to think older age is no excuse for sexism, racism and misogyny?

Well, you do you. Personally, I think people who choose to turn a blind eye to racism are part of the problem.

@MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack

I think people are composed of many contradictory things and generally would rather give people the benefit of the doubt as I haven't walked in their shoes.

How is it possible to be both "nice" and "racist"?

If they're nice people apart from having some ancient views, cut them some slack with a bit of light-hearted "people don't think that way nowadays".

Why are their replies worthy of note? You've shared your discontentment about family members. Your family are no more or less representative of any other family with political views, regardless of their composition of age, race, religion and whatever other obligatory variant you want to throw in.

No she's not the first post was absolutely clear. She is not lumping all older people together she is complaining about her relatives doing that.

She’s not backpedaling. In fact that’s her whole point. She knows that not all older people are like that so why is it being used as an excuse?

Doesn’t everyone? Who researches the lottery to make sure nothing is funded wrongly before they grab a ticket? Or checks they don’t buy nestle? Or uses cosmetics they aren’t sure are tested on animals?
or eats none free range eggs?

everyone has things they can live with and things they can’t

if you’re at the point of needing a food bank, counting every penny, how many people would say no thank you to several million pounds because they didn’t agree with the relative giving it them (who will be dead)? Not many I don’t think

Selective principles, as I thought. Your inheritance, your choice.

It’s family money so not exactly hard earned (he was lucky, worked briefly, retired early and has a ridiculous pension)
it amuses me that he also doesn’t know I’m not 100% white British

he has views I don’t agree with, he’s not openly racist but if you open FB and look at some of the comments like “usual suspects” and “boat people” he’s a bit below that. Mostly that “x wouldn’t happen if they were white”

people inherit money from others who might be racist but they don’t know they are. I know what he is and I’ve made a decision I can live with and a few charity places will be much richer for it

Unless people make a conscious effort to rethink the attitudes and beliefs they have held for a sizable chunk of their lives, it stands to reason they may be out of step with contemporary norms.
We think these attitudes are appalling because they are no longer the accepted ones. However we in our turn accept things now that future generations may end up being horrified by.
When that time comes, some of us will be open minded and listen to younger people and agree we have been wrong all our lives.
Others of us will double down and mutter what's the world coming to..? when our grandchildren tell us off for eating animals, opposing immigration or whatever.

Yes you do. You’re backpedaling.

It does explain their views. If it doesn’t excuse them, what is the result of that? They’re ’cancelled’? What do you want to happen?

Your ageism is worse than their inexcusable views, as you should know better.

Right, so you're not putting all of his hard earned money into a charity you know he wouldn't agree with. You are keeping the lion's share and making a passive aggressive donation. Just to stick your two fingers up at him.

of course I will. It’s a life changing amount of money and I don’t know many people that live alone earning just above minimum wage that would turn it down on principle
i could have lied and said I’m not going to accept being in his will, why would I lie about donating?
I can take 100k out the money easily and find a relevant charity

or I can turn it down on principle, never be able to pay my mortgage off and not be able to give to charity
my morals are perfectly happy with the first option

His attitude is no worse than people I see posting on FB

Yeah of course you will. Instead of telling him not to leave any money to you - on principle of course - you are going to donate it 😂

My dad is worse with age, he’s 76 and I’ve tried numerous times to correct that he doesn’t say coloured but…
my uncle is awful. I am set to inherit a shit load of money from him so I avoid much contact and plan to donate some of the money to a charity he would hate

Yes.

I think that was the OP's point.

As regards ageism, I think it is MORE ageist to explain and excuse unpleasant attitudes and comments on the grounds that 'they're older' than to call out such attitudes.

Unless someone is not only old, but has been living under a rock for the last 60 years or so, you cannot explain some of these views as 'just their age', ans it is patronizing to do so.

If people are actually suffering from a degree of dementia, then this may indeed be an excuse at least for a lack of filter. But not just age as such.

There's quite a few members of society who are also expected to just put up and shut up. Women being the top of the list. I will save my faux shock horror for my fellow sisters, when every insulting reference to women is combated the same. The dated "ok boomer: and "karen" comments from kids.Anything to say there?

With age comes a life of experience some of those are negative experiences. Those experiences add up and form their opinion based on their life.
Others have very little influence, what you can do is listen and IF you choose ask why.

OK love.

I don’t think they do.
Often what happens is someone has described a situation and tried to explain why the older person has responded or would behave in a certain way. Not excused. Explained.
I would add perhaps these labels are wafted around a bit too readily.
I have met a racist once in my life. A real one. It has stayed with me all my life. Yet people often say ‘that is racist and this and that’. The attitude behind the words is what matters.
I have long been subjected to prejudice myself. From family, school, work. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. But I have learnt over the years that there are people who say all the right things but I can tell their attitude doesn’t match their words. They just know the right words to say.
And sometimes people say the wrong words, but their attitude is right. And they mean no harm.

No, it's my way of saying I don't care about your opinion if you don't care about mine. I don't try to pursue intellectual discourse with people who want an echo chamber or a mirror.