AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

Please tell me this is a joke? Your are not SERIOUSLY going to embarrass your 16 year old teenage boy by dressing up as a cross between Bo Peep and a creepy Mrs Robinson? Do you know how uncool this is? Your son will be apoplectic with rage and you'll be shunned. I hope your partner leaves you and takes the poor young man with him. Outrageous! I think you need to get with the zeitgeist 😂😱😂

I think it sounds odd because your title specifically says you are choosing to match your son. As others have said putting on something nice (but not too dressy) is fine, but buying a specific going out outfit in a matching colour is the odd bit.
Will his dad also be dressing up in a suit for a family photo? I think if you were all dressing up and potentially seeing it as a family photoshoot and getting the whole family involved it would make it seem more normal, I think it's the initial wording that implies it's a mum and son thing that stands out as you being overbearing.

Why should this 16 year old be burdened with the decision about his DMs attire. It's his prom, he shouldn't have any irrelevant decision to make at that age. The mother is old enough to pull on some smart suitable clothes and be there for her son, simple as that.

It's giving Vicky Beckham at Brooklyn's wedding!

Pretend you haven't bought a dress and ask DS whether he'd like you to buy a special dress for a pre-prom picture with him.
Let his answer be your guide.

Hi. I think it is lovely you will be having a photos with your son, great memories. As a mother of boys I would err on the side of caution and not go matchy and wear the same colour. He may not care etc, but he may find himself getting bullied or picked on or the butt of jokes by some of the other boys ( for no good reason other than that is what some kids will do if given a chance ) - you know your son, you know his school etc and what things are like, but I wouldn't risk it. get a lovely photo, just don't go as a matching set.

Well, it would be a sensible and practical outfit with no risk of upstaging her son and best chance of blurring into background

You’re going to get dressed up in a matching dress and shoes and pose for photos with your son like you’re his prom date? This is ridiculous and creepy no one does this. Just stand next to him in your jeans and wave him off like a normal parent

Nope. Don't do it.

As my daughter would say ‘that’s so cringe’

@MissRaspberryRipples
If you don't know why posters are referring to you as a boy mum:
"While being proud of a son isn't unusual, the “boy mom” stereotype takes it to a level where boundaries start to blur, with moms inserting themselves into their son's relationships, comparing themselves to girlfriends, or oversharing in ways that make others uncomfortable."

Christ, this made my toes curl with secondhand embarrassment.

Is your name Maureen and is your son called David, by any chance?

Sorry OP but it's a terrible idea, he'll be mortified. As a compromise can you leave it for prom and then arrange for you all to dress up and get some nice family photos taken some time soon?

You need to look up boy mom on tiktok and stop being one. This is so odd.

OP, sorry that you are having a hard time on here. I do think that you are being unreasonable however, and I do agree with your partner. Not because I think that you want to be your Ds's date or any such nonsense as that. It's clear that you just want to make an effort to make the evening memorable and have some nice pictures.

However in my experience as a mum of a boy, making that much effort is really not what they want at that age. He might be going along with your idea as he is a kind son but, believe me, he just wants you to be a mum, help him get prepared, and then just stay in the background. It's his night, he should be the one getting all the compliments, you should just be there to facilitate it. It's hard to step back I know, but that's my opinion I'm afraid.

Everyone's so dead against this, I've just got to vote YANBU, I can't help it...

😂😂😂

I’m loving that you’re going to do this anyway. Even though the vast majority of pp are of the same opinion as your dp. I cringe inside but admire your tenacity to go your own way.

Odd that OP wants to twin with her son on his prom. I’d think it even more cringe if OP’s son an “individual” dresser & OP’s gone & copied him to join in with his “individuality”. The whole response to her post is that she’s stepping on his individuality by trying to twin, take the focus from him or worse still look like his date. It is odd!

Oh God
please don’t. This is so horrible. You’ve got to let go at some point, OP.
maybe therapy instead of a purple dress … if you want to do something truly kind for him. Therapy.

No

I was able to read what you said, I was agreeing saying yes I would still have paid all that, I was pointing out with the background information that we don't know what's going on in other people's lives that can make small thing seem really important. You then turned nasty and ran away with it, as if I was making excuses, I wasnt, I didn't need to. Any implication was perceived incorrectly I can assure you.
As for your passive aggressive values comment, enjoy your snipiness, I completely agree after your comments I very much doubt we do share the same ones.
I won't be engaging further, I given the OP my opinion and you and I clearly are not going to agree.
I wish you and your family happiness and really hope your partner is doing as well as he can, illness and it's affects are unfair to all.

Christ, you've got it all worked out, haven't you. That's hilarious.

Per Una indeed.

Seriously? Firstly, that’s terrible fashion advice and secondly, the son clearly has his own great, unique taste. If he’s got the confidence to wear what he wants to his prom then he already has the solid mates and confidence to brush off any ridiculous comments from any kids who somehow might get to see photos that are never being made public.

Are you being ironic?

Why are you trying to encourage the OP to look old fashioned?

I'd have paid that money regardless, 2022 could have been out best year yet and she'd still have worn a red carpet ready dress

That's exactly what I said. You implied that you did it because it'd been a shit year.

You and I probably have very different values, so I really wouldn't expect us to agree on what's cool or faux cool. We clearly don't share a sense of humour, because I was being facetious anyway.