School not taking note of creepy behaviour

I don't know, I do know if I think a thread is codswallop, I tend not to stick around arguing about it....so why are you?

And you think this bit happened too? Like all the other bits that didn’t happen. The boys parents are phoning random girls telling them to be nice to their 15yr old son?

It's a bit unclear what the 'evidence' was tbh.

But no parent should be contacting other parents telling them that their child has to talk to their son, if they don't, they will be reported to the school for ostracising their son.
They should go directly to the school with any problems.

Obviously the girl should not be bullying anyone, but if she feels uncomfortable around ANY boy, she should not be made to feel it's wrong to not want to interact with him beyond what is necessary.

The kids all know they have a license to bully this boy now.

Have you actually seen what was on this boys iPad OP or are you going by what you have been told by your daughter?

Why must something have happened?

Kids are cruel and make up shit.

Op has said no-one has the ‘evidence.’

The school have said it didn’t happen.

The boys parents have said it didn’t happen.

What’s the likelihood that this happened?

Op’s only ‘proof’ is that she says there’s no evidence as everyone that had it was threatened with suspension unless they deleted it.

Does that sound more likely? Or more likely it’s mean vicious rumour about some poor boy?

Her child has been asked to stop bullying the boy.

Obviously the girls should not have to do anything that makes them uncomfortable. But without knowing the content of the writings we can't judge how creepy it is. I remember some girls doing really weird shit when they had crushes in school. One had a box and kept a piece of used chewing gum from a lad she had a crush on as well as pencils and random shite.of his.

Think it is shocking it was shared by someone with the clear intent to humiliate and shame him.

This

From what you have shared I am unsure as to what he has done wrong.

My diary from back at that age was similar to @ExtraOnions in that I wrote about boys I fancied and how they made me feel. Sometimes we would have school stuff circulated with their photos on (newsletters etc) and I remember cutting out one of the boys pics and sticking it in my diary to swoon over at my leisure.

I have turned out okay.

I think at that age you are making sense of your feelings as a sexual being and have no-where to put that or share it with, hence the diary type stuff that teens keep.

Calling him a creepy boy for doing stuff that I think loads of teens do is a bit off.

If the photos and wording were of a violent or overly sexual nature then there would be more of an issue but that is not the impression I am getting here.

I very much doubt that your average 15 year old boy is going to be writing about butterflies exploding in his tummy and the innocence of young love. And even if he was, he’s writing it about an age group that he is too old to be involved with in that respect. The children are right; it is creepy.

A bigger concern, if accurate, is that the school are singling out girls and telling them that they don’t have the agency to decide for themselves who they do or do not want to associate with. Instead, they are being informed that they are to be this boy’s support network because nobody else wants to talk to him. If his parents are phoning other parents, I sincerely hope that they give them short shrift indeed. Not physically or verbally bullying him is a perfectly reasonable demand. Attempting to force girls to associate with him is reducing them down to support humans for males. There’s enough of that sort of nonsense going on already, without encouraging more of it.

Not really sure why you needed to swear at me

Something must have happened; either that or the OP is delusional, and neither of us knows if that's the case....and dont be so bloody rude.

I think the child needs some counselling and discussion about what is and isn’t apperopriate for sure. But he sounds awkward in the first place and now his screenshots has been shared he is really screwed- he needs support in understanding, not condemnation and fatalism about his character

Taking notes, as countless girls do in their diaries, is neither obsessive nor stalkerish.

That poor boy, I have a 15 year old boy and if this had happened to him I’d be pulling him out of school. He is 15 with raging hormones and writing about girls he probably fancy’s. were any of the photos inappropriate, were the stories sexual? I can see why it’s weird but to have that going around the school is malicious of the person who started it.

Whatever. It STILL DIDNT FUCKING HAPPEN. People can be so dense!

Seriously, if I had so little faith in a school, I would want to pull my child out.
Are other parents concerned? Do you know the boys parents? Could you speak to them to get a clearer picture of exactly what was said and done?

Uhuh. You do understand this didn’t happen don’t you op? Now you’ve had it explained.

Or are you still of the mind that there’s a huge conspiracy theory going on involving all teachers and SLT. And your child is a one-girl crusader exposing the truth. Which has been erased…

I think that the kids sound as if they’ve gone on a witch hunt and the school is right to want to try and stop that for the sake of this child.

The last thing parents should be doing is joining in with the witch hunt.

The child needs some support and counselling to talk through what he did in saving the screenshots and why the girls are disturbed by this, why it’s a breach of their privacy.

I think the school sounds pretty sensible in this case. The ostracism is punishment enough- what do you want, the child to be expelled? To be put in the stocks? To be chased away with pitch forks? To be placed on a sex offenders register?

No the OP says the girls have been singled out

Honestly this feels wrong because it feels aberrant, to take notes is obsessive and it is stalkerish, thats different from fantasy, he’s documenting them. I know people are saying he’s a child but he’s 15, this is probably part and parcel of how his sexual behaviour is going to develop. I would be extremely concerned if my daughter was one of the girls he was documenting. I’m worried that people here are minimising what must feel extremely violating for the girls involved.

I don’t think this sounds concerning at all based on what you’ve included.
Even you specifying “some as young as 12” means you’re trying to suggest something with this. A 3 year difference with trying to date someone or fancy someone doesn’t make a teenager a pedo, which you seem to be suggesting.
Whats the difference between this and a diary?
In school we would pass notes about boys all the time, who we fancied, rating them etc. is this not just basically a modern version?