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Ex partner introduced our son to a “friend he’s taking things slow with”

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Pinkie89 · 13/06/2026 09:16

Ex partner introduced our son (7) to a “friend he’s taking things slow with”.
AIBU to think this is abnormal and concerning? Honestly I’m so angry and he’s completely betrayed my trust. I asked him out right who this girl was 2 weeks ago after my son mentioned her and whether it was someone he was dating and he said no it’s a friend, a few days later he’s posting her on Instagram and evidently she’s not just a friend.
I don’t think he’s known her long, they spent the last 2 Saturdays together, with my son. In my eyes that is not taking it slow and he shouldn’t be introducing him to people he’s know 5 mins! He’s done this once before and it ended within a month and my son is still upset he doesn’t get to see her dogs… 2 years later! Now he’s excited about this ones cats! My mum introduced me to lots of men which really wasn’t nice so I don’t know if this is clouding my judgement? But I would never introduce him to someone I was “taking it slow with”.

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OneThreadOnlybyN · 13/06/2026 09:38

Why are you following your ex on insta?

I don't think it's an issue introducing 'friends' to children, non single people do it all the time. I'd hope they're not making him uncomfortable by being all over each other, but other than that Mummy & Daddy are allowed to have friends.

its not unusual for a 7yo to still sometimes miss a pet they were fond of, it's unfortunate, but it could have just as easily been a neighbour's or friends that have moved away.

Runsaway · 13/06/2026 09:38

Pinkie89 · 13/06/2026 09:36

Because he lied to my face about the situation.

But he’s your ex. He doesn’t have to tell you anything about his life.

Pinkie89 · 13/06/2026 09:38

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I agree, what he does isn’t my business...until it involves my son and then it absolutely is my business.

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Because he lied to my face about the situation.

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Eenameenadeeka · 13/06/2026 09:30

Did he use the wording about taking it slow to the child, or just to you? If he just introduced them to your child as a friend, then they probably won't think that deeply about it? I don't think you can do anything about it.

Runsaway · 13/06/2026 09:26

Assuming he has parental responsibility, he can do as he thinks best when he has his child with him. You have no say.

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