School not taking note of creepy behaviour

I feel so badly for the boy. I can’t imagine if my private conversations and diary had been leaked to the entire school. I’m feeling a bit sick just thinking about it.

He didn’t do anything, he just wrote about it. He didn’t take photos or hide in a locker room or anything. The parents must know their children are online and pics online are available for whoever. This all sounds like a dramatic gossip nightmare and hopefully this boy will be supported in moving schools.

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This reminds me of a strange boy I went to school with back in the 90s. All I remember for certain is that he kept a handwritten ranking of who he considered to be the 'hottest' girls in the school. Some of the other boys knew about it and egged him on. 🙄 He was an odd guy, though as far as I know he's never done anything illegal. He was just a bit off and rather creepy (imo).

Did he later create Facemash and then move on to start Facebook?

I presume there’s more to this ?

I'm pretty sure the boys at our school had something similar. I don't think it's particularly concerning?

bit odd but lots of things kids do are odd. I used to rate boys, who I fancied, and what I’d done with them in my diary. Which isn’t much different to a private iPad. Should I have been ostracised. Poor kid

@Savethegirls Its not just interaction between with girls its also noting down which girl was in the neighbourhood and how it made him feel.

I can't believe a teenage boy would get butterflies and lovey-dovey feelings when he sees a girl that he likes. What an absolute psychopath.

I wouldn't be concerned though. Usually by adulthood, men have learned to suppress their feelings and thankfully, most of the time, they don't embarass themselves by talking about how women make them feel.

Is this not the same as keeping a diary?
If no wrong doing has been found.
'Creepy boy' as hes been labeled has had his privacy invaded and shared

It's difficult to judge the poor lad really. I think his 'friend' who leaked the kids private ipad folder is the biggest creep.
Girls have always written in diaries about their crushes; probably the biggest difference between a girl's fantasies and a boy's, is the girls are probably more romantic, the boys more basic. If some of the girls he is writing about are 12 years old, I would actually find that a bit worrying.

Of course someone storing their private thoughts on their personal device can be allowed. The alternative doesn’t bear thinking about.

I wrote love stories about boys when I was in school. Im sure many other people did. I would have been mortified if anyone ever seen them. But all that would have happened was people have a laugh and get over it. Not sure why you have decided he is a creep when im sure other 15 year olds are saying much worse and not writing it down. What did he say and what are the pictures of.

I don't think it's fair they're being told they have to interact with anyone who has made them feel uncomfortable so I don't think YABU. I don't think it's comparable to a girl doing the same thing, maybe I'm wrong there.

Call the headmaster immediately. Safeguarding issue. God knows what the child is doing at home. Parents probably haven't got a clue.

Unchecked behaviour very similar to this escalated and resulted in life-changing trauma for my dd, I won't give further details but these behaviours just cannot be allowed.

Is this not a device-free school? If so it needs to be. That boy needs dealing with asap.

Just because these girls are “disturbed”, doesn’t mean this boy has done anything wrong. And, by the sounds of it, he hasn’t.

Im pretty sure that girls (including myself) used to log the best looking boys in their diaries. Then compare notes about what it would be like to kiss them etc. Would anyone of deemed that weird and creepy or would they just think its teenage girls fantasies?

I think it is pretty creepy to have an electronic cut and pasted wank bank with pictures of girls he knows, plus annotations.

I don't understand the AIBU though. Why contact the head?

Well there isn't any evidence of wrong doing. Only from the person who accessed someone else's iPad and shared their info. You say school are saying not to believe rumours too. Is it possible the information shared was edited or written by someone else as a way to humiliate the child and have multiple children and adults join in with bullying him?

He saved pictures that were readily available on the school website, not sure what is wrong with that. He then wrote (diary style) about how he felt about them, then someone stole his iPad and circulated this around school.

is that right?

My diary from when I was 15, is all about how I felt about various boys.

So the pics were not intimate (thank goodness) was the language he used about the girls sexual?

Well the girls don't have to interact with anyone they don't want to, but it does sound like he hasn't done anything wrong, some people ruminate things in their minds and others like to write it down. It's definitely an invasion of privacy to have your diary shared by someone else.
I think the sharer is the one to blame for the whole situation

Because there isnt. If it was a girl who done this would you be up in arms.

I very much doubt they were intimate pictures. The boy keeping them and the boy who shared them would both be reported to the police if that was the case.

Yes me too
I’d phone them and ask for their advice and say you aren’t happy how school are handling things.