AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

All the bullies that never outgrew school are on here OP

Take a nice photo together, anyone who had an issue with that is just a sad bully 💜

Is this a dress you bought just to put on in your house? For an event you aren't going to?
Or there's at least a formal-ish pre prom party you are both going to?

I sometimes wonder if women like the OP remember what it was like to be a teenager themselves? I mean making sure you’ve got a nice top to have your photo taken with him before he goes to prom would probably be more forethought than most people would put in, buying an entire outfit in a matching colour is way out there unless you’re Victoria Beckham, and she’s got dresses to flog for her business. Also at 16 I very much doubt he’s not interested in having a girlfriend, it’s more likely that girls aren’t interested in having him as a boyfriend.

Op please don’t do this by all means get a photo with your son but please don’t dress up for the occasion hope your son has a fantastic prom and best of luck to him

This sounds horrendous and glad he’s your ex can 100% understand why he had multiple relationship breakdowns

I love the sound of a purple suit! I’ve so far had 3 out of 4 of mine’s prom and I used to love to see a boy or girl in a more ‘out there’ outfit, I expect he will look fab!
Having read your posts and he’s just having some photos with you and you’re not hosting a ‘pres’ or going to the actual prom then it’s only going to be you and your family who sees you match anyway isn’t it? For our proms we’ve hosted ‘pres’ and most mums wore something sort of smart casual so they could have a nice photo with their kids too. I don’t think anyone wore a dress but if you aren’t with other parents then you can wear anything?
With all our proms the parents always go to look at them all arriving as they come in anything from a mini to a Porsche to a tank! Are you sure you aren’t going to watch them all arrive? If you are I’d quickly change again before then.

It's clear, given the very few comments you have answered, that you're doing this no matter how many people tell you it's creepy/innappropriate etc. Why bother asking, you obviously think it's all good. Plus side if you post the picture to tik tok you'd probably make enough cash to pay for your son's therapy and his aversion to anything purple in later life.

Oh God, don't. All three of mine would be/would have been utterly mortified. Don't be that Parent.

Why are parents getting in their kid’s prom pictures? I don’t understand…

I am constantly amazed by the random and frankly bizarre ways in which people judge others. Do you know what I would assume if a parent dropped off their child at prom wearing standard clothes? That they were a normal person who had their own life and didn’t attempt to insert themselves into the celebratory events of everyone else. Dressing yourself up for someone else’s prom is akin to taking a cake for yourself to someone else’s birthday party. It’s not your day, it’s not your moment.

Why would you dress up to drive your kid to a prom, or anywhere for that matter? Surely you don't even get out of the car?

It's not something I would do. I had a photo with DD before her prom and I was wearing denim shorts. I do think you are getting a very hard time here. Just have the photo done and keep the memory, ignore the haters.

Sorry yes I think it’s creepy and over the top

... apart from his Mum who, for some weird reason has got herself a matching dress.

I'm a teacher so I've been to loads of Proms and seen loads of photos. It's a bit jarring when parents are dropping kids off in their scruffs, I like it when they make the effort too.
It's my turn this year and I'm sort of complementing my daughter's dress with an opposite but matching coloured nice summer dress. Not too formal, like something I'd wear on holiday one evening.
Mind you, I have saved the cut-off fabric from the dress alterations to make a matching bandana for the dog for family photos so make of that what you will!

I had a brief moment reading this of thinking ‘crap I haven’t thought for a second what I’m going to wear’ then realised that’s NORMAL!
I would quite like a family photo pre Prom so might remember to put some make up on but otherwise dress casual and stay right out of the way!

I’ve had a son and daughter who have had their proms already and have more next year and the year after and I’m sorry but this is just weird. I suppose each to their own but I just think it’s your sons night, you are not his date my son matched his date as in his tie colour. It’s his day not yours also.

My son would have been mortified if I did this to him. I think I’d feel a bit mortified too.

It does sound a little weird. He’s only leaving compulsory schooling, not getting married or graduating.

Not grammar, it’s vocabulary.

lol 😝 I know! I don’t think I have ever said I’ve ’purchased’ something in my life. And I don’t recall anyone I know saying it either. For solicitors’ letters only.

Nooooooooo!!!!

Leave him alone to have his day and don’t make it all about you. You say you want photos but why do you have to dress up in a matching outfit? Why can’t you have just ONE photo of you, DH (both dressed in ordinary clothes) with your son in the middle?
I’d expect some massive eye rolls when you show people your photos.
PS I pity any future daughter in law!

Monster in law vibes

Good luck to anyone who marries this kid

Do you not think this would be a tad cringey for your son?