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AIBU to think this intimidating house buying letter should be reported to police?

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Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

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Error404FucksNotFound · 15/06/2026 18:03

Cheeky bastard.
That letter doesnt read like asking, it reads like telling!
I can see how that would feel intimidating.

Your friend should stress they have no obligation to answer the door.

Maybe suggest they write no in big red letters across the letter and tape it to their front door on Thursday.

Gwenna · 15/06/2026 18:01

Poppyfie1ds · 15/06/2026 17:58

Gangs cuckooing vulnerable people to live in/ work from or purchase their homes is a big problem. I would definitely report it. The reason for doing so is that even though initially the police will just log the details- should anything intimidating happen and 999 need to be called, the police will already have the details and are more likely to take it seriously and attend.

This 💯

Gwenna · 15/06/2026 18:00

Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

I think definitely make the police aware of this as they’re vulnerable, plus it was addressed to them by name which is very creepy. Maybe help them get cctv/camera or a camera doorbell like Ring to help identify the letter writer if they try again at their home or nearby, and also for their personal safety.
YANBU, OP.

HardyCrow · 15/06/2026 17:59

Striveforcompetence · 14/06/2026 15:21

Seeing as the couple have gone out and told their neighbour (your friend) about this and have said that they are worried then yes, I would report it to get them some support. And I’d definitely have someone there on Thursday to help them. If the HMO developer knows they are elderly, they could be planning to be very pushy. How presumptive to just announce that they will turn up to discuss it as if it’s a done deal.

Can your friend tell the police, and help the couple to have a friend or neighbour be available on Thursday?

Agree 100%

Poppyfie1ds · 15/06/2026 17:58

Gangs cuckooing vulnerable people to live in/ work from or purchase their homes is a big problem. I would definitely report it. The reason for doing so is that even though initially the police will just log the details- should anything intimidating happen and 999 need to be called, the police will already have the details and are more likely to take it seriously and attend.

OVienna · 15/06/2026 17:55

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 08:45

That’s a lot of personalised research though and the implication they should sell because it’s just the two of them is definitely disturbing.

I am not saying it isn't. I am saying you don't, however, have to be Inspector Clueso to get the information. It is very easily accessible if you are prepared to pay 7 quid.

BordersMumof4 · 15/06/2026 17:46

I'd call the police that's terrible!

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 15:15

Blopi · 15/06/2026 13:02

On that note, wish companies didn’t use mother’s maiden name as a security question. As siblings have the same MMN. As well as cousins from your DM’s sisters. Then women don’t get married to have children so these children’s MMN is their mother’s current surname

Asked and answered 😄

godmum56 · 15/06/2026 15:00

Blopi · 15/06/2026 13:02

On that note, wish companies didn’t use mother’s maiden name as a security question. As siblings have the same MMN. As well as cousins from your DM’s sisters. Then women don’t get married to have children so these children’s MMN is their mother’s current surname

you know you don't have to give the ACTUAL MMN don't you? Provided you keep a note of what you said, you can use any word you like to answer any of those security questions. In many circumstances, you can even give different answers on different websites to the same security question.

Blopi · 15/06/2026 13:02

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 11:23

Don't underestimate the amount of free information that's out there with very little effort. Even if data protection were taken seriously there would be a lot.

On that note, wish companies didn’t use mother’s maiden name as a security question. As siblings have the same MMN. As well as cousins from your DM’s sisters. Then women don’t get married to have children so these children’s MMN is their mother’s current surname

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Blopi · 15/06/2026 12:56

CoverLikelyZebra · 15/06/2026 11:47

They should ignore it and if Mr Wossname ever does knock, just say they are not interested and any further contact will be illegal harrassment.

Mr Wossname is perfectly entitled to find out the names of any property owners by paying a small fee to the Land Registry to find out whose name is on the Deeds. This is publicly available knowledge.

Your friends are perfectly entitled to own a house of any size that they can afford the upkeep of. My parents consider a 4 bedroom house to be the minimum that 2 people can get by in, with a guest room and each of them having a workroom/study - and yes it could easily be a 5 bedroom HMO with one of the 2 reception rooms being a bedroom, but no one has the right to force them to downsize if that isn't their choice.

My parents live in a 4 bedroom house. Two bedrooms are a study and a dressing room.

They downsized by a bedroom, a reception room, a garage and a smaller plot.

I would not be happy if they received a letter like my friend’s neighbours.

Besides if the pest letter writer wants to convert my friend’s neighbours property to a HMO, the rooms are not big enough!

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ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 12:25

Mr Wossname is perfectly entitled to find out the names of any property owners by paying a small fee to the Land Registry to find out whose name is on the Deeds. This is publicly available knowledge.

Not all ownership details are on the :Land Registry. Especially if ownership has not changed in the 58 years we have been told the owners have lived there.

godmum56 · 15/06/2026 12:23

CoverLikelyZebra · 15/06/2026 11:47

They should ignore it and if Mr Wossname ever does knock, just say they are not interested and any further contact will be illegal harrassment.

Mr Wossname is perfectly entitled to find out the names of any property owners by paying a small fee to the Land Registry to find out whose name is on the Deeds. This is publicly available knowledge.

Your friends are perfectly entitled to own a house of any size that they can afford the upkeep of. My parents consider a 4 bedroom house to be the minimum that 2 people can get by in, with a guest room and each of them having a workroom/study - and yes it could easily be a 5 bedroom HMO with one of the 2 reception rooms being a bedroom, but no one has the right to force them to downsize if that isn't their choice.

that's fine. I could certainly tell them to fuck the fuck off, tell them they were on camera and deal with them without breaking sweat. However as I said upthread, there are loads of people my age or younger who, for various reasons, would not be able to do this. If there was not, roof/drive/window/car valet scammers would not exist.

PS people are entitled to own and live in houses even if they cannot afford the upkeep!

CoverLikelyZebra · 15/06/2026 11:47

They should ignore it and if Mr Wossname ever does knock, just say they are not interested and any further contact will be illegal harrassment.

Mr Wossname is perfectly entitled to find out the names of any property owners by paying a small fee to the Land Registry to find out whose name is on the Deeds. This is publicly available knowledge.

Your friends are perfectly entitled to own a house of any size that they can afford the upkeep of. My parents consider a 4 bedroom house to be the minimum that 2 people can get by in, with a guest room and each of them having a workroom/study - and yes it could easily be a 5 bedroom HMO with one of the 2 reception rooms being a bedroom, but no one has the right to force them to downsize if that isn't their choice.

Persephonia1966 · 15/06/2026 11:41

Onmytod24 · 15/06/2026 11:28

Thousands of the same letters can be sent out and now and again enough of them hit the right kind of people. It’s just like a message you may get on your phone saying that you’re due for a tax bait or something.

It can be, but it's still a shitty thing to do because it's directly "targeting" old people who feel vulnerable. Even if they're sending the letter to everyone the people it will fit are the people most likely to be unsettled. There are about 3 options, none of them reflect well on the letter writers

  1. It's a letter sent out to lots of homeowners hoping to hit their mark. Shitty
  2. It's specifically directed to the individual homeowners because someone has identified them as 2 older people living alone (either through the land reg or observation). Shitty
  3. It's someone trying to shit stir/fear monegwr for the fun if it. Shitty

I already posted earlier, but on the reference to HMOs made me think because normally someone trying to buy a house in these circumstances would emphasize it could ba a lovely family home for a new family (and then convert it to be an HMO). It's easier to pull on the heartstrings and persuade people to sell that wayz than specifically mentioning you intendnto turn it into a HMO as.those are unpopular. So it could be a sort of prank. But a really horrible one because it's focused on winding up/potentially scaring vulnerable people.

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 11:34

Thousands of the same letters can be sent out and now and again enough of them hit the right kind of people.

I guess if you use the name Smith ?

I think you need to read the thread.

Onmytod24 · 15/06/2026 11:28

Thousands of the same letters can be sent out and now and again enough of them hit the right kind of people. It’s just like a message you may get on your phone saying that you’re due for a tax bait or something.

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 11:23

Blopi · 15/06/2026 07:47

It’s the personalised letter is the big issue
. It’s addressed to the residents
. Mentions that they are elderly

So:
. How do they know their name?
. How do they know they are elderly? There’s nothing to say from looking at the house from the pavement outside to say that they are elderly.
. How do they know it’s just the couple living there?

They must have been spying

Don't underestimate the amount of free information that's out there with very little effort. Even if data protection were taken seriously there would be a lot.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 15/06/2026 11:12

I'm a bit baffled by the "shrugging off" attitude of some posters.

In what world is it acceptable to cast moral value judgements on average elderly citizens and use it as a tactic for financial gain? Whether their home, which they own, is underoccupied or not, is no-one's business but their own.

The personal targeting is very unsettling, and the promise of a visit at a specified time is nothing but intimidating.

HMOs have their place, lived in one as a student, but they are ripe for exploitation by the unscrupulous. And if the person wishing to turn this house into one is using these tactics, I doubt they'll be providing fluffy towels and a chocolate on the pillow to potential tenants.

The objectionable person who sent this should be educated and told in no uncertain terms that even if this is a misguided marketing strategy of some sort, it's not acceptable. Whether that falls to the police or some other official body requires some guidance.

Honestly I'm gobsmacked on the daily about how low the bar is for supporting vulnerable members of the community.

And if this is any sort of stirring around politically contentious housing issues such as those mentioned up thread, it's just fuelling a fire that needs to be put out.

godmum56 · 15/06/2026 10:26

Letsgetreadytorhumble · 15/06/2026 10:20

If they own their own home then it is possibly just an estate agent trying to tout for business albeit in the most underhanded disgusting way. If it is a council house then it could be someone looking for a bigger house in that area and has found the names and details out and that would be dodgy. I am not sure the police would take it seriously as dont they normally wait for a crime to be commited to even bother getting involved.

If its an EA behaving in this way they that definitely needs to be reported to the police as harassment. I doubt its a council swap as the letter talks about turning it into an HMO.
I'd definitely say this falls under either harassment or fraud/scam and therefore the police themselves want you to report it https://www.police.uk/pu/contact-us/

Letsgetreadytorhumble · 15/06/2026 10:20

If they own their own home then it is possibly just an estate agent trying to tout for business albeit in the most underhanded disgusting way. If it is a council house then it could be someone looking for a bigger house in that area and has found the names and details out and that would be dodgy. I am not sure the police would take it seriously as dont they normally wait for a crime to be commited to even bother getting involved.

godmum56 · 15/06/2026 09:23

Ponderingwindow · 15/06/2026 01:06

suggesting we should sell because we are old? No.

addressed to us and asking us if we want to sell, yes.

it’s a very high demand area.

And do those letters have NO contact details for the person who wrote the letter and state a date and time when they will be coming to your house?

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 08:45

OVienna · 15/06/2026 08:25

OP - unless they are renting, they got their names from the UK Land Registry. This is a public document. It is likely to say when the property was last sold which would give a clue to their ages. If one if them was a company director at some point, that would give their month and birth year. Lots if ways online you can find these things out, potentially.

That’s a lot of personalised research though and the implication they should sell because it’s just the two of them is definitely disturbing.

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 08:42

Ponderingwindow · 15/06/2026 01:06

suggesting we should sell because we are old? No.

addressed to us and asking us if we want to sell, yes.

it’s a very high demand area.

So isn't the usual type of letter many of us have experienced then.

ConstanzeMozart · 15/06/2026 08:42

I feel like people are still minimising what is actually the most problematic part: that they 'will visit them on Thursday at 11am'.
I'm not elderly or otherwise vulnerable, but I still find that threatening and intimidating.