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Should they describe this menu item better

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holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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Tryagain26 · 12/06/2026 16:31

fashionqueen0123 · 12/06/2026 14:07

I would have sent them back. I’d have expected normal baked beans.

Why assume that a restaurant/cafe would serve tinned beans and not make their own?

Monty36 · 12/06/2026 16:29

A community kitchen are likely to use spices and to cook beans from scratch.
They will not be aware that your child doesn’t like spices. Many children will eat spicy food.
Didn’t understand the toast situation. Or why you had to leave. And why he was screaming. He could eat his sausage he had been given ? They came out with some toast early for him?

Tryagain26 · 12/06/2026 16:28

I can't understand why he was starving. Hadn't he already eaten the toast and he also had a sausage. And wasn't there anything in your full English that he would eat? Couldn't you ask for more toast?
How spiced were the beans? I think in a community cafe I would have asked about the beans and not assumed they were tinned

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 16:23

steff13 · 12/06/2026 16:10

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

So would I.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 16:23

Peachylove802 · 12/06/2026 16:02

FFS are you dense? You think you are morally superior to anyone who assumed the beans would be heniz style beans?

I am neither dense nor morally superior, but I do think it is a bit depressing when as a nation people seem to think baked beans must come from a tin - and yes I do make my own. Not morally superior, I just don't assume beans need to come ready made in a tin. The Heinz recipe isn't that nice to be honest versus homemade ones. I do use beans in water from a tin to make them as it is quicker, but a decent sauce is much better made from scratch and then you bake them in the oven.

I am relieved to see some others assume at a restaurant beans might be made from scratch: it is one of the easiest things in the world to make.

DeftGoldHedgehog · 12/06/2026 16:18

Love how the OP berates the café for misdescribing their spicy baked beans then calls baked egg with spinach "A Full English."

DappledThings · 12/06/2026 16:16

steff13 · 12/06/2026 16:10

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

I would only expect beans to be available in an actual restaurant as opposed to a café on breakfast. And unless actually stated otherwise I would very much assume they were tinned. They really aren't an item most people are making from scratch.

BillieWiper · 12/06/2026 16:15

Just don't use it again. I mean if I was running it I'd state the beans were home made and spiced, just because it would justify the inflated cost.
But I think you're just disappointed overall which is fine, use TripAdvisor and your feet.

I don't really think it's anything that important to worry about though. It's true that most cafes/ restaurants aren't necessarily geared up specifically for the tastes of toddlers. Not should they be.

steff13 · 12/06/2026 16:10

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:18

It’s weird to assume it would be tinned in a restaurant without checking, baked beans do not exclusively come from a tin.

I would expect baked beans to be made from scratch at a restaurant.

Error404FucksNotFound · 12/06/2026 16:02

Yes, the description should have been clear because in the real world there is an expectation / assumption re what "baked beans" are.

Peachylove802 · 12/06/2026 16:02

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:59

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

FFS are you dense? You think you are morally superior to anyone who assumed the beans would be heniz style beans?

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 16:00

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:59

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

I cook and bake most things from scratch but I don't make my own homemade baked beans, no...

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:59

Peachylove802 · 12/06/2026 15:58

Oh come on, she ordered beans assuming heinz. Get a grip.

I know she did. That's what is a bit depressing. That was my whole point. Do you always eat beans out of a tin?

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 15:59

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:58

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.

Yes he doesn't eat spicy food and eggs. So she ordered him baked beans on toast.

I wouldn't expect that to be spicy either!

Peachylove802 · 12/06/2026 15:58

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:58

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.

Oh come on, she ordered beans assuming heinz. Get a grip.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:58

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 15:55

Dietary quirks 😂 we're talking about a 1 year old!

Yes, but I'm not suggesting HE should have said anything. But if it's her child, it falls to her to look out for him and know what he eats and doesn't eat.

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 15:57

Chamallo · 12/06/2026 15:39

If you’re such a fussy eater that homemade baked beans need a trigger warning, why even bother eating out?

You're aware that it was the OP's 1 year old who rejected the beans, not her?

It wouldn't even occur to me to describe a 1 year old as a "fussy eater", they're still learning what they like at that point!

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 15:55

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:49

Says a lot about society that no one imagines baked beans could be anything but tinned.

I love homemade baked beans.

You need to look out for your own dietary quirks when you are out and about OP.

Dietary quirks 😂 we're talking about a 1 year old!

SapphireOpal · 12/06/2026 15:54

loislovesstewie · 12/06/2026 14:57

Mine were eating curry and chilli con carne at 1. They ate what we ate, just a bit more smashed up.

Mine does as well (he's actually not quite 1 yet) but OP's clearly doesn't, she says he doesn't like spicy food. That doesn't make him in some way inferior to your children. He's allowed to not want to eat the spicy beans if he doesn't like spicy food, he's 1 FFS 😂

DappledThings · 12/06/2026 15:50

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 15:18

No. I’ve never been served canned beans outside of home. Ever. My mum purchased tinned beans from the supermarket for emergency meals, and when I went to uni I would buy tinned beans at times and eat straight from the can, so I know what they taste like, but as an adult, or child I have never had them served to me otherwise.

Is that because you've never ordered beans outside the house? Any on a breakfast or a jacket potato or beans on toast will have been tinned in 99% of cafés and hotels.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 15:49

Says a lot about society that no one imagines baked beans could be anything but tinned.

I love homemade baked beans.

You need to look out for your own dietary quirks when you are out and about OP.

toastofthetown · 12/06/2026 15:49

OneThreadOnlybyN · 12/06/2026 15:05

You spectacularly missed the point.

he put something in his mouth that looked familiar, but didn't taste 'right' so as a 1 year old he did as our bodies are designed to do, to keep us safe & spat them out.

In my experience as someone who makes her own baked beans and has had a mix of homemade and tinned beans served in cafes, homemade beans look significantly different to tinned beans. I’d be very surprised if a baby or toddler took them for the same dish on looks.

AtomicBlondeRose · 12/06/2026 15:48

I hate people dicking about with the food on kids’ menus. Yes yes this is Mumsnet and every kids here eats everything but most children I have known want bland, predictable stuff when they eat out. Which means: no bread with random seeds in, no mustard in ham sandwiches, skin-on fries are a gamble, no pre-ketchupped burgers, no rocket on pizza, no blue cheese, no cheese with any flavour at all actually, no olives, JUST THE FOOD ON THE MENU AND NOTHING ELSE. if the adventurous children want other things they can choose from the adult menu but please just serve kids white bread and plain stuff they will actually eat while starving, distracted, overstimulated and all the rest of it. My kids would eat anything at home but when they went out they wanted a white bread ham sandwich and they wanted the ham to be flat and plain and with no breading or anything fancy.

FunMustard · 12/06/2026 15:47

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them

With BAKED BEANS? No you wouldn't don't lie.

It's totally normal to expect baked beans when the menu says baked beans, and yes, I would expect a menu to say if they are not normal tinned baked beans.

KittenHeelz · 12/06/2026 15:47

Not all baked beans are Heinz. If your son is not fussed in other types of baked beans, the onus is on you to make the enquiry not on the cafe to put in brackets ( not Heinz) next to the item in the menu.