AIBU to think my in-laws are rude about seeing DS alone?

Sorry OP, i actually can't vote yanbu because you're being such a doormat. How have you sat through such derision from this old prick? Stop being nice, tell them to shove all their requests and enjoy time with your parents.

Your parents in law are nuts and I hope your husband can see this and has your back.

Your DH is a wet weekend.

He is not protecting you. You presumably have made joint parenting decisions and you are getting the blame for them.

Tbh given their behaviour, you should be asking why he's still seeing them without challenging them full stop.

Do you think they are capable of seeing their grandchildren without bitching about you in front of him? If they aren't your son probably should not be seeing them at all?

As for equal time. Well newsflash; they have no legal rights of access at all. Perhaps they should be reminded of this when they are told to jog on by your husband.

Go to marriage counseling with DH. I had a similar issue with in laws, and years later I am still feeling the damage it did to our relationship. He needs to draw a line with his parents. If you fight this battle you will resent your DH, even if you win.

Nah, no way my child would be around these people! I wouldn’t want their views on women thrust upon my child!

Where is your ‘D’H in all this? Is he going to stand up for his family unit?

If he didn’t prioritise you and DS in a discussion like this I would be considering separation tbh.

They sound utterly dreadful.

Mine tried to do similar. He’s also a rude bigot. We haven’t had contact for 12 years now.

Dh tells his parents to stop being rude and you are a family unit.

Omg I would be spitting over this, excuse my out burst, but I’m absolutely fuming for you !

I hope your husband has your back over this.

maybe they are but out that you choice to stay with your parents, but there’s do excuse for this behaviour. And I’m a mil

I would tell my DH that he can collect son and return at hours and times he is free from commitments he has with your parents. You don’t want your son growing up with the ideas his parents seem to have.

it reminds me of the time when first married, my father came to visit and teased me with the comment “ look at you playing house” DH instantly replied “ WE love having our own place to play in” I could have died with embarrassment but it shut my father down . DH later said that my embarrassment was due to my dirty mind and not what he meant at all 😂😂

Only your DH should reply to such rudeness.

Your DH needs to call his parents' communication rude and, due to their rudeness and lack of respect for their daught-in-law, this visit will only involve them seeing their grandson for one day. Your DH needs to insist that it is up to him and he is not tolerating their rudeness.

They need to change or next year it will be the same.

I wouldn't want my child to spend any individual time with people like that!

No, it's not normal. Your FIL is a rude misogynistic twat.
Your DH should be shooting this down and telling his parents it isn't acceptable behaviour. Does he not have your back and challenge their comments?

Yeah fuck that. If they want to see your child without you and you are willing to let that happen, they or your DH can come and pick them up from your parents home.

Fuck that. Don't see such rude people and do your own thing with your parents. DH can facilitate DS seeing the in laws when it suits you

Your DH should be telling them that it’s not acceptable and you will be with your son.