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DH and I disagree about Soap 😳

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anotherdaytosmile · 13/06/2026 12:27

DH has put a fresh bar of soap out today, his trusty Imperial Leather. He thinks it’s a classy soap based on his childhood perspective in the late 1970s. I think it’s one step up from carbolic. I want Jo Malone soap 😢

AIBU - imperial leather is pure luxury
AINBU - what next, waxy toilet paper?

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user1476613140 · 13/06/2026 17:16

Differentforgirls · 13/06/2026 13:17

Me!

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And me!

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 13/06/2026 17:15

Matsukaze · 13/06/2026 16:46

I'm just intrigued. No food is safe around my cat. I'm just wondering what his reponse to IL would be 😂

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Our malecat is all over DD when she uses Byoma lotion on her legs , licks her ankles Shock

It rubs the lotion on it's skin like Silence of the Lambs voice

MaleCat is an utter little weirdo though !

Trumptontown · 13/06/2026 17:15

Now I know why so many people these days stink - because they’re soap dodgers who think shower gel is just as effective (it really isn’t).

Team DH here.

outdooryone · 13/06/2026 17:15

Soap user here - I just don't like contributing all that plastic unnecessarily. Plus, I feel I can clean more with soap.
I'm not an Imperial Leather user - Aran Aromatics or Highland Soap company when I can, or whatever smells nice in TK Maxx soap area!

SanctusInDistress · 13/06/2026 17:13

The only soap that doesn’t shred by hands to bits it’s Dove. If I could I’d use imperial leather too, it’s got the proper ‘clean soap’ smell.

NoWordForFluffy · 13/06/2026 17:09

msmolli · 13/06/2026 17:03

😂😂

Is this where we are now?

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Well, this is Mumsnet!

PickAChew · 13/06/2026 17:07

Nsky62 · 13/06/2026 14:37

I prefer liquid handwash, Bio s unfragranced easy to use and buy in 5 litres, lasts ages, just cat and I

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We buy this for in the kitchen and for DS2, who has learning difficulties and can't manage to "work" a bar of soap. We have that alongside actual soap by the bathroom sinks.

HighHeelsRedLips · 13/06/2026 17:05

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 13/06/2026 12:31

Look its soap, it does the job it's supposed to do. Not sure I'd want to spend on Jo Malone just to rinse it down the sink.

I know right! Imperial Leather all the way…
down the plug hole.

soap GIF
msmolli · 13/06/2026 17:03

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 13/06/2026 16:55

Germ carrying either way. Always use liquid soap, far healthier.

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Is this where we are now?

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 13/06/2026 16:55

Germ carrying either way. Always use liquid soap, far healthier.

Matsukaze · 13/06/2026 16:46

tartyflette · 13/06/2026 16:24

Cat being cat.
Who knew?
(They’re all weirdos. Probably why we love them)

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I'm just intrigued. No food is safe around my cat. I'm just wondering what his reponse to IL would be 😂

Futurehappiness · 13/06/2026 16:41

rainbowunicorn · 13/06/2026 16:38

Do you not understand how soap works or something? Why would you be disgusted at someone else using the same soap? How strange.

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I don't understand why anyone would be 'disgusted' at using the same soap bar, even though it is far less disgusting than handling a liquid soap dispenser straight after people who have touched it right after being on the loo.

user4903456342 · 13/06/2026 16:40

Pears is the childhood memory soap for me, but it smells different now and dries out my skin.

I bought Japanese persimmon soap when we were going on a hiking holiday in a very hot country and have used it ever since. The brand I bought is lovely and creamy but still leaves me feeling super clean (we both use it).

And Acqua di Parma hand wash in glass bottles. Amazing scents and they use glycerine in place of a lot of the ickier ingredients.

TheBot · 13/06/2026 16:39

steff13 · 13/06/2026 15:52

So do y'all use the same shampoo and conditioner and everything? We've always had our own preferred toiletries, I thought that was common. It's what my family did growing up, too.

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Yes. We used bar shampoo but I just buy supermarket conditioner. The shower would be a bit cluttered if everyone had their own.

rainbowunicorn · 13/06/2026 16:38

DidYeAye16 · 13/06/2026 14:11

If anyone used the same soap as me id be disgusted. I've got a tropics one and everyone else uses shower gel. Why don't you just get what you want and use different soap.

Do you not understand how soap works or something? Why would you be disgusted at someone else using the same soap? How strange.

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 13/06/2026 16:36

MabelAnderson · 13/06/2026 15:56

I have a few bars of pre reformulation Pears stacked away just to sniff.
My favourite childhood one was Knight’s Castile, anyone remember that ? It smelt wonderful.

I read this as 'pre-reformation Pears' and I thought, blimey that's a long time to have had soap hidden away...

tichbrew · 13/06/2026 16:34

I don't like Imperial leather it was what my parents always bought though. I prefer Dove or a nice handmade soap. I've never tried Jo Malone soap so I couldn't say about that.

Useyourfork · 13/06/2026 16:34

I’ve rediscovered bar soap recently after purchasing some magnetic holders to stick the soap to the wall so no gammy residue!
I went to buy some Pears and found out that they now do different fragrances! My bathroom has never smelt better.
Still have hand soap in the guest bathroom but I’m a happy bar soap convert😊

Rosesarere · 13/06/2026 16:30

TheBot · 13/06/2026 12:57

I only use liquid soap in kitchen and toilet.
While I agree it's not the soap of luxury and I prefer Pears, it has one benefit. The little sticky label means you can balance it on the side of the bath and it doesn't slip off or go soggy.

Is this why it has the label????

WhereYouLeftIt · 13/06/2026 16:26

We use a glycerine soap to wash at the sink (zero packaging), and a local shop stocks The English Soap Company's Kew Gardens Collection which we use in the shower (paper wrap). That started as a treat at Christmas a few years back, but then I just decided (think L'Oreal adverts) I was worth it!

DH and I disagree about Soap 😳
tartyflette · 13/06/2026 16:24

Matsukaze · 13/06/2026 12:51

The cat licks the bath after IL used??

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Cat being cat.
Who knew?
(They’re all weirdos. Probably why we love them)

OhThePotential · 13/06/2026 16:16

MrsShawnHatosy · 13/06/2026 15:18

Hmmm. You should really only use stuff on the dog that’s specially formulated for them. Would you wash yourself with dog shampoo?

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I would and do wash my hair with our cat shampoo (Nootie Sweet Pea) as its gorgeous and I had to buy a literal gallon of it, but I believe you should never use human toiletries on pets.

WhosGotTheKeysToMyBimma · 13/06/2026 16:14

We're a Pears household but IL is in the same sort of genre I think - a classic.

Bars in the bathrooms but I bought a bottle of the hand-wash for the downstairs loo.

DH was a shower gel man but now the hot weather has arrived he prefers the squeaky clean sensation of a bar of soap. Converted!

mumofoneAloneandwell · 13/06/2026 16:14

Yanbu

I suspect you have to do all the interior design as he'd be happy with a single leather seat and a massive tv!

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