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Bus seat deference to a nun

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Relightmy · 13/06/2026 12:39

On holiday overseas recently DH gave up his seat on the bus for a nun who got on at a later bus stop.

The nun wasn’t particularly elderly, didn’t look infirm, and DH is very much an atheist from a non-religious family.

When I asked why her given up his seat he had no explanation beyond “Well, she’s a nun”.

AIBU to think this was a curious move by DH?

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Relightmy · 13/06/2026 12:48

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 13/06/2026 12:43

Wasn’t particularly elderly, so was elderly?

She was an older person - maybe 60s - but there were women on the bus of a similar age that he didn’t stand for.

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perlan · 13/06/2026 12:45

You should be so proud of your DH. Chivalry and good manners are not very prevalent these days. Who knows, his action may encourage others to do the same!

mynameiscalypso · 13/06/2026 12:45

I would probably do the same despite being atheist. Not sure why though. A sign of respect maybe?

TicketyBoo11 · 13/06/2026 12:44

Random acts of kindness are a lovely thing in this day and age.

ALovelyPinkUnicorn · 13/06/2026 12:43

Wasn’t particularly elderly, so was elderly?

ForAlertLurker · 13/06/2026 12:43

I am guessing the OP was on holiday in a country with a higher population of religious sisters such as Italy or Malta? It was a polite thing for the DH to do and was good manners. He didn't tell the OP to give up her seat so why is she bothered?