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AIBU to think this intimidating house buying letter should be reported to police?

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Blopi · 14/06/2026 15:17

Friend’s elderly neighbours came back from holiday to find a letter delivered by person. It has made them upset and frightened.

It was addressed to them personally Mr and Mrs (surname)
They said that their home is too big for the couple and would be suitable for a 5 bedroom HMO. Willing to pay £Xk for it (properties have been selling for 10-15% more) and will visit them on Thursday at 11am to discuss things. Signed by Mr (common surname). No phone number or email address.

Her neighbours have zero intention of moving home as they have lived there for 58 years. They are upset on how they are targeted and wondering how did they get their names?

In the past I had these letters which have been sent to others down the estate. Though not intimidating like this letter, nor personalised.

Unfortunately my friend is working on Thursday. She would have loved to have seen if the person turned up and told

Should my friend phone the police on the non emergency line about this? As maybe something else dodgy going on

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PopcornKitten · 15/06/2026 19:04

Do you have community wardens in your area? They work alongside the police and would happily support this couple.
if not, definitely report to the police. They work in intelligence and would be able to see if there was a pattern within the area and allocate resources accordingly.

FlightwasfromNewark · 15/06/2026 19:04

Blopi · 15/06/2026 13:02

On that note, wish companies didn’t use mother’s maiden name as a security question. As siblings have the same MMN. As well as cousins from your DM’s sisters. Then women don’t get married to have children so these children’s MMN is their mother’s current surname

But you can answer anything to this question. Companies have no way of checking. As long as you give the same answer when asked for it, it is not a problem. I never use my mother’s actual maiden name or name of school, etc. It’s a security check to make sure it is you, and only you will know what security answers you gave.

Justbreathagain · 15/06/2026 19:02

I personally would ignore i however as your neighbours are elderly I think they should Report it. It easy enough to get the owners of a property name via land registry though. Sounds like a very pushy property buyer that should be told to eff off. Hopefully after being told they have no intention to sell they should bugger off

MikeRafone · 15/06/2026 18:58

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 18:35

Does £7 give you all of, the names and number of people living in the house and their ages?

As an aside, it doesn’t take an Inspector Clouseau to get one of the funniest of Peter Sellers’ characters name correct.

no, £7 only gives you the names of the people or person who own the property snd the mortgage company that the people are using... which I think is far too much information

MikeRafone · 15/06/2026 18:56

Blopi · 15/06/2026 07:47

It’s the personalised letter is the big issue
. It’s addressed to the residents
. Mentions that they are elderly

So:
. How do they know their name?
. How do they know they are elderly? There’s nothing to say from looking at the house from the pavement outside to say that they are elderly.
. How do they know it’s just the couple living there?

They must have been spying

the information is on the electoral register - name and address

then the digital/electronic electoral register often (Not always) has age band (55-65) next to the name - so the company now have their name, address and approximate age by 10 years

the electron register lists everyone who is registered at the property and anyone not registered that should be can face a hefty fine for not being registered.

https://www.192.com/people/search/

pop your name only int he box and see who comes up... you may find yourself.

I will not find me as I tick no to going o the full register, which councils sell and companies can put up online

Bikergran · 15/06/2026 18:52

They will have got the names from the Land Registry. If he turns up, they should not open the door at all but shout through the door they are not interested, and if he doesn't leave, call the police and say they are being intimidated.

Sweetbutpsycho65 · 15/06/2026 18:45

I suggest you report it to the police as it could be and probably is a scam. The person may try another tactic to gain entry to their home.

It could also be someone trying to buy up big properties to turn them into MOH or similar.

Steeleydan · 15/06/2026 18:37

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 18:20

I would be wary of assuming the people calling around are the people who actually sent the letter. Quite a lot of scammers like to outsource the grunt work to keep themselves out of harms way. It's entirely possible some poor soul is trying to earn a crust and has been hired by scammers to make the approach.

(Anyone who has dealt with franchise outfits will know the score).

Hence my comment 'don't answer the door'
Irrespective of whether its the letter written or his bitch ,it's immoral behaviour

grumpygrape · 15/06/2026 18:35

OVienna · 15/06/2026 17:55

I am not saying it isn't. I am saying you don't, however, have to be Inspector Clueso to get the information. It is very easily accessible if you are prepared to pay 7 quid.

Does £7 give you all of, the names and number of people living in the house and their ages?

As an aside, it doesn’t take an Inspector Clouseau to get one of the funniest of Peter Sellers’ characters name correct.

Isinglass20 · 15/06/2026 18:35

10-1 ‘they’ won’t turn up at 11.00 am from
previous experience they’ll know the householders will either won’t answer the door or have sought some help.
It’s likely to be on another day or different time if they turn up at all.
Better to give whatever details on the circular to the police who may have already received complaints about these sales tactics
More worrying IMO is these people are checking out vulnerabilities to burglary

OntheGolfCourse · 15/06/2026 18:35

The Police with absolutely not ‘laugh them out the door’ as stated above. These are elderly people who have been put in a state of fear and alarm and certainly in Scotland that constitutes a Breach of the Peace which is an offence at Common Law. At the very least it should be recorded.

Rhubarb24 · 15/06/2026 18:28

LlynTegid · 14/06/2026 15:22

I think the police should be contacted.

Either that or from the Land Registry.

Error404FucksNotFound · 15/06/2026 18:27

EverythingElseIsTaken · 15/06/2026 18:24

You do know you don’t have to use your mother’s actual maiden name? My mothers maiden name was very common so I just use the surname of an old school friend that I feel is quite hard to guess.

I do the same.
First pet name is the one I have the most fun with.

WindyBeech · 15/06/2026 18:24

Definitely log with the police, who may have someone, e.g. community support, available for advice. This couple are unlikely to be the only couple who have received a letter.

Assuming they own the property, their names are probably on the land registry title, and it will show when it last changed hands - that's enough for an interested party to guess at their age. Ownership hasn't changed for 58 years, which means they're at least mid-70s in age.

It's great that you, your friend and your friend's brother are taking this seriously.

EverythingElseIsTaken · 15/06/2026 18:24

Blopi · 15/06/2026 13:02

On that note, wish companies didn’t use mother’s maiden name as a security question. As siblings have the same MMN. As well as cousins from your DM’s sisters. Then women don’t get married to have children so these children’s MMN is their mother’s current surname

You do know you don’t have to use your mother’s actual maiden name? My mothers maiden name was very common so I just use the surname of an old school friend that I feel is quite hard to guess.

GreyBeeplus3 · 15/06/2026 18:23

@Blopi
Because the housing market has become what it is
You'll always get some dodgy type who will try anything to obtain properties in this case by bullying it seems
I suggest your friends neighbours speak to the police and Citizens Advice just to belt and brace themselves and put their minds at rest
Then get on with their lives

midmodmad · 15/06/2026 18:21

ThePalla · 14/06/2026 15:40

You really think the police are this contemptuous of people? That’s worrying.

Not contemptuous, just bloody busy....

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 18:20

Steeleydan · 15/06/2026 18:14

I think on Thursday under no uncertain terms should these elderly people answer the door,keep doors locked. Your neighbour could ring the none emergency police number for advice as if they turn up,it could be deemed as harassment

I would be wary of assuming the people calling around are the people who actually sent the letter. Quite a lot of scammers like to outsource the grunt work to keep themselves out of harms way. It's entirely possible some poor soul is trying to earn a crust and has been hired by scammers to make the approach.

(Anyone who has dealt with franchise outfits will know the score).

Nicewoman · 15/06/2026 18:19

Yes, report to the police and monitor who comes around.

The last thing you need is an estate full of HMOs, full of illegals drug dealing, car jacking, burglarising, mugging people, shoplifting, littering, stabbing teenagers, graping girls, filming leering at little kids.

once you get one HMO, the whole street will turn HMO. It’s like one bad apple. Soon the whole street is a no-go zone.

watch your house value plummet in value.

watch the neighbour become totally unsafe. Then you have riots, civil unrest as a locals gets attacked.

Steeleydan · 15/06/2026 18:14

I think on Thursday under no uncertain terms should these elderly people answer the door,keep doors locked. Your neighbour could ring the none emergency police number for advice as if they turn up,it could be deemed as harassment

catlover123456789 · 15/06/2026 18:14

I think this is more common than you think. They should ignore it. If the person turns up, then don't answer the door. It's intimidating but I wouldn't say it's threatening.

BeigeandGreige · 15/06/2026 18:13

The fact they are elderly and vulnerable and could get conned into doing something they don’t want to do, I would report this.

Also, who the fuck do people think they are. ‘We think your house is too big for you so we want to take it off you to house multiple people’

Makes my blood boil that people think they are entitled to do this to poor elderly vulnerable people. So what if someone thinks their house is ‘too big’ is their bloody house!!!!!

If nobody can be around to see to this ‘meeting’ please advise them not to answer the door to anyone.

ProfessorSlocombe · 15/06/2026 18:09

OVienna · 15/06/2026 17:55

I am not saying it isn't. I am saying you don't, however, have to be Inspector Clueso to get the information. It is very easily accessible if you are prepared to pay 7 quid.

How, pray tell ?

Gwenna · 15/06/2026 18:03

Dreamerinme · 14/06/2026 15:26

Given that the people are elderly and therefore likely to be vulnerable then I’d ring the police non-emergency line for advice. It would be helpful to have a younger person in the house in case these people do turn up on their doorstep.

It’s all very well saying bin the letter but when vulnerable people are involved things can take a dark turn.

Absolutely right IMO.

YourCoralCritic · 15/06/2026 18:03

Overtheatlantic · 14/06/2026 15:30

I think they should have someone with them when this cheeky character knocks on the door. He should know they aren’t without friends.

Absolutely! Disgraceful, older people can get vulnerable (especially someone living alone).
Please make sure they have someone else with them (stronger & younger), so they don't appear as easy pickings at that specific time!
And if anyone DOES turn up, send them off with a flea in their ear! It will also re-assure the couple who's house it is, otherwise they'll worry about a repeat scenario! CF's 😡