Ex partner introduced our son to a “friend he’s taking things slow with”

why did he introduce her? im guessing because he wanted to spend time with her and your son was there.

in my experience the majority of men think with their dicks. So given a chance of sex, even if on a day when they have their child, they will jump at the chance.

does he have his child every weekend? if so perhaps every other weekend might give him more chance of having adult relationships without his child knowing. if not and he has plenty alone time to date hes just being ignorant of the child’s needs (ie not to have a string of women in the child’s life coming and going) in favour of his own. shockeroonie. man thinks with dick.

ultimately there’s not much you can do but i’d suggest you tell him to take it slower with the introduction of women to dc (at least six months preferably a year) as he will get hurt when they vanish.

Your ex will then rebuff this suggestion citing this woman could be the one and dc will be fine. However itll play out as you suspect with her leaving/splitting up. It’s textbook. When it happens get him told for the next time….

My DH introduced me to his kids very early on. I was a bit reluctant and also he wanted me to stay over the first time too. His reasoning was ‘well you’re in my life now and I don’t want to hide that’. His boys were older, but arguably it was harder for them to see their dad with someone new.
You can’t dictate when he does these things. If it was a new woman every month that’s one thing, but introducing his child to someone he’s dating seems normal to me.

No it’s not good to be introducing new ‘partners’ to kids so early and he’s acted not in his child’s best interests doing so. However, he is a parent presumably with parental responsibility so it’s his call on ‘his time’. It’s wasted energy arguing and worrying about it, focus on what you do with and how you support your son instead.

You can’t control anything he does, any more than he can with you. His choices may be unwise but they’re his to make.
My ex did this and went through a period of introducing DD to new women every couple of months. The one that took her horse riding was particularly difficult to get over, but she did.
None of this is healthy and I did speak to ex about the impact on our DD. It made no difference. There’s no point in getting annoyed about it, it’ll only upset you and he won’t change.

Some people say introduction after 6 months is ok. Agree you can’t stop your ex from doing this.

Why would it be less concerning??

Honestly, either way it really doesn't matter. People come & go in kids lives & they get on with it. Just concentrate on your relationship with your son being strong & stable & let your Ex get in with his life & his relationship with his son.

if your son starts being unhappy to go there, then you help him navigate that, but until then there's nothing you need to do.

There’s really nothing you can do about this. Best to take a step back and realise that he will do what he wants in his own time with your son. I try to make sure my kids know I have their back as some of my ex husband’s decisions have been questionable.

Ultimately, hes an adult making choices. Not the same as yours but that's his choice.

I know its uncomfortable but its how it is.

If you posted about that scenario on here you would probably be told by many that he was jealous and controlling...

It actually sounds like he's being very honest and not lying to you? If he first said they are friends (maybe they were) and then said they are taking it slow, he's being very open with you rather than waiting to tell you when he's deep into a relationship. Not that he has to tell you anyway.
You said he did it before, but that the child is asking about the dogs 2 years later, so if this is the second girlfriend in 2 years that's not constantly introducing lots of partners.

Because of some dogs and cats?

So your child misses the dogs of woman he met a couple of times two years ago??

There are many reasons why kids shouldn't be introduced to new partners too early, but this is really scraping the barrel I'm afraid.

I do understand why you are annoyed, it is too soon to be introducing random girlfriends.

But DS is his son too, not just yours. I haven't had direct experience of co-parenting but I thought that unless a Court has said otherwise both parents have equal rights? So within reason what he does on his time is up to him.

He's only lying because you're interrogating him. It's not your right to know who he's dating or who he's introducing his son to as it's no business of his who your son spends time with when he's with you.

Yes, he can do as he thinks best while caring for his son. Just as you can do what you think best while you care for him.

It's none of your business.

In the best interest of a child you/he shouldn't be introducing them to partners until a year into a relationship.

But you chose to have a child with this guy so there's not a lot you can do if he chooses to do this.

It's his son too. I get why you're pissed off but you can't do anything so let it go.

The child is his son as much as yours. It’s not any of your business who your ex is seeing or whenever he chooses to introduce her to his son, etc. These things are his business, not yours.

He doesn't owe you anything re his personal life.