School not taking note of creepy behaviour

The kids have labelled it as creepy behaviour because of the language used in the notes. Its not just interaction between with girls its also noting down which girl was in the neighbourhood and how it made him feel.

pics were not intimate but having a folder of 10-15 girls by name and pics saved from school’s media as well ones he clicked with the phone was disturbing for these teenagers

I’m shocked that the school is brushing this incident under the carpet and asking girls to not believe the “rumours “ .

The school threatened all kids with suspension for circulating the screenshots and now say there is no evidence of any wrongdoing.

Absolute rubbish! GDPR does not apply to an individual collecting pictures etc purely for their own enjoyment, otherwise everyone who had any photo album would be a data controller!

All I can think is poor boy. I really don’t think he has done anything wrong. These were his personal notes! The one who leaked it should be suspended or something

You need to speak to the school and ask what steps they are taking to ensure this boy doesn't do this again as this is indeed stalkerish behaviour and children should be protected from that.

Because he has photographs in his posession, he is the data controller for purposes of GDPR. If he is the data controller under this law he needs to state upon request what he intends to keep these images for and how long he will keep them. (Data controller can be under 18) As its data (images) each individual that suspects photos have been taken can request that they have copies of those images and if they have been shared. if they have been shared (which they have as how else would the boy who was suspended know they exist) that's a breach of Data Protection Act which is a crime and police should be involved.
The girls and their parents can request their deletion. The Children's Code (officially the Age Appropriate Design Code) is a legally binding UK code of practice for online services. Enforced by the Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) under the Data Protection Act 2018, it requires digital platforms to prioritize children's privacy and data protection by default. This applies regardless of the age of the data controller.

The school should not be allowing him to take pictures as under Data Protection it is advisable to get parental permission before taking any photos and pictures of minors and anything uploaded onto a school website will fall under the code I've quoted above. The school should know all this but seem to be ignoring it.
Speak to the Social Services Safeguarding lead at your local council or contact the school safeguarding lead. Contact NSPCC for independant advise.

I suggest you talk to other parents. Not to form a witch hunt for this boy but to get your facts straight before approaching the school. (You may be better off speaking to the Education dept in your council or requesting their presence at a meeting).
Don't shy away from the fact that this boy with his parents and school's consent has victimised the girls by placing them under surveillance and writing who knows what about them. They may well be scared of what this boy has done as his motives are not at all clear. If that's the case, or there's potential for that to have happened as everyone handles this type of incident differently, why aren't the school using a trauma informed approach and are actually revictimising the girls by asking them to be nice to him?
Sounds like a typical comp response, stick to your guns and insist on knowing all of the above. If the school aren't helpful or brush it off, tell them your options are police for breach of DP, Information Commissioners Office, and reporting the school's safeguarding in this instance to the Regional Safeguarding Board which is a statutory body and will investigate. You may also wish to file a complaint with your local council which will eventually be referred to the local government ombudsman who can take action if the council can't resolve matters. This young man needs help which it doesn't sound like he's getting from school or parents.

Agree it’s a police matter

@Savethegirls Its not just interaction between with girls its also noting down which girl was in the neighbourhood and how it made him feel.

I can't believe a teenage boy would get butterflies and lovey-dovey feelings when he sees a girl that he likes. What an absolute psychopath.

I wouldn't be concerned though. Usually by adulthood, men have learned to suppress their feelings and thankfully, most of the time, they don't embarass themselves by talking about how women make them feel.

I had a list for sure. The hottest boys I fancied. If I’d kissed them, wanked them off or been fingered by them. Or if I wanted to do any of those things. And I obsessively wrote about the boys I fancied. It’s just teens doing teen shit. Get over it

If these pictures were intimate in nature, I'd be calling the police over this, not the headmaster.

The boy from the 90s was doing nothing different from what the girls were doing - we often ranked boys on how fanciable they were. It was fun to do with your friends - we got to know who liked who etc…

If you didn’t do this, I’ll assume you were not in the ‘cool’ group.

This type of ranking was also how Facebook got off the ground.

This reminds me of a strange boy I went to school with back in the 90s. All I remember for certain is that he kept a handwritten ranking of who he considered to be the 'hottest' girls in the school. Some of the other boys knew about it and egged him on. 🙄 He was an odd guy, though as far as I know he's never done anything illegal. He was just a bit off and rather creepy (imo).

I don't completely follow the circumstances outlined in the OP, but whether I'd speak to someone would be determined by the nature of the photos and notes. Regardless of anything else, I don't think it's right for adults to try to force children to be friends with everyone. I get that it's not nice to ostracise someone at school, work, etc, but I wouldn't force my theoretical child to be anything more than civil to someone they personally didn't like for whatever reason.

“deputy pulling up my child saying he has reported you being mean to him and you can’t ostracised him”

This is bullying behaviour.

You made up the bullying narrative.

No, not just because he’s male, thought that does increase (statistically) the likelihood of it not being as innocent as you’re desperately trying to make it sound.

It’s because his parents are demanding that the girls talk to him. It’s because his parents are objecting to girls leaving an extra curricular activity. It’s because the school are pressuring the girls to talk to him, it’s because the school are getting involved with extra curricular activities, it’s because they’re calling it “rumours” despite physical evidence, it’s because they’re asking girls to not believe their own eyes, it’s because he still has access to camera equipment and photo files, it’s because , as I said before, as school staff, parent and a previous child , I know very well how quick schools are to cover up, dismiss and minimise shit like this and even worse.

Even you don’t say that it didn’t happen, just that it wasn’t that bad. Neither you or the school get to decide that, how the girls should feel about it or that they should have to talk to a boy(or anyone) they do not want to.

There is no evidence this boy has done anything wrong. The school has investigated and established he is being bullied. Why can’t you accept that could very well be the truth? Because he’s male?

Yes. Depressing, but not surprising. It’s not the flex you think it is.

I’m not the only one doing so. Many PP have made exactly the same points.

Why are you so determined to not only minimise the boy’s actions but also demonise OP and her daughter? What do you have to gain from it?

It is the same thing. Someone talked about girls collecting the used chewing gum of their crushes. How is this perverse, revolting behaviour any better than this boy taking a few notes?

It’s not the same thing and you know it. Neither are posters. Crushes on older boys or whatever minimising bs you want to use.

Like the notes, comments and fantasies PP have described writing down when they were teenagers?