Over the last 15 years we have bought a few houses that we’ve rented out. My sister and BIL have made it known that they despise landlords and that they think we are terrible people for profiting from this. We have largely ignored their comments as we didn’t want to argue.
We started selling the houses about 5 years ago to fund a house move and to pay for our kids going to uni. My sister and BIL decided that was a good thing but that we were also still bad for having other properties. We couldn’t win so didn’t say much, just that it’s none of their business. They regularly bring it up and have a go at us.We have 2 houses left which we plan on selling and giving our children the money from to purchase their first homes.
My sister and BIL had a few drinks with us last night and really ranted at us, calling us selfish and out for ourselves because they said we are making people homeless yet again. I said I thought she’d be pleased that we would no longer be landlords but apparently not.
My partner eventually told them to leave, called them an uber and we haven’t heard from them since. He says he’s finished with them and that we have taken enough from them about this and other things in our life they don’t agree with. They do things we don’t agree with but we have never commented. It’s like every time we see them they are angry and have to criticise us. I am inclined to agree with my partner as I’m tired of it, but at the same time she’s my sister.
Would you bother to try to salvage the relationship or would you think enough now? I have tried to keep a relationship with her and have let a lot go in past years.
YABU - try to keep a relationship with her
YANBU - the relationship is over