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AIBU to think this intimidating house buying letter should be reported to police?

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Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

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hididdlyho · 14/06/2026 17:13

I'd assume from the letter that a simple 'no, I'm not interested' at the door on Thursday should put a stop to any further interactions. Details of names and occupants over those in the household over 18 are freely available on the electoral roll. Personally I'd always avoid companies using such over familiar and pushy sales tactics, but I appreciate it probably works for them enough times to make it worth their while to try.

Thebigonesgetaway · 14/06/2026 17:12

Striveforcompetence · 14/06/2026 15:28

Police should absolutely be there to help when vulnerable members of the community have been told that they’ll be getting a visit they don’t want to discuss something they don’t want to discuss. The police should absolutely be doing things like this within the community and I think we should be asking them to, so even if they don’t help, it is at least recorded that they have been asked for help by the community and haven’t provided it. Maybe it will bring change eventually and we will get community policing and support back.

You can’t be serious. You can be robbed and they won’t visit, no one is looking at you records of police didn’t help. We don’t have any money, irs all going to pay the increased benefits bill

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 17:06

BrazilBalls · 14/06/2026 17:02

I did this and I had an email from them saying someone was trying to put a charge on it. It definitely works

This is good advice.

ProfessorSlocombe · 14/06/2026 17:05

Tell the police what?

The starting point is that this letter clearly left the couple in a state of some distress. Whether or not that would be the same for everyone (there are clearly some posters here who are made of sterner stuff) is neither here nor there.

The fact the letter as described is not a circular, but targeted, already adds an element of intent to the situation. Someone, somewhere has clearly decided (and it's immaterial if it was automated) to send this correspondence.

So you are starting to gather the elements needed that could form a criminal charge. At that point it's always a good idea to excise the notion that what seems trivial is somehow under the threshold for action because it happens somewhere else.

Personally, I would call the non emergency number to at least made a record of the incident. It's highly unlikely to be isolated, and generally the property trade can get a little out of hand at times.

BrazilBalls · 14/06/2026 17:05

Fillies4DeclanRice · 14/06/2026 15:27

It's disgusting.

There's huge incentives for landlords for big homes to turn them into HMOs .. they get significantly more income, which is of course all paid for by the taxpayer.

This man who wrote the letter knows this and is probably contacting all the elderly owners of all large properties in the area.

Elderly neighbours need their children or grand children to be there to open the door to Mr CheekyFuckoir

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 17:04

ERthree · 14/06/2026 17:03

Happened to a friend of mine 2 days after her Husband died. She lived just outside Manchester, she had been in the house all her life and A letter was pushed through her door saying there company had someone interested in buying her house. When she ignored it she was harassed by the actual family that wanted to buy it. The lived 2 doors away and started turning up with bags of cash to entice her, then the car was damaged, plants pulled up etc. Police went and spoke to the family and put an end to it. Friend sold it in a private sale 2 years later.
I bet in this case there is no "company" it will be a neighbour.

Quite right too. They were being criminally harrassed.

ERthree · 14/06/2026 17:03

Happened to a friend of mine 2 days after her Husband died. She lived just outside Manchester, she had been in the house all her life and A letter was pushed through her door saying there company had someone interested in buying her house. When she ignored it she was harassed by the actual family that wanted to buy it. The lived 2 doors away and started turning up with bags of cash to entice her, then the car was damaged, plants pulled up etc. Police went and spoke to the family and put an end to it. Friend sold it in a private sale 2 years later.
I bet in this case there is no "company" it will be a neighbour.

BrazilBalls · 14/06/2026 17:02

PragmaticIsh · 14/06/2026 15:21

The owners would be wise to sign up to the Land Registry Alert Service, so they can be certain nobody is doing anything untoward with their property. Everyone should do this really!

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/property-alert

I did this and I had an email from them saying someone was trying to put a charge on it. It definitely works

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 17:02

OneThreadOnlybyN · 14/06/2026 16:50

They believe preventing crime, including abuse of the elderly & vulnerable, is important, it's sad you don't.

Except that on the facts as presented by the OP there is no suggestion that a crime is likely to be committed.

All that's happened is that someone has written a letter to say they'd like to buy their house and will be coming back to knock on their door with the intention of speaking about it.

Now I quite agree that if there was any suggestion of threats or violence then the position would be different. But all that seems to be in the minds of the posters here.

WhatcakeshalIbaketoday · 14/06/2026 17:00

What an unsettling letter to be receiving just back from holiday. Those poor people. If you can, let us know how the couple got on with their unwelcome visitor. Let’s hope they or someone else manages to give him the bum’s rush.

Ucloud · 14/06/2026 16:55

Have you actually read this letter?

Apopos · 14/06/2026 16:51

StrictlyCoffee · 14/06/2026 16:41

Och away you go, the police.

I’ve had notes put through my door asking if I’d sell, I just throw them out. As for the names, they maybe asked neighbours.

God, how patronising. And wrong.

They are elderly, and have been sent an aggressive letter with a time given. The police often are interested in situations like these and might also have information if they’ve already been contacted.

Canoodler · 14/06/2026 16:51

Dunnocantthinkofone · 14/06/2026 15:27

I’d phone non emergency line for advice. Unless the police specifically contradict me, this is what I’d do

definitely get someone (male and muscular preferably) to be there to receive the ‘guests’
On the driveway not within the house though. Recorded and get details of the car. Tell them that the police have been informed and that any further contact will be viewed as harassment

Good advice.

OneThreadOnlybyN · 14/06/2026 16:50

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 16:43

They shouldn't do! They have more important things to do.

Now they may actually prefer taking information about crimes that have not occurred to catching people who have actually committed a crime because it is easier for them.

But if that is the case it is another problem with modern policing.

They believe preventing crime, including abuse of the elderly & vulnerable, is important, it's sad you don't.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 14/06/2026 16:47

Persephonia1966 · 14/06/2026 15:48

But also, there's been a big shift recently to mark occupants of HMOs as dodgy. I noticed Kenyon banging on about how much HMOs are in Makerfield and conflating it with asylum seekers even though Maker field has very few asylum seekers. So most of the HMOs in the area won't be housing them. But it conflates them with asylum seekers, foreigners, non-locals, poor or chaotic people.
Some people (students) naturally need HMOs but there growth in use is a problem as it suggests lots of people can't afford tonrent their own homes. They often don't have living rooms etc so it's harder to socialise. But demonising HMO occupants or trying to remove them from the area doesn't help the problem

Despite that, there is no need for the letter to the elderly couple in this case and I would absolutely be mentioning it to a non-emergency police phone number/contact form. And have someone be there at the time of the alleged appointment.

So where do you think that all the asylum seekers that are being moved out of hotels are being sent to if not HMOs?

Local councils are writing to landlords asking them to evict their current tenants and offering them hassle free leases to house them.

Some councils are also buying up whole blocks of flats in neighbouring boroughs and evicting the tenants to house them and other homeless people:

www.telegraph.co.uk/gift/b6a46cb7609d0f69

Apopos · 14/06/2026 16:47

Tiggermad · 14/06/2026 15:19

Same.

Yes, you might. But seeing as it’s intimidatingly worded, with a time given and sent to an apparently vulnerable elderly couple, I don’t think other people should ignore it. I actually do think the police are relevant here. It may also have been happening to others.

TheMadGardener · 14/06/2026 16:44

They should ring the non-emergency police line. As a previous poster said, police may be aware of who it is sending them. Also make sure someone muscular is available to answer the door just in case this person does turn up.

Many years ago my grandmother was frightened by men turning up at her door saying her guttering needed replacing and they WOULD be back to rip it off and she WOULD be paying them to replace it. When she told my sister, my sister rang local police and they knew exactly who this was. They visited him and advised him never to go near our grandmother again. And he never did!

Cyclebabble · 14/06/2026 16:43

If the letter contains a telephone number I would call and tell the writer of the letter that they have no intention of selling, that there should be no further correspondence or attendance at their premises. I agree this falls into intimidation and might be a scam for a vulnerable person. I would also notify the Police so they have a record.

KateSixer · 14/06/2026 16:43

OneThreadOnlybyN · 14/06/2026 16:04

You too are wrong!

my local police definitely want to be told about this kind of thing & do what they can to stop it.

They shouldn't do! They have more important things to do.

Now they may actually prefer taking information about crimes that have not occurred to catching people who have actually committed a crime because it is easier for them.

But if that is the case it is another problem with modern policing.

HauntedRavioli · 14/06/2026 16:42

Blopi · 14/06/2026 16:07

The thing is with HMOs are some landlords don’t follow the local council’s guidelines for minimum size room per tenant etc.

Some divide the rooms up.

I remember one 3 bedroom terrace house in the Midlands had 24 tenants as the lounge was a bedroom. There were 3 beds per room so tenants slept shifts.

This was highlighted during lockdown as tenants couldn’t self isolate

Exactly. Some of the ones I've been in were absolutely grim. Some people on this thread seem to have their rose tinted glasses on when it comes to how the other half live.

But debating the quality or ethics of HMOs doesn't help your elderly parents with their problem. Having a younger (and hopefully slightly scary looking!) person present for the 'appointment' ought to be the end of it.

I hope it all goes off without incident.

StrictlyCoffee · 14/06/2026 16:41

Och away you go, the police.

I’ve had notes put through my door asking if I’d sell, I just throw them out. As for the names, they maybe asked neighbours.

godmum56 · 14/06/2026 16:39

Fillies4DeclanRice · 14/06/2026 16:27

HMOs are usually houses for immigrants who are receiving UC to pay the rent

ummm nope!

godmum56 · 14/06/2026 16:38

Onetimeusername1 · 14/06/2026 16:24

I think one of the big issues with downsizing to a two bedroom house is that it doesn't just eliminate your spare bedrooms, you also lose your dining room, utility and half your kitchen, three quarters of your garden.

Not to mention that if they are going to upend their lives (do remember when you are old and vulnerable, familiarity such as your home and neighbours becomes more important) then they quite rightly want to move to a house that will at least be useful to their stage of life, like a bunglaow.

So with those things in mind, why would somebody want to pay a load of stamp duty to move and release money they may not need until they both move into a care home. They aren't likely to independently put it in inflation beating investments, so their capital will erode away eating into the money their children will inherit. (I'm Not starting a debate on rights and wrongs of inheritance).

I kind of agree with you. Money aside, there is actually very little point in downsizing from a house to a house in later life IMO because the hook for many (most) people who can't stay where they are is stairs and its often easier to fit a stairlift, through floor lift, or downstairs bathroom in a house with some space than in a more compact place. (retired OT, have met many many people who wished they hadn't!)
Of course if you are really going for a big lifestyle change and go for a flat (which heaven forfend) then there is going to be the issue of management costs and so on.
On another track, I can't see folk being happy to see us oldies gettingout of paying any government levies that the youngsters have to pay!

ChickenBananaBanana · 14/06/2026 16:34

Fillies4DeclanRice · 14/06/2026 16:27

HMOs are usually houses for immigrants who are receiving UC to pay the rent

Usually 🙄🙄🙄

BorgQueen · 14/06/2026 16:33

The Police won’t give a toss. My neighbours directly behind me are in their 80’s and have been hassled to sell for 6 years by their next door neighbours who want it for their massive extended family. Their Son tried to involve the Police but was told HE would be in trouble if he went round and told them to lay off, this was after the fence between the 2 front gardens was ‘accidentally’ flattened by one of the multiple taxis that hang around day and night.