AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

Ooh, it's a bit cringe 😬 but if you won't be seen outside with him and the photos are kept between yourselves, then go for it.

You actually bought an outfit to match your son's prom outfit? That is just beyond wierd. I can never ever imagine doing something so odd. How in any shape or form did his prom night warrant a matching outfit for you? I think this post is a joke.

I did think that's nice, if you keep it to photos in the house and don't rock up at the prom.
It's a bit like The Princess of Wales, when everyone has to match though, almost like the kids are all mini her.
As PP said you don't have to match for a lovely picture.

That’s too far OP 😬

Its not something I would or did.

When both sons had their proms, the sales assistant asked them what colour dresses their date was wearing and matched their ties with the colour of the suit. This looked good without being over bearing.

Course she's not. Despite 98% of people thinking it's weird and cringey, she is persisting with her marvellous plan.

Oh no you mustn’t!! The poor boy!

Right OP, you’ve had the response and vote results. ARE YOU GOING TO RETURN THE DRESS?

On reflection, this is one of those posts where someone asks a question and when they receive an answer they will just debate it because they are convinced they are right.

Sorry but I agree with everyone else, it’s proper creepy/cringey. I have a lovely photo of me and DS taken on his prom night, I’m wearing a summer dress (the same one I’d worn all day and definitely NOT coordinated). You can look nice in a picture without going OTT

Too staged. Too me me me. It’s your boys big moment. Let him shine.

It looks charming when you see those natural pictures of proud parents in casual clothes with their child looking wonderful. This is not about you.

Creepy.

Sorry op, it’s giving Goldberg vibes.

First thing - I call a wind up. ⬆️ f it’s not a windup, are you mad? If anyone outside you family sees you (a date?) they will think you are off your rocker. And I say this as a woman who has five sons!

Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

No, he's not being unnecessarily mean. If anything, he is being fairly restrained.

Whatever happened to the leavers disco?

YABU to buy an outfit specifically to match.

Just wear a dress that you already own if you don't want to wear jeans or whatever.

I think it’s sweet. It’s not like you’re going to the prom, it’s just a few pictures at home. So what?

Perhaps your DS has a quiet word with your partner @MissRaspberryRipples that he is not happy about this?

If he is happy with it why are you even asking
Main chararcter syndrome taking over

I'm sure she will wear a wedding dress to her son's wedding!

I think you came on here expecting everyone to agree with you so you could then show this thread to your DH to justify going ahead with it. You don’t want to hear opposing views, you only want to sift out tiny bits that back your view up.

Your DS saying he’s fine with it might be true or, if you generally act in real life as you have on this thread, then he is probably just going along with for an easy life or to save offending / upsetting you.

My friend posted a prom picture from last year with her DS in the garden. He was dressed to the nines and she was as casual as can be (they live in Australia and she had been working on her house that day). The picture was delightful as it captured a proper moment in time of a proud mum with her DS who was off to have a great night, not a formal ‘on for show’ photo op.

The point OP isn’t that you’ve done something terrible or only for social media. It’s that it isn’t YOUR event. It’s not even a family event. If you want nice pictures, get the family dressed up and go to a photo place.

People are trying to gently tell you that shoe-horning yourself in just isn’t ok. You obviously didn’t mean it to come across that way but that is how it looks. Any person viewing that picture in years to come will ask why you are dressed up.

its exactly this “but I just wanted to…” “all I did was…” behaviour that people find exhausting in their family/in-laws. You can’t quite pinpoint what they did wrong but their behaviour is just..weird. Certain people just manage to make stuff about them and it’s incredibly tiresome. Don’t become that Mum.

We had lovely parents and son photos taken with us simply wearing what we happened to be wearing that day. We'd both come home from work so were moderately smart, but it never once occurred to us to go and get specifically dressed up for the photos.

I do fear your photo is going to look a bit odd, because it will look as if you were going to the prom as your son's partner. If only to save yourself the embarrassment of people misunderstanding and having to correct them, do have a rethink.