Page 5 | AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

MissRaspberryRipples · 2026-06-13T13:39:36+00:00

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Hoppinggreen · 15/06/2026 14:17

Snakebite61 · 15/06/2026 12:33

Wow. The most embarrassed kid at a prom ever.

She isn't wearing it for Prom or taking him to prom I don't think
Its not something I would do but if she wants to do it for a few photos at home beforehand and her DS is happy to I don't see the issue

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Snakebite61 · 15/06/2026 12:33

Wow. The most embarrassed kid at a prom ever.

Positivenegativity7 · 15/06/2026 12:31

Is this for you or your son?.
It seems a bit strange to include yourself when you won't be going to the prom, just take some photo's in a smart outfit and let your son enjoy himself, matching his outfit is very odd to say the least, seems like you want this to be about you.

Ewg9 · 15/06/2026 12:16

Sorry but a nice dress/outfit would suffice. no need to match. sounds really cringe and embarrassing - maybe take your partners lead on this...

Arthur2shedsJackson · 15/06/2026 12:04

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HelenaWaiting · 15/06/2026 11:52

MissRaspberryRipples · 15/06/2026 01:16

So you decide that because I stated that my son is ok with me dressing for a nice photo that it simply must be that he's really not?or that he's some kind of weird overly attached mummy's boy? Are kids not allowed to be close to a parent without it being perceived as weird? And I guess you didn't see that my partner is exactly that, not a husband and he isn't even my children's father-a partner that doesn't live with us also and has no involvement in decisions about my children whatsoever. It's not an exact match it's a nice dress from shein it's not a prom gown and I'm certainly not even going anywhere near his prom, it's a couple of photos at home before he leaves to meet his friends. My son is happy for me to wear a nice dress he's seen the dress and said it's nice and will look great for a photo together before he goes. It's not being shoved all over social media either, it's photos to share with aunts uncles etc. my partner is overly opinionated and says it's not something he would do for his own kid which is fine too but is it really fair for people here to indicate that a child close to their parent simply must have something sinister going on between them? That's a pretty disturbing mindset to have that you can't have a good relationship with your own child for the fear that someone may think that it's weird or messed up somehow

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FYI, the fact that you bought it from Shein is not the flex you appear to think it is.

FannyByElectricLight · 15/06/2026 10:51

Oh Dear 😬
I've got 2 Sons and it's the last thing I'd want to inflict on them
It's his moment, not yours

ImogenBrocklehurst · 15/06/2026 10:32

Sorry, I also thinks it’s creepy and “main character”. Does your son know about your plans?

Missey85 · 15/06/2026 10:28

Your poor son how embarrassing 😂😂😂 your partners right it's his night not yours

Nannamads · 15/06/2026 10:21

I know we all want nice memories of our children . But this memory should be of him, him and his prom date and friends. Not of his mum dressed up in matching colour outfit. This is a resounding NO from me.

Askingforafriendtoday · 15/06/2026 10:16

MissRaspberryRipples · 15/06/2026 01:16

So you decide that because I stated that my son is ok with me dressing for a nice photo that it simply must be that he's really not?or that he's some kind of weird overly attached mummy's boy? Are kids not allowed to be close to a parent without it being perceived as weird? And I guess you didn't see that my partner is exactly that, not a husband and he isn't even my children's father-a partner that doesn't live with us also and has no involvement in decisions about my children whatsoever. It's not an exact match it's a nice dress from shein it's not a prom gown and I'm certainly not even going anywhere near his prom, it's a couple of photos at home before he leaves to meet his friends. My son is happy for me to wear a nice dress he's seen the dress and said it's nice and will look great for a photo together before he goes. It's not being shoved all over social media either, it's photos to share with aunts uncles etc. my partner is overly opinionated and says it's not something he would do for his own kid which is fine too but is it really fair for people here to indicate that a child close to their parent simply must have something sinister going on between them? That's a pretty disturbing mindset to have that you can't have a good relationship with your own child for the fear that someone may think that it's weird or messed up somehow

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That's clarified a lot, OP, you sound lovely. Your OP suggested you might be heading for the prom!

OhYeahOhYeah · 15/06/2026 10:10

Super odd behaviour. Your poor son is going to be very embarrassed I’d imagine…….

Return the outfit and remember what it was like to be a teenager, and how embarrassing you found your folks then! Then let him get on with enjoying the Prom.

Hope he had a great time with his mates x

AmusedMember · 15/06/2026 10:06

Nooooo, come on! Matching?! wear something nice, sure! But don't match!!!

MadMumOfTwoHorrors · 15/06/2026 09:49

Is this an episode of Amandaland?

Lievre · 15/06/2026 09:28

Perfectly reasonable to have a nice photo taken at home with mum & son. However thinking at a level whereby your outfits ‘match’ and asking about this on the internet is way OTT and cringeworthy to me.
The posters who mention lack of girlfriend for a 16 year old or any age, or even incest are out of line and ridiculous IMHO!

SidekickSylvia · 15/06/2026 09:10

I think it sounds lovely, and will be a nice photo to have.

I also think a lot of posters are responding to the thread title, without reading your posts, because otherwise many of the responses make absolutely no sense.

Nettie1964 · 15/06/2026 08:57

I hope this is a joke!I am having total second hand embarrassment. You need to get a grip you will be humiliating yourself and your son. It's his prom not yours. You are not his date. Why would you be dressing up in a gown? Are you going with him or to the pub. Your really sound unhinged. I asked my sons both in their 30s they both looked horrified and mortified.

ilovesushi · 15/06/2026 08:44

Posted earlier - just remembered a friend's daughter's prom and parents or at least mums dressing up. Her DD had arranged to get ready with a group of friends. She was just expecting to drop off but then got a message from the mum whose house it was instructing her to come dressed up for the photos. Never saw these so don't know if it was an all mums pic, mums with DDs or what. Sounded very Amandaland. But whatever makes you happy!

ThatAgileRosePanda · 15/06/2026 08:42

OTT and embarrassing. The prom is not your night, get some photos of you together but the prom is all about him and his friends, not you…

cheekynamechang3 · 15/06/2026 07:42

Stelladid · 15/06/2026 05:06

I haven’t decided anything. I have said anything is definate. I have simple offered my impression. Bit of a drip feed about your partner isn’t it? He still knows you and the boy and has asked why you want to do this.

As a PP said, why ask this question here then just argue with the 97% who think your decision is weird?

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it's not a drip feed, it literally says this in the OP

LaliqueSaltGrinder · 15/06/2026 07:40

Komints · 15/06/2026 07:20

I don't think getting a £15 dress from Shein makes this better btw. Child labour, lead, microplastics, wholesale design theft...

There's no way by this point anyone can say 'oh really? I'd never heard that about Shein!'
Even just the prices and location should be an obvious tell.

goodonyou.eco/how-ethical-is-shein/

No indeed, it makes it worse.

cheekynamechang3 · 15/06/2026 07:38

Namechangeforthisdilemma1 · 14/06/2026 20:43

I don’t agree with you matching him, sorry.

Fine to have some photos before he leaves. But you dressing up does make the occasion of having photos before he leaves about you. When it should be about him.

I hope I’m allowed to disagree without being called a bully…

Yes of course, as long as you don't imply incest, say her son is gay because he hasn't got a girlfriend (srsly), willfully ignore the text in the msg where she says she's posing for photos in the garden and therefore NOT attending the prom with him...or say she's a complete freak and nightmare mum.

Many posters have said all of the above which is why they have been accused of being bullies.

ETA and now people are picking up the fact she's ordered a dress from Shein.

I have no idea about the mentality of some of the posters in MN. This OP is a real person with feelings. I'm sure she gets it, most people think she's BU.

OP, if I were you, I'd disable notifications and not log in for a while... or ask for your thread to be pulled. It'll not be good for your MH to keep reading comments here.

Komints · 15/06/2026 07:20

I don't think getting a £15 dress from Shein makes this better btw. Child labour, lead, microplastics, wholesale design theft...

There's no way by this point anyone can say 'oh really? I'd never heard that about Shein!'
Even just the prices and location should be an obvious tell.

goodonyou.eco/how-ethical-is-shein/

AmusedMember · 15/06/2026 07:02

My son went to his prom in a unusual colour suit, and if I wanted to match he'd agree because he loves me and wants me to be happy. But NO way I would... It's just bizarre. A nice dress sure, but why to match him as your title suggests?