Told someone I was pregnant today…

Sometimes I do ask ‘How are you feeling about that?’ before congratulating someone especially if they have some
kind of circumstances that might make it particularly hard.

Obviously if they are beaming with joy or we are just acquaintances (so they probably wouldn’t be talking to me if they were unhappy about it) I just jump straight to the congratulations.

Yes I’m thinking it might be the sort of thing I’d say! Clearly I won’t now!

She getting all the responses mixed up because she is hell-bent on having an argument.

I'm almost certain it was actually me who mentioned the little thing called financial security and stability... meaning the people were financially astute enough to actually save for a deposit, be reviewed by a bank and given a mortgage that would have been stress tested etc. And stability in that it is very difficult (certainly in Ireland where I live) to repossess a family residence where children reside.

The angry responder is actually the one who brought up social housing herself 😂

And she's completely misunderstood that it's certainly a milestone (In Ireland & UK particularly where property ownership is a very normal trend) in family life.... date, engaged, marry, buy house, have kids, etc.

And then unfortunately it's just derailed the thread which had some funny light-hearted comments throughout.

Haha ikr…the replies are so odd.

I did all of mine backwards:

• got pregnant
• rented together
• had baby
• got engaged
• bought house
• got married

but we’ve been together for 22 years now (married 16) so something is going right lol 😂

Yeah she has done the same to me too…full attack more enabled.

I didn’t say ‘a little thing called’ how condescending would that be. I didn’t even bring up the idea of owning a home in the first place.

you have a huge chip on your shoulder. Genuinely, I think you need to reread the posts and realise that nobody is judging anyone for not owning a home. It is literally just that for someone to have made the decision to purchase a property with another person is a HUGE lifelong commitment, far more so than renting is. You can get out of a rental contract easily, but buying a house with someone means you’ve put all your eggs in one basket, and is indicative of the relationship being very serious. It doesn’t mean that a relationship isn’t serious if you rent, the two things aren’t mutually exclusive.

Bizarre responses here, honestly bizarre. Please just reread the comments in the nature in which they were intended.

Sometimes people don’t know how to react so they just say the first thought that pops up.

If you have twins you get the most ridiculous comments (speaks from experience…)
are they identical (they’re a boy and a girl)
did you plan twins
are they “natural” 🙄
etc etc

Nothing if thats what you want for me personally to old to be having kids.

@cuckoolodger 😂😂😂

What's wrong with being 39?

The one that has made you angrily copy and paste the same reponse on every post you can - you sound invested and a bit obsessed

Ah yes, allow me to mansplain to you. Woman to woman.

Unintended results of male-centric healthcare.

These foolios honest to God think if you haven’t popped one out by 30 for family Christmas card reasons, that you’ll just never “get around to it” or “feel broody” 🙄

Do you know how many women go through invasive fertility treatment BEFORE their spouse even gets his sperm checked?

100% of all IVF and probably 99.8% of ICI (don’t fucking @ me about your turkey baster, you 0.2%).

Why exactly does a woman getting a shoehorn up her fafallywong strike ANYONE as the appropriate test BEFORE you make a dude whose sperm is probably filled with microplastics give a painless sample?!

Sorry. Some shit trumpet asking you if it was planned got me all het up 😂 We should probably just be glad at least half of them have figured out we don’t pee out our vaginas.

You’re really showing your ignorance now! Plenty of people live in social housing due to disabilities, death of a spouse, complex situations. Doesn’t make them in any way ‘less than’. What a ridiculous question.
Also, I think you’ll find that regardless of children, your home CAN & WILL be repossessed if you fail to pay for it! Regardless of what country you’re in, it’s not a free for all.
Re: the thread being turned into a battleground, I think you’ll find that plenty of other posters have done that!

What nerve’s that then? I’m a homeowner with no mortgage due to inheritance. What nerve has been hit exactly???

You know very well what you were implying with stating that homeownership brings a little thing called financial stability and security It implies loudly that non-homeowners don’t have that! You’re being deliberately obtuse and are just pretending to not understand.

My sister told her partner she was pregnant with their 3rd, he said oh thats nice whos is it.
5 seconds later he paused then looked at her like a dear in headlights, ooooo ha haaaa it sank in what she had just said.
Baby is now 21 years.

This reminds me of me of when I had my second child. I had an elective c section and obviously the surgeon came to chat to me in pre op, went over the surgery etc and then went on to discuss birth control options for after. It was the way he worded it. Like right now how do we stop you getting into this mess again haha. I’m married mid 30s, 2nd, very much planned child and I felt like I was being scolded for giving birth and being pregnant.

this is lighthearted, I get he was doing his job and it’s probably protocol and for a lot of people needed but I found it quite funny.

I once had a lovely shop assistant pass my test through her till and very gently said 'I hope you get the result you are hoping for' which I guess may have upset some people but it was her mannerism that felt kind.
I'd brought the test after an ectopic pregnancy, to find out if my hormones had finally dropped. It was nice that she didn't automatically assume it would be a positive thing to be positive.

😀

It's a stupid question to ask anyone so not sure why I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years. is relevant. Would you think it were OK to ask someone like me who has two children and no interest in marriage?

Yeah but I don’t think you’d be announcing the pregnancy if you weren’t keeping it would you

Not at all i would of thought its more of a struggle for people who tip toe around each other and are to scared to talk to their friends and family.

It's a rude question to ask someone, but not an odd one - being married for two years doesn't mean you have to be planning a baby. However, it's no-one's business whether it was planned or not. Congratulations!

Its not really but it is kinda interesting and its not something i would mind answering. People ask semi personal questions a lot. Isn't it just part of conversation?