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Should they describe this menu item better

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holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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Lindy2 · 12/06/2026 15:46

I would assume baked beans meant normal baked beans from a tin.

My child with autism would be unlikely to eat fancy baked beans and would have been very disappointed.

I think, unless you're in a restaurant where you would expect chef fresh made food, that most people would be thinking it's from a tin of Heinz or similar. The menu or staff should have given enough information for you to know what you were going to get.

Isseywith2witchycats · 12/06/2026 15:45

I also haven't eaten tinned beans outside of my house as I have a full breakfast with no beans and if I have a jacket potatoe my go to is cheese and coleslaw, we do eat baked beans but my aspergers partner will only eat Branston and can't guarantee brand outside of home , but the sort of cafes and restaurants we go to wouldn't do home made spicy baked beans any way

Peachylove802 · 12/06/2026 15:40

Yes I'd have assumed baked beans meant normal heinz style tinned beans but he still had toast and sausage so I don't see what massive difference having the beans would have made?

Chamallo · 12/06/2026 15:39

If you’re such a fussy eater that homemade baked beans need a trigger warning, why even bother eating out?

CarbootJunction · 12/06/2026 15:37

Oh god, homemade baked beans. Have they nothing better to do? YANBU.

ChipswithMayonnaise · 12/06/2026 15:34

Where is the pure saltless boiled food of yesteryear?

sunshinestar1986 · 12/06/2026 15:31

Ablondiebutagoody · 12/06/2026 13:17

He should have just eaten the beans if he was that hungry. I can't believe they were that spicey. I like that they've tried to jazz them up a bit.

Lol
I suppose your precious toddler would've just got on with it eh

ChipswithMayonnaise · 12/06/2026 15:31

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:34

The toast came late and P apparently didn't actually have a full englsih, apparently it was easier her for her to lie in their OP than say "eggs and spinach" 🤔

Yeah, that lie destroys my trust that is anything but a Wetherspoons promo or summat

ChipswithMayonnaise · 12/06/2026 15:29

Springtimeinsunshine · 12/06/2026 14:24

I'm thinking Twat signal too. They've even brought out the forrin angle now 🙄

It is not an angle.
Leaen to recognise propaganda.

OttersOnAPlane · 12/06/2026 15:21

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 15:18

No. I’ve never been served canned beans outside of home. Ever. My mum purchased tinned beans from the supermarket for emergency meals, and when I went to uni I would buy tinned beans at times and eat straight from the can, so I know what they taste like, but as an adult, or child I have never had them served to me otherwise.

Then you've never eaten a full English in a caff or a Wetherspoon's or ordered beans on toast for a child at a soft play centre?

My congratulations.

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 15:18

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:00

What utter fucking nonsense that you've never been anywhere that serves tinned baked beans? You must have been to a cafe or restaurant or hotel or school canteen or anywhere similar that sells tinned beans for jacket potatoes, breakfasts and beans on toast etc

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No. I’ve never been served canned beans outside of home. Ever. My mum purchased tinned beans from the supermarket for emergency meals, and when I went to uni I would buy tinned beans at times and eat straight from the can, so I know what they taste like, but as an adult, or child I have never had them served to me otherwise.

Faveway · 12/06/2026 15:18

Another batshit crazy thread. Everyone knows what to expect when 'baked beans' appear on a menu. Something out of a tin, maybe Heinz but in all probability a cheaper version from a big tin. Everyone knows that if they were hand-crafted, spiced, the chef's special recipe baked beans it would say so on the menu. Everyone apart from a surprising number of MNetters anyway.😂

Daschy16 · 12/06/2026 15:18

didntlikethis · 12/06/2026 13:12

I have a significant allergy to chillies, so, yes, this would be a huge deal for anyone with the same thing. I wouldn't think to question baked beans in a café.
There are chillies in bloody everything these days!

Where allergies are concerned, the onus is on you to check before you order though. And I say that as someone with a long list of life threatening allergies. I get that it is a pain when something sounds simple, but you should always check.

Violet76 · 12/06/2026 15:17

I am with you OP. A little while ago I ordered macaroni cheese for my grandson. When it arrived the sauce was strongly flavoured with mustard and the top liberally spinkled with paprika. 4 year old grandson who will try most things was not impressed. Sent it back and ordered something else.
To be clear this was from the children's menu and I had ordered the smaller portion for younger children. No mention of mustard or paprika!

loislovesstewie · 12/06/2026 15:10

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 15:05

You spectacularly missed the point.

he put something in his mouth that looked familiar, but didn't taste 'right' so as a 1 year old he did as our bodies are designed to do, to keep us safe & spat them out.

I didn't miss the point. Introducing new foods at that age tends to mean the child gets used to different foods.

Faveway · 12/06/2026 15:08

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 13:54

I’ve never been to a restaurant/cafe that served baked beans from a tin😳. If I got that I’d send it back as if I wanted that I’d go buy a tin from the supermarket.

We used to make baked beans when the kids were young, and they ate them. Makes me wonder whether the ones of OP’s were spiced/spiced or just normal food people would give kids?

I bet you have. What do you think gets served up with the good old English breakfast? Or if you order beans on toast... or beans with anything really. I've been there and cooked it. 😂
Op, you aren't unreasonable. I'm sure that the majority of British people would expect conventional baked beans if they ordered a meal including them in a cafe.

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 15:05

loislovesstewie · 12/06/2026 14:57

Mine were eating curry and chilli con carne at 1. They ate what we ate, just a bit more smashed up.

You spectacularly missed the point.

he put something in his mouth that looked familiar, but didn't taste 'right' so as a 1 year old he did as our bodies are designed to do, to keep us safe & spat them out.

Growlybear83 · 12/06/2026 14:59

loislovesstewie · 12/06/2026 14:57

Mine were eating curry and chilli con carne at 1. They ate what we ate, just a bit more smashed up.

Mine was exactly the same. She always had the same as us, and would eat most things by 18 months

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 14:58

HobGobblynne · 12/06/2026 14:44

what you mean you wouldnt ask someone to describe the beans to you? How bizarre 😂

🤣🤣🤣

if I asked around here, they'd look at me gone out & probably be calling the local MH service! 🤣🤣

loislovesstewie · 12/06/2026 14:57

ProfessorBinturong · 12/06/2026 13:20

He's 1!

Mine were eating curry and chilli con carne at 1. They ate what we ate, just a bit more smashed up.

GetAFurqingCompass · 12/06/2026 14:47

Wtf is with all the posters marching along to say they've never known tinned baked beans to be served in a café 🤣

Absolute peak Mumsnet wankery.

Of course you'd expect something advertised as beans on toast to be bog standard beans on fucking toast. "Beans on toast" is a well known meal and everyone in the UK knows it means tinned beans on toast.

I would never have considered checking what was meant by "beans on toast".

Sounds like crap service all round.

JoshLymanSwagger · 12/06/2026 14:47

Don't go back.
If they treat customers like that then they certainly won't make any profit!

HobGobblynne · 12/06/2026 14:44

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 14:41

Not if I was ordering beans on toast at a regular (not fancy) cafe. I'd expect to get bog standard (from a tin) baked beans.

what you mean you wouldnt ask someone to describe the beans to you? How bizarre 😂

bittertwisted · 12/06/2026 14:43

There is a lovely cafe near me run by a Bulgarian couple. They clearly state the baked beans are Bulgarian, which are delicious. Otherwise I would never never expect anything other than tinned

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 14:41

grumpygrape · 12/06/2026 13:57

You have an allergy to chillies and 'they are everywhere ' but you wouldn't think to check. ?

Not if I was ordering beans on toast at a regular (not fancy) cafe. I'd expect to get bog standard (from a tin) baked beans.