AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

It's his day, with his friends and his memories.
Stay out of it.
Take a few informal snaps at home but the best pictures will be the images you treasure in your head.

Yeah please don’t do that.

Are you?

The other people in her house will think its weird? Her son already knows and likes the dress. She has repeatedly said she wount be leaving her house

Just read all the OP posts and think the title of the thread is misleading. A £15 dress from Shein to have photos in the garden/house with no other friends there is a far cry from 'dressing up to match' so I think MN thread title generator has something to answer for here! I was definitely imagining you in a floor length satin gown with all his mates round the house. Maybe the only thing I'd do is pop some jeans on before waving him off out the house? Don't know if I'd even bother if it's not a flash dress. My kids are pre school and I'll be totally haggard in another 12 years so I'll probably just stand in the corner clinging onto my zimmerframe. I think so long as you're not hogging the bathroom or preventing yourself from being there for him it's fine. I dressed up as Cinderella to save £300 on an entertainer for my kids' birthday party and I'm sure mumsnet would have my life for that. I was very much the centre of the party but they bloomin loved it. You know your boy best. Sorry you got so much hate. Why are people vile? I definitely reckon you should do photos at another time as well, though. Then you can take time and get more.

I think its a sweet idea and something nice to look back on.

Some of these comments are bizarre and the people making them are nasty and weird!

My two older boys wouldn't have batted an eyelid and my four daughters would think it nice.

His jacket is lovely. Feel sad for all these kids (including my own really) that just want to be sheep wear the exact same as everyone else and are too scared to actually be themselves. Also utterly bizarre that some people think its odd for a 16 year old to be more interested in girlfriends than actually concentrating on studying. Good for him! Hope he has a wonderful time and you enjoy your photos and the memories

Too many people embarrassing themselves on here behind their screens 🤦‍♀️

Op are you and your son neurodivergent by any chance?

Please write in to the hellpod for their takes on this!
I think this is fabulous, you have a gay son, lean in! He'll be able to use this for material for his Edinburgh fringe show and as a hilarious anecdote for the rest of time. Definitely do it!

What is wrong with you? Nightmare MIL in the making….well already fully formed 🙄😬 your poor son and his future wife

Can you not take a nice photo for the memories in normal clothes? Sorry, but this is weird and the other people there will think so, too.

I haven't read all the pages but why dont you and he have some mum and son photos in your matching outfits on a totally different day. I get where you're coming from in it's nice to get pics together when he's looking great and I also get the idea of wanting to share in his moment and the vibe. Glam up a little on the day, save the purple for a special time for you both and focus on keeping a low-ish profile that's geared to make sure he's living his best life 💜

People on here are just mean. I don’t see anything wrong with having a lovely photo with your son before his prom, the dress sounds lovely, the lady has said she’s not turning up to his prom with him so I don’t see the harm. I’d wear something less matchy if I was going to the venue to take pics as they arrive and go in. Hope he has a lovely time and you get your beautiful photo together

I don’t agree with you matching him, sorry.

Fine to have some photos before he leaves. But you dressing up does make the occasion of having photos before he leaves about you. When it should be about him.

I hope I’m allowed to disagree without being called a bully…

sooo weird, creepy

presumably you have plenty of money to waste on outfits for yourself for a child s prom

God no. Please don't. It's a bit cringe. In the nicest way,it's not your night.

It's weird!

Please don’t!

My sons prom was Friday night and you definitely would have looked weird/out of place

I do not know what the fuck some of these people are on. Maybe if they had a nice relationship with their child like you clearly have they would understand.

go for it. My mum did similar with one of my nephews on his prom and she loved it.

im wondering why all of these people are going to their kids prom since they think it’s normal to be at the venue with their child?

also, I LOVE his suit.

It’s his nice I wouldn’t be dressing up with him

Truthfully, ask your son what he thinks. Tell him you won't be hurt by whatever answer he gives and let him know you're being honest about that. If he likes it, then do it. If not, then you have your answer.

In the end, you aren't being creepy and your partner isn't being mean. You asked his opinion and he gave it.

I love your son’s suit! Lots of our sixth form students purposefully wear unusual outfits and they always try and arrive by unusual means. We get a lot of the very expensive hired cars but we’ve also had people come on tractors, fire engines, scooters (the ones you self propel with one foot), mobility scooters, horses, and even been carried in on a litter like royalty.

In terms of your question though, yes, I think it’s really weird. It’s not your day. Anyone in the family who does see the picture will be compelled to tell you they like your dress because it’s obvious you made an effort and I imagine they are polite people. You should not make yourself be cause of notice at all if you can help it, it’s your son’s day and he should be the one to shine.

Absolutely not.

This is his evening, don’t make it about you.