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AIBU for not checking on DH and the kids during flight?

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Dhflightsulk · 13/06/2026 11:36

We recently returned from an abroad holiday, we left the online check in too late which meant we had 3 seats next to each other, and then a seat further down the plane about 15 rows in front, as opposed to next to the 3 on the opposing row (as we did on the way out).

I took the single seat and DH was with DS2 and DD5 in the three.

The flight was only short haul so about 2.5 hours. DH was (and to an extent still is) unhappy that I didn’t check in with him during the flight, which he described as hard work with our kids being young.

I said he’s perfectly capable of parenting and didn’t need me checking up on him. He maintains I should have checked in.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Dhflightsulk · 13/06/2026 11:39

Theunamedcat · 13/06/2026 11:38

It was 2.5 hours not days why could he not cope? If it was urgent why did he not come to you?

It wasn’t urgent and he said even if it was he couldn’t have left the kids unattended to ‘find me’

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JSMill · 13/06/2026 11:38

I would have split it with my dh, giving both parent a little bit of time to relax.

Dhflightsulk · 13/06/2026 11:38

maureenponderosa · 13/06/2026 11:37

Is this a reverse…?

No?

OP posts:
Theunamedcat · 13/06/2026 11:38

It was 2.5 hours not days why could he not cope? If it was urgent why did he not come to you?

Support12 · 13/06/2026 11:38

Surely with those ages the fair thing would have been to swap halfway through, or at least check if he wanted to?
I cant imagine just sitting there not even checking in for 2 and a half hours, I wouldnt be happy if DH did that.

maureenponderosa · 13/06/2026 11:37

Is this a reverse…?