Hey, I’m in a WhatsApp group with 2 other mums. BBs mum sent out invites in Feb for his birthday over the last 2 months, one of the children she originally invited has been seriously biting and hurting her child, black eyes the lot! This child has also done the same to mine since this school year started and he’s known for doing it to others. He’s been accessed a number of times and has no special educational needs.
It does make me wonder what he sees at home. I have seen mum hiding black eyes behind make up, not sure if from child or someone else. However BBs mum has asked in the group would it be acceptable if she uninvited this child as her own son is now exceptionally nervous about him being there and doesn’t want to go to his own birthday party, as he doesn’t want to be hurt again and she’s also sick to the back teeth of it herself. I straight away said yes, of course it’s not about being horrible it’s about protecting your son, just word it as nicely as possible, you can’t have your own child getting upset like he has been and crying not wanting to go to his own birthday party, he should be looking forward to it. Our other friend in the group said you can’t uninvite children at all and that we are both out of order.
It is worth noting it’s every time this child gets near BBs he will hurt him doesn’t matter about adults being present, he does the same to mine, they’re both just soft and easy targets. My own child has rare bleeding disorder and these continuous attacks have even put my child in hospital, BB has also been in hospital to. Children are aged 5/6.
I feel for the mother of the child hurting others I do, you can tell she’s exhausted, however we know from her telling us herself she basically just gives him whatever he wants when he wants and ignores the schools advice on boundaries constantly, I must admit I do have concerns there is more going on at home but to me it is purely about protecting our own children as they come first.
So am I unreasonable?