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School not taking note of creepy behaviour

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Savethegirls · 12/06/2026 16:51

Posting here for traffic and name changed for this question.

At my child’s secondary school, one of boys (15yrs)leaked his friend’s ipad contents. Screenshots of ipad had folders for several girls as young as 12. Its had pictures and text about how his interaction with these girls.

School suspended the boy who found it and circulated the screenshots, saying privacy violations. And all kids had to delete every evidence gathered. Parent of the creepy boy keep telling everyone its his habit to write notes and some of it was just “fantasy “.

Now obviously backlash no one is talking to the boy but the deputy Headmaster is now singled out girls and asking them to not believe these stories and they need to talk to him.

the creepy boy is in Drama tech crew and probably has a stash of pics from last few yrs.

the girls have seen the evidence and not ready to trust the school.

YABU - overthinking this
YANBU- call the Headmaster over this

parents and kids are feeling there might be repercussions at school if they complain. Any advice on how to handle this?

OP posts:
Miyagi99 · 12/06/2026 17:27

What’s the creepy behaviour?

JLou08 · 12/06/2026 17:27

So he had an online diary about interactions with girls? That's what I'm getting from the post but it isn't all that clear.
No one would bat an eye if a girl was writing about their interactions with boys in a diary. I know it was pretty common amongst girls when I was a teenager. We even wrote 'top 10s' rating boys on their looks.
If it is how it reads, you're overreacting and it seems like adults bullying a child, talking about him being 'creepy' and egging on their children to be mean.

NovemberMorn · 12/06/2026 17:25

Hard to say, I dont understand the OP.

PurpleLovecats · 12/06/2026 17:22

Like a diary? A kind of “today I spoke to Lucy In year 9” type thing?

OneCoralGoose · 12/06/2026 17:22

This sounds like a diary. Like his personal interactions and pictures of what the school day or upskirting its very different things. Calling him creepy doesnt help anyone.

PurpleThistle7 · 12/06/2026 17:21

This is seriously confusing. What has actually happened to your daughter?

Arlanymor · 12/06/2026 17:19

Without knowing what was written or the nature of the photographs (which sound innocent from what has already been said) then we can't really comment. I've never been one to keep a diary but I know friends from school who did that and wrote all manner of fantasies about other kids from our school. It didn't make any of them creepy, it was part of their development. If it was usual teenage stuff then I think overreacting would be unfair on this kid - but as I say, without knowing the content or even further context it's hard to make a call.

HazelHedgehog · 12/06/2026 17:14

Stop calling the boy creepy, he is 15, a child as well. Adding to the drama is not helpful in any situation.

Balloonhearts · 12/06/2026 17:13

If these pictures were intimate in nature, I'd be calling the police over this, not the headmaster.

Octavia64 · 12/06/2026 17:13

Your post is not very clear.

notes on interactions could be anything from

she wants a blue filter on the scene 6

to full on sexual fantasies.

anonymous0810 · 12/06/2026 17:11

Also fwiw I wrote some incredibly weird romantic fantasies involving my brother’s friends at that age. I would have been horrified if anyone had found them and it hasn’t made me sexually deviant. Without knowing what he has written it is hard to judge.

offtodreamland · 12/06/2026 17:11

This reminds me of a strange boy I went to school with back in the 90s. All I remember for certain is that he kept a handwritten ranking of who he considered to be the 'hottest' girls in the school. Some of the other boys knew about it and egged him on. 🙄 He was an odd guy, though as far as I know he's never done anything illegal. He was just a bit off and rather creepy (imo).

I don't completely follow the circumstances outlined in the OP, but whether I'd speak to someone would be determined by the nature of the photos and notes. Regardless of anything else, I don't think it's right for adults to try to force children to be friends with everyone. I get that it's not nice to ostracise someone at school, work, etc, but I wouldn't force my theoretical child to be anything more than civil to someone they personally didn't like for whatever reason.

anonymous0810 · 12/06/2026 17:09

I would stop referring to a 15 year old as creepy boy. Some of his behaviour might be questionable but he is a child too. Clearly some intervention needs to take place.

FeliciaFancybottom · 12/06/2026 17:05

Its had pictures and text about how his interaction with these girls

What does that mean?

vincettenoir · 12/06/2026 16:56

I think you have missed some key details out. What was with the photos on the IPad? What are the stories girls have been asked not to believe?