWumman · 16/06/2026 00:18

Waterbaby41 · 16/06/2026 00:09

What is intimidating about that letter?

Telling them that their house is too big for them and that the sender of the house will be coming round to their house at a particular time - not a request, but telling them that they're coming

Waterbaby41 · 16/06/2026 00:09

What is intimidating about that letter?

Ladamesansmerci · 16/06/2026 00:00

I would personally just go over at 11am on the day someone is meant to come and make sure they are alright. If also report it to 101. They won't do anything, but it could quite easily be a scam, and it's good for there to be a paper trial in case lots of people are being targeted. These fuckers always go for the elderly and people who have things like dementia. It doesn't do any harm to try and safeguard your neighbours a bit.

ClairDeLaLune · 15/06/2026 23:49

Whoever sent the letter is committing a GDPR breach by using the elderly couple’s data in a way that they haven’t agreed to. They could report the, to the ICO (Information Commissioner’s Office). I think they should tell the police too and say they feel intimidated.

cookbookjunkie · 15/06/2026 23:24

I really don't think the police will be interested. No crime has been committed. This potential purchaser is obviously trawling land registry and the electoral register and making speculative enquiries to try to cut out the middle man and get good deals from elderly or vulnerable owners before their houses hit the market the usual way.

They can let the bloke turn up and either answer the door, or not. Their call. If they don't feel comfortable with just ignoring him or telling him to sling his hook themselves, then they should ask a relative or neighbour to be there to offer support and deal with it for them.

Bumcake · 15/06/2026 23:15

How old are this elderly couple?

LeftieRightsHoarder · 15/06/2026 23:03

FeliciaFancybottom · 14/06/2026 15:52

People are always being encouraged on MN to pop a note through the door if they see a house they'd like to buy. It's just a variation of that isn't it?

NO. There's a big difference between a note saying "If you're interested in selling, I'm interested in buying" and a note telling you that your house is too big for you (bloody cheek!) and the writer is coming round at a stated time to offer you less than the going rate. I can see why these elderly people are frightened.

OP, I hope you or the police can ensure there's someone with them when this CF comes to call.

AngelRoja · 15/06/2026 22:51

JHound · 15/06/2026 22:48

What does that have to do with being
elderly and vulnerable? If I received that letter I would ignore it.

I would have thought that it was obvious that the whole point of the OPs post was their concern about two elderly people who were scared by the letter. It wasnt about what would a well informed confident person would do.

JHound · 15/06/2026 22:48

AngelRoja · 15/06/2026 20:07

That's not very "good neighbourly". We'll all be elderly and vulnerable one day.

What does that have to do with being
elderly and vulnerable? If I received that letter I would ignore it.

BaconAsparagus · 15/06/2026 22:30

MissConductUS · 14/06/2026 15:21

Agreed. They probably sent out lots of letters like this. If this person shows up, they can simply refuse to speak to him.

Agreed! Better still, dont even open the door when they knock!!

WilfredsPies · 15/06/2026 22:28

TY78910 · 15/06/2026 21:16

There are plenty of threads on here where posters will tell you it would be ageist to assume that every elderly person would feel that way.

🤦‍♀️ Yes, I know there are. And I’m well aware that some elderly people would be more than capable of seeing off some bullying scammer without needing any help or advice from anyone else.

But if you scroll right to the top of the thread and read the very first post, you’ll see that the OP’s friend has told her that they are frightened. So I think it’s pretty safe to assume that they are not the sort of elderly people who would be happy to tell impending caller to fuck right off.

Yokodoko · 15/06/2026 22:16

Blopi How is that intimidating 🤔 it’s an enquiry surely?

it’s very easy to get names, religion, DOB in fact anything.

Apopos · 15/06/2026 22:01

VividPinkTraybake · 14/06/2026 17:44

Honestly in what way is it intimidating?

Because they are telling them they are going to come around to their house uninvited to talk about purchasing their property. You might not find that intimidating, but I can understand how somebody could feel vulnerable in this situation. I find it hard to understand why you can’t see why somebody, although not you, might find that intimidating?

Londonrach1 · 15/06/2026 21:55

Please report the letter to the police

Fiona247 · 15/06/2026 21:47

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 21:31

The land registry is not complete.

Can people stop parroting this nonsense, please ?

As I said most properties are registered I didn’t say all. I still deal with some first registrations but as a paralegal dealing with the Land Registry for 40 plus years I am well aware of the position. What is worrying is those who dismiss facts. You can clarify what I have said with the Land Registry on 0300 006 0411 for the general public or use the attached link for further information https://www.gov.uk/government/organisations/land-registry/about/about-our-services

About our services

The range of services that HM Land Registry offers.

https://www.gov.uk/government/organisations/land-registry/about/about-our-services

2O26 · 15/06/2026 21:40

FrankieMcGrath · 15/06/2026 20:07

This (& apologies as I clicked YABU by accident!)

easy to change it. Just click on the one you want to select.

Apopos · 15/06/2026 21:37

TY78910 · 15/06/2026 21:16

There are plenty of threads on here where posters will tell you it would be ageist to assume that every elderly person would feel that way.

Luckily, the poster you’re responding to specifically didn’t say that all elderly people would feel that way

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 21:34

placemats · 15/06/2026 21:23

Who's laughing?

Some posters have suggested if this was reported to the Police, the Police would laugh at the people reporting.

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 21:31

Fiona247 · 15/06/2026 19:37

The Land Registry is open to the public and anyone in the world can log in and for £7 can get a copy of someone’s title if it is registered, which most properties are these days . The title will reveal the owner’s full names, how much they paid, what date they completed their purchase, if they have a mortgage and who the mortgage lender is etc which is how most developers get the information so nothing mysterious about how the information has been obtained. However it is unacceptable to suggest you are going to turn up on someone’s doorstep. Agents or other interested parties generally make a generic enquiry in the hope the owner might be interested in selling and wait for a response. My son is trying buy in a certain area and has letter dropped along preferred roads and many have responded politely saying they are not looking to sell and wished him well in his search but some have pointed him in the direction of someone who is and it will save paying estate agents, win win situation for both parties. Perhaps ensure someone is with the elderly couple at the time notified to circumvent any possible pressure on them.

The land registry is not complete.

Can people stop parroting this nonsense, please ?

placemats · 15/06/2026 21:23

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 21:17

I don’t know if the thread is real or not but if it is I hope the OP’s friend helps their neighbours to report to the Police non-emergency service and will report back whether they were laughed at or not.

Who's laughing?

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 21:17

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I don’t know if the thread is real or not but if it is I hope the OP’s friend helps their neighbours to report to the Police non-emergency service and will report back whether they were laughed at or not.

TY78910 · 15/06/2026 21:16

WilfredsPies · 15/06/2026 20:42

🤦‍♀️ The coldness with which you, and some others, are dismissing the fears of two elderly people is really quite something.

Yes, most of us know how easy it is to get someone’s personal details without having to either rummage through their rubbish or get the night vision goggles out. The point is that these two people don’t know. In addition to that, they’ve been told that their house is too big for them and a stranger will be banging on their door with a view to buying it from them for under market value. Of course that would be more intimidating than a cold call offering to sell them solar roof panels!

I think some of you are going to be in for a very nasty shock when you get to a similar age, because if you think we’re all going to be as strong and capable and rational and firm as we are now, and perfectly capable of either ignoring something or telling someone to fuck right off, you’re deluded. Hopefully the people around you will be a bit more sympathetic to your fears.

There are plenty of threads on here where posters will tell you it would be ageist to assume that every elderly person would feel that way.

YoBetty · 15/06/2026 21:12

NeverLookInTheMirror · 14/06/2026 15:30

Honestly the police will laugh them out of the door.

The amount of times people go on about “logging with 101” is hillarious.

The electoral role is a matter of public record. Estate agents do this stuff all the time, people selling stuff, politicians canvassing during the elections, I know at least two of our reform candidates wrote to me personally 😂.

What they do is bin the letter and think “what tossers.” Then carry on with their lives.

And did your electoral candidates tell you in a letter that they were coming round at x time on y day to try and intimidate you into voting for them?

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