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AIBU to think this intimidating house buying letter should be reported to police?

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Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

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OVienna · 15/06/2026 08:29

A property developer would most certainly know all this. A clever burglar might also. Im not saying it isnt intimidating but that is hiw they know. You can ask for your details to be redacted in the Land Registry under certain circs.

OVienna · 15/06/2026 08:25

Blopi · 15/06/2026 07:47

It’s the personalised letter is the big issue
. It’s addressed to the residents
. Mentions that they are elderly

So:
. How do they know their name?
. How do they know they are elderly? There’s nothing to say from looking at the house from the pavement outside to say that they are elderly.
. How do they know it’s just the couple living there?

They must have been spying

OP - unless they are renting, they got their names from the UK Land Registry. This is a public document. It is likely to say when the property was last sold which would give a clue to their ages. If one if them was a company director at some point, that would give their month and birth year. Lots if ways online you can find these things out, potentially.

Blopi · 15/06/2026 07:47

It’s the personalised letter is the big issue
. It’s addressed to the residents
. Mentions that they are elderly

So:
. How do they know their name?
. How do they know they are elderly? There’s nothing to say from looking at the house from the pavement outside to say that they are elderly.
. How do they know it’s just the couple living there?

They must have been spying

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WildflowerMeadow · 15/06/2026 07:02

Fillies4DeclanRice · 14/06/2026 16:27

HMOs are usually houses for immigrants who are receiving UC to pay the rent

This is really misinformed. These are just the ones that you see on TV and on those programmes about rogue landlords/tenants. They make up a tiny minority of HMOs.

The majority of HMOs are tenanted with students or young professionals trying to keep their housing costs low in order to save a deposit to buy. These people are all tax payers or students receiving student finance or assistance from parents. Not benefit claimants.

HighHeelsRedLips · 15/06/2026 06:28

Your neighbours are elderly and have said they feel “upset and frightened” by the letter. Please report it to the police. Install a ring doorbell or some other form
of CCTV.

Ponderingwindow · 15/06/2026 01:06

grumpygrape · 14/06/2026 20:13

Do you really get letters addressed to you by name and suggesting as you are old and there are only two of you living in the house you should sell ?

suggesting we should sell because we are old? No.

addressed to us and asking us if we want to sell, yes.

it’s a very high demand area.

JHound · 15/06/2026 00:37

Besidemyselfwithworry · 14/06/2026 18:26

I wouldn’t what if someone does turn up?
and if I was your friend I’d make damn sure I was there and not on my own either!

I would ignore them if they turned up

Beautyfadesdumbisforever · 14/06/2026 23:08

This is just the sort of problem PCSO’s.are there to deal with.
You can request a visit from your local team.

godmum56 · 14/06/2026 22:32

TheWonderhorse · 14/06/2026 21:44

I'm not convinced the police should be there to reassure people about an unwanted knock at the door at a given date and time (so easily avoided by being out or simply sending them away if/when they knock).

Honestly, the letter is cheeky but I don't see the threat or the danger. No crime has been committed and none threatened either.

I am not ageist (in my 70's myself) but every day less confident people are conned by fake roofers, drive pressure washer services and so on. This one has all the hallmarks of a scam. No one is expecting blues and twos and the Flying Squad but a call to the non urgent service is a good idea. As I have already said, police would rather know about such things BEFORE crime has occurred

godmum56 · 14/06/2026 22:27

MerryUmberHedgehog · 14/06/2026 20:11

Is it a police matter or something like trading standards?
Either way the person who has sent this letter seems to have done some research which is worrying.

Police. If there were contact details of an EA or other business on the letter then maybe trading standards but there is no evidence on the letter that its any kind of business.

Laurmolonlabe · 14/06/2026 22:22

It's easy to get their name off the electoral roll. Tell them not to answer the door. I would advise getting an intercom doorbell- you just tell anyone you don't want to talk to that you would'nt be interested and never actually go to the door- they are worth their weight TBH. You could tell the police, but this falls a long way short of harrassment, so I doubt they would be very interested.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 14/06/2026 22:22

I would make sure there’s someone tough there with them, who will tell whoever it is that the couple are NOT interested, so fuck off (maybe marginally more politely) and if they approach the couple again, or contact them in anyway, the police will be involved.

KitFox · 14/06/2026 22:16

This is horrible for the couple. If i was their neighbour I'd do what I could to wfh that morning and be with the neighbours around 11am to see if anyone comes. If the nwihhbour can't do it then a driend or relative of the couple. If the writers of the letter do turn up, then whoever is there can photograph them and their vehicle and then let the police know.

grumpygrape · 14/06/2026 21:55

TheWonderhorse · 14/06/2026 21:44

I'm not convinced the police should be there to reassure people about an unwanted knock at the door at a given date and time (so easily avoided by being out or simply sending them away if/when they knock).

Honestly, the letter is cheeky but I don't see the threat or the danger. No crime has been committed and none threatened either.

A letter naming the recipients, implying their age and the occupational status of the property is known and trying to shame them into selling their property is more threatening than cheeky.
Leaving the property empty at the time of the 'appointment' would be a very unwise move.

TheWonderhorse · 14/06/2026 21:44

grumpygrape · 14/06/2026 21:00

How about 'to protect the public by detecting and preventing crime' ?

And specifically the Derbyshire Police 'protect the most vulnerable from harm.'

I'm not convinced the police should be there to reassure people about an unwanted knock at the door at a given date and time (so easily avoided by being out or simply sending them away if/when they knock).

Honestly, the letter is cheeky but I don't see the threat or the danger. No crime has been committed and none threatened either.

wordler · 14/06/2026 21:40

Get a big red pen and write a huge NO across the letter and tape it to the front door on the day they say they are coming and then don’t answer the door.

ProfessorSlocombe · 14/06/2026 21:35

they will have gotten the homeowners' names from the Land Registry, which is public.

Not all land is on the registry. A house unsold for 58 years may not be.

Jijithecat · 14/06/2026 21:06

On the off chance that this is a genuine letter and not just someone trying to stir up tension in the neighbourhood (HMOs being very much the Big Bad Wolf of the moment, despite them often being rented by students and young professionals) if you insist on contacting the police, do it online, don't call them. You'll find the contact details on your local police force website. If you phone them they're likely to say it's a civil matter and no crime has been committed. I'd be absolutely stunned if they sent a PCSO as some have suggested they would. They just don't have the resources.

If the people who received the letter are concerned, can they not just go out at that time? If they are housebound is there no one in the community that could go and sit with them at that time? A Good Neighbour scheme, a friend or a family member? Do they have a day care centre that they could attend? Could they call the Silver Line at the time this person is meant to attend so that they are occupied at that time?

grumpygrape · 14/06/2026 21:00

ServietteUnion · 14/06/2026 20:36

The motto of the police is To Serve and Protect.

Not unless we're all trapped in an American cop show it's not.

How about 'to protect the public by detecting and preventing crime' ?

And specifically the Derbyshire Police 'protect the most vulnerable from harm.'

ServietteUnion · 14/06/2026 20:36

CarpetofBluebells · 14/06/2026 20:04

The police gather intelligence on many thungand may already have information on this type of attempt to pressure vulnerable people to sell property.
The motto of the police is To Serve and Protect. Offering advice to elderly people who have been targeted aggressively is very much in the remit of the local neighbourhood team.

The motto of the police is To Serve and Protect.

Not unless we're all trapped in an American cop show it's not.

Blopi · 14/06/2026 20:22

When my parents lived 5 mins drive from a very very good school. Their home became more lucrative after the school moved from 8 miles away to 5 mins drive away.

They probably got an open letter sent to all the properties down the small cul de sac once a month. They had an email address and a phone number. Nothing about going to turn up at a certain date and time. Nor were named in the letter.

They just shredded the letters.

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watchingthishtread · 14/06/2026 20:19

It would be worth their while getting a Ring doorbell.

PuzzledObserver · 14/06/2026 20:18

Chances are it’s poorly thought out and presumptuous business practice rather than an attempt at intimidation. I think I would report to Trading Standards rather than the police, at least initially. And be out at the time of the “appointment”, or have someone else there to tell. Mr Common Surname to go away.

However, if there is any sort of follow up or pressure (like mother letter), THEN I would escalate to police.

grumpygrape · 14/06/2026 20:13

Ponderingwindow · 14/06/2026 19:39

These letters and occasionally people knocking on the door are not unusual in our neighborhood. It’s a high demand area and people rarely sell. Sometimes homes do indeed sell without being listed.

Just tell them to drop the letter in the bin.

Do you really get letters addressed to you by name and suggesting as you are old and there are only two of you living in the house you should sell ?

MerryUmberHedgehog · 14/06/2026 20:11

Is it a police matter or something like trading standards?
Either way the person who has sent this letter seems to have done some research which is worrying.