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Told someone I was pregnant today…

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BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 13/06/2026 13:57

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

OP posts:
MsGreying · 13/06/2026 14:15

cuckoolodger · 13/06/2026 14:10

My mother in law said” oh, do you know who’s the dad?….. I had been married to her son for 4 years!

We have a winner!

FFS! You poor soul.

Reptilesthatiswhattheyare · 13/06/2026 14:14

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HardFuckingBird · 13/06/2026 14:10

That is strange. Clearly it's not polite for anyone to ask that (unless they're your doctor or midwife perhaps), but asking a married 33-year-old does seem bizarre. I had two children in my early 30s (also married and a homeowner) and not a single person asked me if it was planned or assumed either pregnancy was anything other than good news, even though I (deliberately) had a very small age gap. Did you get any sense as to what their agenda was, OP? Was it someone who doesn't like you?

PrayForPlagues · 13/06/2026 14:10

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 13/06/2026 13:57

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

“Yes, we’ve been going bareback for a while now”

That soon shuts them up

MoleskineNotebooks · 13/06/2026 14:10

I had someone ask the same, and I was 39, with my DH since my teens, a homeowner and a fairly senior professional. I pointed out that if it had been unplanned I’d be having a termination, not making pregnancy announcements and that in neither case would it be any of her business.

cuckoolodger · 13/06/2026 14:10

My mother in law said” oh, do you know who’s the dad?….. I had been married to her son for 4 years!

BudgetBuster · 13/06/2026 14:06

BakedPotatoBeansCheeseColeslaw · 13/06/2026 13:57

…and they asked if it was planned! 🤦‍♀️

I’m 33, own my own home, and have been married for over two years.

AIBU to think this was a bit of an odd response?!

People say the strangest things

On my first child, when a neighbour found out I was pregnant (married, own our house, 2 working professionals) the first thing they said was "Oh I didn't know you were trying..."

😂 Just obscure things that ain't nobody's business haha