Told someone I was pregnant today…

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I might start asking that at every pregnancy announcement.

Was you a teen mum

“ Oh please accept our sincerest apologies for not being loud enough”. 🤣

The response I had was “so, you’ve had sex then”

Wasn’t quite sure what to do with that!

I had my first at 23 (unmarried at the time, married now!) We had our own home, full time jobs etc....no one asked me if I had planned my pregnancy (I had!). I must just have one of those faces 🤣

I had a neighbour who told me she was pregnant as we walked home from school with our kids . Hers were 8 and 5 then . I asked I thought gently if she was OK with that . She burst out crying and said I was the only one who realised that it might not be planned or expected. We had a cup of tea , she calmed down and said it was such a shock to her that she didn't know what to do. She decided to keep her pregnancy and was happy with her decision.

Nowt as queer as folk as the saying goes! Expect more weirdness from people throughout the pregnancy, folk can't help themselves imo.

Oh i had a tesco cashier ask me this!!

Ive been going in there for years once a week and i get that customers and cashiers recognise each other and chat a bit of small talk. How are you? When's your holiday? Enjoying half term ect ect

But one day this cashier woman said bla bla bla about the weather and then how olds your youngest now? and i said 8 or what ever it was <packing bag packing bag>

... and then she said 'you've got 4 yes?

yes.

Have they all got the same dad?

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I did a gold fish impression i swear! Opened and closed my mouth a few times and then said sweetly no actually - i'm twice married. And paid and hurried off. Rude!

I avoid her till now.

This happened to me at work, with my second DC, and the person asking the question was someone in HR!! It was later used as an example in a training session of things not to say 🤦🏻‍♀️

I had someone at work ask me the same. I was married, own home etc, and already had a 2 year old. I said of course. It then transpired that he’d got 2 women pregnant at the same time (at the same time I was pregnant), so I’m guessing it was more about him than me!!

OP was the person who said it to you young? I remember saying this to someone when I was in my early twenties and now cringe about it in my fifties! It was a work colleague I was pretty close to and she already had two kids and seemed stressed-a lot! When she told me she was pregnant with her third I just blurted it out. Why the fuck did I say that? What a complete idiot! Now I’m a mum and more mature I of course wouldn’t dream of asking someone this. I really have form for putting my foot in it. I don’t engage my brain before I speak!

I feel like I might say this by accident to a good friend without thinking because if I was pregnant it would very much be unplanned (despite being married and a proper adult - so I've never been in the headspace of wanting to get pregnant intentionally and therefore my only experience is the 'oh fuck I need to test' panic) and I would be thinking with myself in mind, but I'd immediately follow up with being very pleased for you!

Was she trying to (awkwardly) ask if you were happy about the news?

completely clutching at non-existant straws

Congratulations btw!

A little bit, yeah. If they knew your circumstances.

But if you'd never spoken of wanting kids to them before they may have genuinely thought you'd chosen not to. Not everyone married and aged 33 does want them.

I hope you just happily replied that it was (presumably) and didn't let it offend you.

It's one of those common questions, a simple yes or no.

I was married for 6 months and my micro manager asked if it was wanted when I disclosed my pregnancy. I imagine my face didn't convey extreme happiness as I had been dreading telling him.

Congratulations on your pregnancy!! 💐

I have multiple kids very close in age and get asked: “Do they all have the same Dad?” 😆

It’s always men who ask - never had this from a woman. I’m early 40s, middle class, well educated professional, own my own house and look quite boring. (Not saying Mums with kids by multiple partners look wild and aren’t professionals but I’m just throwing this in for the sake of those who judge by appearance- I don’t.)

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Perfect response!!

@BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw I had the same. I was mid 20s married 2 years own home and a colleague asked if it was planned... eh yes! Werid!

Although i was with a friend once who was pregnant with twins and she was asked by another woman in our company if her twins were planned... (she had been ttc for ages) her reply was great "well one of them was"

I don't see anything wrong with this its just figuring out whether it's something to celebrate or to reassure you about

I told someone I was pregnant once and they said “is that a good thing?” err yeah wouldnt be telling you if it wasn’t 😕

Should have told her it was FIL !

Tell them you slipped and fell on a raw one

Ummm, I was 27, had bought a home, full time job, married for two years and was asked the exact same question…by my mother in law. That baby is now 36 and my MIL died years ago, but I’ve never forgotten it.

Suffice to say, she wasn’t a fan of mine. She didn’t have a close relationship with her grandchildren, partly as a result. It was her loss.

Surprisingly, I ended up being her favourite daughter in law (there were three of us).

It is an odd response, but some people are odd.