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Should they describe this menu item better

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holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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30dayss · 13/06/2026 18:21

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 13/06/2026 09:42

Lots of cafes / brunch places do homemade beans these days. They are much nicer and healthier!

And you know because they tell you. Which this place failed to do.

Taste wise- it's personal preference.
Health wise - probably most of the time but not guarenteed

IamMaz · 13/06/2026 18:00

I hate anything with spice.

JumpingPumpkin · 13/06/2026 10:30

Sesquioxides · 12/06/2026 13:41

This thread is batshit! 😆
YANBU OP.

I've read on a bit and it's not getting saner yet.

JohnnyFedora · 13/06/2026 10:13

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 13/06/2026 09:42

Lots of cafes / brunch places do homemade beans these days. They are much nicer and healthier!

Not always nicer.

Why are they healthier?

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 13/06/2026 09:42

Lots of cafes / brunch places do homemade beans these days. They are much nicer and healthier!

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/06/2026 09:36

Yes, IMO they should have described them as ‘home made spiced baked beans’, otherwise the vast majority of people would assume Heinz or similar.

Lentilcakes · 13/06/2026 09:33

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

Don’t be ridiculous - a 1 year old has a very different palate to an adult.

Lentilcakes · 13/06/2026 09:32

Knowing what my DS was like at that age - 100% about the beans. He was very specific in his food likes/dislikes and would never have eaten them. He wouldn’t eat pizza with herbs in it so if we went out we had to ask for no herbs (and if we/they forgot we had screaming). I often had to ask for just bread and tinned tuna for him if we went out (rarely did with him). He’s 22 now and eats most things.

It should’ve said ‘homemade spiced beans’. Maybe they’ll change it!

EmmaB1309 · 13/06/2026 09:27

Yeah it’s annoying. Most people wouldn’t think to ask if something described as baked beans on a menu was actually tinned baked beans. They probably thought they were being helpful bringing his toast first but at least he had that to eat.

JohnnyFedora · 13/06/2026 07:27

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

😂😂😂

UnNiddeRides · 13/06/2026 01:57

Generally baked beans are a fail safe item. And you know what to expect. E.g threads that say ‘my partner got home late and complained we’d already eaten’ the response would be that he/she is capable of baked beans on toast. Or ‘what’s your lazy comfort food?’ A crumpet with Marmite, baked beans & grated cheese’ Everyone knows the baked beans are not something that they’re going to whip up with a jar of cannellini beans,, some smoked garlic a pinch of chilli & a dash of smoked paprika.

SleepingStandingUp · 13/06/2026 01:04

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

it's perfectly fine for a 1 year old to not have tried or not like spicy food for goodness sake!

30dayss · 12/06/2026 23:32

Loving that some people think they've never been served beans from a tin. 🤣🤣🤣

You dont know what all tinned beans taste like at all. Heinz tastes completely different to Branston which tastes completely different to Waitrose which tastes completely different to Asda. And they all taste completely different to bog standard catering vats. I've eaten in B&Bs where they've added some herbs and pepper to the beans to make them look less tinned bean-y but the are still tinned beans.

I have some Bold Beans baked beans in the cupboard. They are just fancy tinned beans (nice though!).

30dayss · 12/06/2026 23:24

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

You haven't got a clue what he does/doesn't eat or why. So dont be a judgemental wassack.

Plus, not the point of the thread!

HobGobblynne · 12/06/2026 22:14

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

He’s 1. It’s not unreasonable that he’s not keen on spicy food

Lordofthebantams · 12/06/2026 22:02

Maybe you need to expand the range of food he eats?

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 21:48

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 21:13

I thought that was part of the vibe of community cafes.

Most people see it as a plus that it isn't just tipped straight from a can - well maybe not on here.

I think it depends on where your community cafe is. a not for profit community cafe, I'd expect cheap and cheerful and easily replicable meals regardless of who was on shift.

but even if your community cafe is all home made baked beans and freshly made hummus with wild samphire all on freshly baked sourdough toast, you need to put a little bracket after baked beans to say home made, spicy.

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 21:43

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 15:18

No. I’ve never been served canned beans outside of home. Ever. My mum purchased tinned beans from the supermarket for emergency meals, and when I went to uni I would buy tinned beans at times and eat straight from the can, so I know what they taste like, but as an adult, or child I have never had them served to me otherwise.

You may never have been served them, bit you said you never been anywhere that has them, which blatantly isn't true.

Gardenisablooming · 12/06/2026 21:23

What sort of beans do the Upper Tier of mners eat? Unicorn droppings?

Nettie1964 · 12/06/2026 21:17

I think they should say the beans are spicy and homemade. You had a whole plate of food surely your child could have shared. Surely having toast calmed his hunger pangs couldn't you have just ordered something else for him. Sounds a bit non avent to me.

Calliopespa · 12/06/2026 21:13

PhaedraTwo · 12/06/2026 18:57

I don't think it it's at all odd to expect that a community café was selling home made baked beans.

I thought that was part of the vibe of community cafes.

Most people see it as a plus that it isn't just tipped straight from a can - well maybe not on here.

ElectoralControversy · 12/06/2026 20:41

I live in a Home Counties market town and I can assure you that every cafe and restaurant serves beans from a tin...except the Lebanese place which calls them ful medames

If you're messing with the baked beans you need to specify what you're doing - cowboy, Boston, ful medames?

Apart from anything else I bloody hate tinned beans, leaking their bastard orange goop into my fry up, but I'd be happy to try a different style if I knew they were on offer

Shinyhappyapple · 12/06/2026 20:38

I agree with you OP. I would expect baked beans on a cafe menu to be bog standard out of a tin. And if they weren’t I would expect the cafe to state on the menu as it’s kind of a selling point. Home made baked beans. And I would expect them to cost more too.

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 20:03

Theunamedcat · 12/06/2026 19:38

Because they arnt "spicy"

So? The OP describes them as spiced and then mentions cumin, which isnt "spicy".

Theunamedcat · 12/06/2026 19:38

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 18:54

Everybody is ignoring that.

Because they arnt "spicy"