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AIBU to worry that bringing chocolates to an interview was inappropriate?

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Thebigwideworld · 13/06/2026 22:00

I think I’ve messed up the biggest opportunity I’ve ever had and cannot stop overthinking it and worrying about it😢

im in the process of getting a trainee/graduate position sorted for after graduation. Some firms are really popular and sought after and notoriously difficult to get a position in. I’ve got to the final interview stage at my absolute number 1 choice. I already interviewed online and passed the initial stages (including a group session which wasn’t hosted at the firm itself) and the last stage was an in person interview at the firm and also for them to show you round and meet different people for the day.

I don’t know why I thought it was the done-thing to do, but I brought chocolates for them to say thank you for having me for the afternoon. It was a large box of Belgian chocolates from m&s. I just sort of thought there was a lot of people giving up their time to show me round, chat to me and interview and I just thought it was the sort of thing you did in this situation to say thank you! Sort of like last day of work experience when you bring gifts to thank people for giving up their time

I briefly mentioned it to my friends who were a bit like wtf, why would you do that, and a bit flabbergasted that I thought I should do it. They said I’m going to look like I’m trying to win them over and that it makes me look immature and really unaware for doing it for not realising it’s all just an interview and they’re not showing me round out the good of their heart

I think it just sort of left me that it was all a big giant interview process and I just thought hey, they’re giving up their time to meet me and show me stuff, I’ll get them a little thing to say thank you because that’s what you’re supposed to do?! But I sort of lost sight that them showing me round and all the people meeting me were all just part of the interview process, and now I’ve made myself look like a complete idiot

just so as to not drop feed, I didn’t grow up with parents and had to teach myself a lot of stuff like this, especially social situations and formal work stuff. It’s all completely new to me and I don’t have anyone to go back to and ask for advice unfortunately.

i really wanted this position, and now im worried sick I’ve blown it and made myself look stupid, or that I didn’t appreciate that it was all part of the interview process (which in turn makes me look stupid too). Does anyone work at a firm and could advise me if I’ve made myself look like a complete idiot?

thanks😢

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ItsPickleRick · 13/06/2026 23:26

You sound absolutely lovely and I so hope you get the job!

You should be incredibly proud of yourself OP. Please keep us updated. 🤞

professionalcommentreader · 13/06/2026 23:26

The way you presented it for all the staff was nice, unusual but kind, I hope you get it, good luck!

StolenTeapots · 13/06/2026 23:23

Hopefully you get it. Keep us posted 💐

XelaM · 13/06/2026 23:20

I think you'll get the job! You sound lovely, personable and very enthusiastic

Nevs · 13/06/2026 23:19

Onlyausername · 13/06/2026 23:17

Box of chocolates, not biscuits lol

Hmm yes you’re right, no idea where I got biscuits from 🤔

CheddarBiscuit · 13/06/2026 23:18

Its unusual but there are worse things than someone being human.

I can understand the bribe perspective i principal but not actually reality. Its a small box of chocolates, hardly a corporate box at a stadium.

If it was a bribe, I think you'd need to follow up and make it clear 😆 "hey, er, just checking you, er...liked the chocolates? If you know what I mean? Nudge nudge 😉"

Honestly, it's fine, it's charming. Your friends are mean.

Youhadrambledonfor18pages · 13/06/2026 23:18

It’s a bit strange but not enough to put them off if they were going to decide on you anyway.
I’m sure they know that you’d be aware that it would take more than a box of M&S chocs to bribe them.

Onlyausername · 13/06/2026 23:17

Nevs · 13/06/2026 22:35

I have worked in corporate offices for years and have interviewed candidates.

At the very worst I would just think you were naive (but in an endearing way) and were young / inexperienced in the job world. I would not think you were trying to bride me.

While the box of biscuits would not drive my decision to hire you it would indicate to me that you had a strong desire to work for the company, which would be a small bonus.

However don’t do it again! You sound sweet.

Edited

Box of chocolates, not biscuits lol

Missingguineapigs · 13/06/2026 23:14

I think you sound wonderful, and I really hope you get the job!

EamonnFyre · 13/06/2026 23:13

I actually think that, because it’s not the norm, I would absolutely be impressed at the fact that you’d genuinely thought and appreciated that people had spent time with you, and that you’d seen it as something for your benefit rather than just an interview process which sometimes can be a tick-box exercise. Honestly, I would be glad to see such a genuine gesture and it would give me an insight into who you actually are as a person, rather than the version of themselves that most people show at an interview.

I know that at my workplace we would see this is a positive thing and an opportunity to see who you truly are. However I do think it depends a bit on the type of organisation you were interviewing in.

Whatever happens, don’t beat yourself up about it. If this role doesn’t come off it might be that the organisation isn’t the right fit for you. Somewhere else will be.

FWIW it would be seen in a positive light at my place, which is a household brand you’d recognise so don’t believe that all corporates are hard faced and inhuman, despite what your friends might have you believe. I would also echo that, if they want you, this wouldn’t put a decent workplace off.

Good luck! Come back and let us know the outcome.

fluffiphlox · 13/06/2026 23:11

It’s unusual but I don’t think it will influence them one way or the other. Good luck!

lifeisgoodrightnow · 13/06/2026 23:11

It would have made you stand out in my mind and if you’d got to that stage I’d have been seriously considering you already anyway. I’d say no harm done and possibly quite a nice touch as a team player.

( finance / risk management - city of London - senior management)

JMSA · 13/06/2026 23:10

It’s a bit of a ‘try hard’ gesture, but sweet at the same time.
Best of luck and I hope you get the job!

throwawayimplantchat · 13/06/2026 23:10

I think you sound absolutely fantastic, you’ve done so well for yourself. Best of luck - they’d be lucky to have you!

MegJoBethandAmytoo · 13/06/2026 23:09

I think that you sound lovely. I hope you get the job.

UnemployedNotRetired · 13/06/2026 23:07

Well, they'll probably remember you rather than having you fade into the background.

Nottogetapenny · 13/06/2026 23:06

You sound like a lovely person op. I hope you get the job! You should be so proud of yourself. 🤞

InterestedDad37 · 13/06/2026 23:05

A lovely, if unorthodox gesture - I'd probably give you the job/the benefit of the doubt - NOT because I'll do anything for chocolate (I will 😃 ), but because it shows a degree of lateral thinking, forethought and insight.

Franpie · 13/06/2026 23:02

I agree with PP’s, unusual but won’t be the difference between getting the grad job or not. If you’ve made the cut, you’ve made the cut, a box of chocs isn’t going to change anything.

I used to be on the interview panel at a big 4 firm and we once had a Spanish or Italian (can’t quite remember) grad stand up and kiss each of us on both cheeks as she was getting up to leave.

We were all very British and awkward but she still got the role as she passed all the criteria in the selection process.

ThisIsMyUsername0 · 13/06/2026 23:02

I think it was a very sweet gesture. I hope you get the position, good luck!

Pansykavalier · 13/06/2026 23:01

I don’t have time to read the whole thread, but be sure to email them and thank them for the opportunity to interview. This is very important. You can find sample emails/letters online.

And stop worrying about the chocolates!

IDontHateRainbows · 13/06/2026 23:00

I interview, if someone did thos for a senior/ established role it would seem weird and try hard, but as a grad interviewing for their first job its more sweet/ innocent.

If you were the right person for the job it wouldn't put me off.

durdledoris · 13/06/2026 23:00

Gealach · 13/06/2026 22:05

I would find it charming. Nobody thinks a box of chocolates is a bribe!

It won’t affect your chances either way. Good luck 🤞 but also sounds like you’ve done amazing to get this far.

I agree - shows lovely manners.
Good luck OP x

ThestoriesIcouldtellyou · 13/06/2026 22:59

I would just think "person who brings good snacks into the office. Extra tick" and move on.

PeregrinePun · 13/06/2026 22:55

You did you, carry on doing that, it's so refreshing. I think it was a nice thing to do, it seemed to be appreciated and l don't think it will have an influence on whether you get the job - but I hope you do!