AIBU for not checking on DH and the kids during flight?

Maybe everyone is misreading it as a 12 and half hour flight ✈️

Madness.👀

Yehhhh I’d have defo wanted my hubby to check on me! I wouldn’t have been able to go to the loo/stretch legs etc. I’d probably have offered to swap half way through the flight.

This thread is truly mind-blowing to me.

I still have no idea as to why a man looking after his kids on his own for 2.5 hour is such an issue or why the OP is expected to 'check on him' or swap seat with him halfway through to relieve him from his burden, poor lamb...

Or that the OP lacks 'kindness' and 'empathy' for not doing so.

Unbelievable.

How did you agree that it would be him sitting with the kids? Did he volunteer or did it just ‘happen’ while you were boarding? When did you realise there was one seat far away from the others? Did you try and swap with another passenger or just swan off on your own, like ‘see ya DH!’
If it just kind of happened that he sat down then I would feel hard done by if I were him, and would have expected you to swap halfway through the flight. If you both agreed that it would be him to sit with them for whatever reason, then fair enough.

If you barely had time to read because he left you to carry the load whilst on holiday, then good on you. However, if he was doing 50% during the holiday then YABU, most couples would swap.
BTW I’m a single Mum of two and you cope on flights because you have to, as a couple you don’t!

Another one who comes on AIBU to ask if they’re being unreasonable when they don’t think they are.

Did you just hope for lots of pats on the back for sticking it to the patriarchy?

You’re very edgy.

Some of us have relationships where we consider each other.

I sat next to a woman with a 3 year old on a flight a couple of years ago. She got up and left him saying mummy will be back soon. He started to cry and then got up and wandered off. Mum came back to her seat to find child was gone and started shouting at me about why I hadn’t watched him. 🤯 She had already been rude to me when I had asked to get past her so no way was I getting involved, especially when I hadn’t been asked. The child was found, obviously, with another passenger but it took a while as they hadn’t alerted staff.

we had one seat upgraded to business and I did not check on my ex and kids for the 8hr flight. He was perfectly capable and had been working away for 2yrs at that point, so yeah, I deserved my 8hrs in luxury. He is being ridiculous.

Nearly spat my drink out.

He managed to go to the loo without me holding his willy for him.

so true though.

Oh my God I'd have taken a child and dropped it on my husband's knee after about an hour if he did that yabu

Of course my husband can and does parent our children. But flights are a specific version of carnage sometimes and it’s just kind to swing by at some point to make sure there hasn’t been a disaster of some sort. I know at that age there was regularly an outfit change or something super annoying to deal with solo. And yes of course either of us would manage it on our own when needed, but we are lucky enough to have a two parent household so we help each other too.

Who sat with the kids on the way out?

I can’t imagine not going down to say hello at any point on a flight, it does seem pretty weird to me

Would you have been happy had you sat with the DC and your DH had not checked up on how you were doing, offered to swap seats half-way through the flight?

I love it op. A bit of time and peace for you while he the poor man had to parent solo for a whole 2.5hours.

My heart bleeds for him.

I fly two or three times a year. It’s just me and my daughter so she’s usually at the window with me in the middle seat so the aisle seat next to me is free. More often than not a family are across the row from me with one parent seated with 2 children and the other parent sat next to me. In the last 12 years it has NEVER been the mum that takes the single seat, it’s always the dad. And they are usually playing on their phones with headphones in.

My DH can cope, he’s an incredible father. I just wouldn’t leave him for 2.5 hours without so much as being able to go for a piss… We’re a team and I’m not utterly selfish.

You left an 8 month old on their own in their seat?!

And what if your very young child won’t sit by themselves while you take the other child to the loo? Or you need to go to the loo yourself?If only there was another parent in this situation who could take over for a few minutes…

if roles were switched I’d be fuming

This is the third thread that’s talked about this topic for slightly different reasons that I’ve read in the last 3 days. They all sound very similar and I’m doubting them all now. It sounds like someone has come up with what they think is an interesting topic for attention.