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DH and I disagree about Soap 😳

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anotherdaytosmile · 13/06/2026 12:27

DH has put a fresh bar of soap out today, his trusty Imperial Leather. He thinks it’s a classy soap based on his childhood perspective in the late 1970s. I think it’s one step up from carbolic. I want Jo Malone soap 😢

AIBU - imperial leather is pure luxury
AINBU - what next, waxy toilet paper?

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NoWordForFluffy · 13/06/2026 13:31

RealEagle · 13/06/2026 12:51

Are we married to the same man ? my husband is exactly the same with imperial leather soap.I have my dove .

Dove isn't actually technically soap.

We have soap here. DH prefers it, so two of our three loos have soap. The en suite only has hand wash. He uses the washing up liquid in the kitchen while I also have hand wash in there.

We also have soap in the shower. He uses bog standard supermarket soap, I use shower gel first all over, and then Dettol soap for my underarms as it's great for weird peri-related sweat issues (tip I read on here).

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/06/2026 13:31

likeafishneedsabike · 13/06/2026 13:17

I assumed that everybody had left their soap bars in the 80s and now used shower gel. And yet everyone here is behaving as if bars of soap are normal, not retro. Mind blown.

Edited

Look in any shops that sell any kind of bathroom products- whole shelves of soap! Somebody obviously buys it. We have bar soap in the shower, DH likes Dove because he has sensitive skin, and refillable hand-wash in the washbasins. Bar soap doesn't spread germs in a domestic setting, it rinses off.

tinyspiny · 13/06/2026 13:30

We have a mix of hand wash and bar soap on our basins , currently using L’Occitane cherry blossom , which is lovely . Of the soap available in supermarkets imperial leather is one of the better ones .

Carouseloflife · 13/06/2026 13:30

Don’t they both have similar ingredients

TeenLifeMum · 13/06/2026 13:30

Marycontrarygarden · 13/06/2026 12:35

Bar soap? That everyone uses? Ugh

Tell me your level of science knowledge without telling me your gcse results 😂😂😂 sharing soap isn’t gross due to how soap works.

Get a dish of water, sprinkle in pepper then add a tiny bit of soap and watch how it behaves. My dc did this age 9 so maybe you had chicken pox that day but always good to keep learning.

likeafishneedsabike · 13/06/2026 13:30

user1476613140 · 13/06/2026 13:23

I use bar soap in the shower daily from Highland Soap Co. I also use the shampoo bars. Luxury stuff. I won't go back to plastic bottles.

This highland soap looks gorgeous. Expensive but maybe it lasts a long time.

cheekynamechang3 · 13/06/2026 13:29

I use Pears shower gel. The smell is so nostalgic. I expect you disapprove OP.

Don't ban Imperial Leather OP, it gives your husband happy, nostalgic vibes.

notacooldad · 13/06/2026 13:28

Im agreeing with others.
Its not a big deal to have your own soap. You can please yourself what you get then.

managingexpectations · 13/06/2026 13:28

Imperial leather 🤢 I hate the smell!
if he loved his ”luxury” soap let him have it and get a second soap dish for your preferred option.

I have 2 bars just for me. Detol soap for first scrub then a nice L’occitaine one for second scrub 😂😂😂 but then I’m a bit of a weirdo about getting clean

FatRosie · 13/06/2026 13:27

likeafishneedsabike · 13/06/2026 13:17

I assumed that everybody had left their soap bars in the 80s and now used shower gel. And yet everyone here is behaving as if bars of soap are normal, not retro. Mind blown.

Edited

Shower gel is detergent, as is hand wash. Soap is soap. Look at the ingredients.

Soap: Ingredients

Sodium Palmate, Aqua, Sodium Palm Kernelate, Glycerin, Palm Kernel Acid, Tetrasodium Etidronate

Handwash: Ingredients
Vegan formula. Find out more.
Water / Aqua / Eau, Sodium Laureth Sulfate, Cocamidopropyl Betaine, Propylene Glycol, Laureth-7 Citrate, Glycerin, Coco-Glucoside, Fragrance / Parfum, Citrus Aurantium Dulcis (Orange) Peel Oil, Polyquaternium-7, Lonicera Caprifolium (Honeysuckle) Flower Extract, Lonicera Japonica (Honeysuckle) Flower Extract, Ethylhexyl Salicylate, Butyl Methoxydibenzoylmethane, Diethylhexyl Syringylidenemalonate, Limonene, Linalool, Hexyl Cinnamal, Amyl Cinnamal, Hydroxycitronellal, Eugenol, Tocopherol, Sodium Phytate, Tetrasodium Glutamate Diacetate, Sodium Benzoate, Phenoxyethanol, Citric Acid, Sodium Hydroxide, Peg-18 Glyceryl Oleate/Cocoate, Sodium Chloride, Hydrogenated Palm Glycerides Citrate, Alcohol Denat., Yellow 5 / C.I. 19140

PinkPonyAnonymous · 13/06/2026 13:26

gamerchick · 13/06/2026 12:31

Why can't you have both?

Husband loves IL but we won't buy it as the cat goes mad licking the bath after his shower. Doesn't happen with any other soap.

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That is hilarious! Does your cat respond to any other soaps????

OP, my husband and I have separate soaps and shower gels because we like different scents.

lottiegarbanzo · 13/06/2026 13:26

I mean I like bars of soap- but I wouldn’t choose that one.

Zuve · 13/06/2026 13:26

The best ever soap is olive oil soap, you can get it on amazon

Katemax82 · 13/06/2026 13:26

I buy Waitrose essentials soap so yes you are being unreasonable. Save Jo Malone for body cream

Lunde · 13/06/2026 13:26

DH was an Imperial Leather fan - I was not. He was not a fan of feminine floral scents ... so we each had our own soap. However in recent years I have managed to get him to use liquid soaps and shower gels (green apple or lemon).

GasPanic · 13/06/2026 13:25

Don't like soap that much. Hangs around getting manky.

Soap dishes also collect moisture which can lead to mould behind them.

Shower gel and liquid soap all the way.

Although I would like it if the dispensers were a bit more environmentally friendly.

OtterLovesItsRock · 13/06/2026 13:25

I like Faith in Nature soaps. You can buy a boxful.

lottiegarbanzo · 13/06/2026 13:24

Imperial Leather is 70s/80s nostalgia soap. I didn’t know you could still get it. It always went dry and cracked near the end, in an unpleasant way.

CaptainMyCaptain · 13/06/2026 13:24

UhOhRatPoo · 13/06/2026 12:35

Your husband should know that the properly classy 1970s soap was Camay, not Imperial Leather. I used to love those ads with the ladies all covered in foam!

I remember Camay but we were allergic to it.

user1476613140 · 13/06/2026 13:23

likeafishneedsabike · 13/06/2026 13:17

I assumed that everybody had left their soap bars in the 80s and now used shower gel. And yet everyone here is behaving as if bars of soap are normal, not retro. Mind blown.

Edited

I use bar soap in the shower daily from Highland Soap Co. I also use the shampoo bars. Luxury stuff. I won't go back to plastic bottles.

MagnusCanis · 13/06/2026 13:22

Soap is soap is soap for me.

Tangentially related bonus comment: one of the silver linings of the COVID pandemic was bars and restaurants got much better at keeping soap/handwash in their toilets.

AutisticLass2026 · 13/06/2026 13:22

My dh changed to Imperial last year and it actually makes him come back from work still actually smelling ok. Because other brands he tried ugh I could tell when we was coming into the house despite all the deodorants he was using to...However I'm allergic to most so have my Palmolive one...Also we recently went away for a few days and can I say by accident we found out Imperial is amazing on stains, I spilt some wine we had nothing but the soap and it took stain straight out

Random321 · 13/06/2026 13:22

Ah I love Jo Malone so but I can't think of any scent the produce that I would like a man smelling like.

Men smell better with scents like forests, wood etc.

Let him hace his scent and you have yours!

PinkTonic · 13/06/2026 13:20

likeafishneedsabike · 13/06/2026 13:17

I assumed that everybody had left their soap bars in the 80s and now used shower gel. And yet everyone here is behaving as if bars of soap are normal, not retro. Mind blown.

Edited

It’s not retro to try to reduce single use plastic. We use bar soap, washing powder in a cardboard box, glass milk bottles…

MrsEndeavourMorse · 13/06/2026 13:20

25mini7 · 13/06/2026 13:19

What was the soap in an irredesent box called? I loved that stuff in the 80's

Pearl?