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Should they describe this menu item better

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holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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wrinklycactus · 12/06/2026 13:48

I don't see why they should state on the menu that beans aren't out of a can.

Not all toddlers children would refuse to eat homemade beans, and the staff can't be expected to know what your child will/ won't eat.

The onus is on you to check that if it's an issue.

With the spice - were they actually spicy hot? Or do you just mean a bit of paprika or mild chilli powder?

If it's actually spicy then the menu should indicate that.

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:48

aLFIESMA · 12/06/2026 13:32

I don't think I've ever questioned the provenance of 'beans' on a menu, always assumed Heinz would be forthcoming Grin DP once ordered a sausage bap and received a patty with what was his first experience of sourdough too.....

Have you never seen a sausage mc muffin before?

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 13:47

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 13:40

where do you get your beans from? I've never seen Heinz spicy baked beans, they sound good

also wouldn't assume Heinz, when was the last time you brought a tin? no way can a not for profit afford Heinz in 2026!

Normal Heinz beans are spiced (pic may or may not upload...)

Should they describe this menu item better
Overthebow · 12/06/2026 13:47

Spiced or spicey? I’ve had some lovely homemade beans in cafes before that you could described as spiced but in no way spicy, just beans cooked with homemade tomato sauce and some paprika. I think that’s perfectly acceptable and expected when cafes serve baked beans, I wouldn’t usually expect baked beans to be from a tin and happy when they’re not as less processed. If they were actually spicy then I’d expect the menu to have said.

HobGobblynne · 12/06/2026 13:46

@holidaybubble you're on a hiding to nothing here. One of the first comments being you should have asked someone to describe the beans before ordering should sum up for you where this will go.

Of course no one (normal) expects kids beans on toast in a café to be anything other than a tin of baked beans. The toast coming separately to the beans when you've ordered 'beans on toast' is beyond weird.

No, it's not lifechanging stuff, but you are perfectly entitled to start a thread about things that aren't life or death. Honestly this forum gets more tiresome by the day.

Hadenough32 · 12/06/2026 13:45

It's a community cafe so I wouldn't make a huge deal. But yes I'd expect baked beans if I'd ordered beans on toast. I'd assume baked beans is standard as they come with breakfasts and lunches on jacket potatoes etc. If it's not standard baked beans then there should be a description. I'd be surprised if you're the first person this has happened to so wonder why they've not changed it

Wonderlandpeony · 12/06/2026 13:45

I wouldn't expect baked beans to be spiced, it should have said on the menu.

However I'd probably just suck it up and move on, life's too short.

notanoccultexpert · 12/06/2026 13:45

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:21

No one told OP she could share her food with her son instead of leaving him to scream apparently out of starvation while she gobbled a full fry in front of him.

😂

lornad00m · 12/06/2026 13:44

This would make a great book. Who would you like to play you in the movie? 🙄

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 13:44

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:15

I mean it’s not a huge deal but I’ve never ordered just baked beans and not had them come in a tin unless the menu has stated home made beans etc they where spiced who orders baked beans thinking they where spiced especially for a 1 year old. His class over ran so he was starving and crying when he tried the beans I swiftly left and got him a kids sandwich from pret.

he'd had his toast early, and he also had a sausage. if he was still so hungry he was starving I'd question if you'd fed him enough before class? and could you have no just shared food off his plate instead of leaving him screaming whilst you wolfed down a plate of food, left and found a different place to buy other food from?

7238SM · 12/06/2026 13:43

@SleepingStandingUp heinz do actually make several bean flavours, including chilli.

I'm unsure though if this is what the OP was given, or home made beans with maybe paprika in?

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Sesquioxides · 12/06/2026 13:41

This thread is batshit! 😆
YANBU OP.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 13:41

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:18

It’s weird to assume it would be tinned in a restaurant without checking, baked beans do not exclusively come from a tin.

it was a cafe. not a restaurant.

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 13:40

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 13:25

Heinz beans are also spiced.

where do you get your beans from? I've never seen Heinz spicy baked beans, they sound good

also wouldn't assume Heinz, when was the last time you brought a tin? no way can a not for profit afford Heinz in 2026!

Growlybear83 · 12/06/2026 13:38

Just how spicey were the beans? Were they like a chilli or had they just been cooked with a bit of pepper or paprika? I agree with other people that you could have given him something from your plate to go with his sausage and toast, although surely that would be enough to stop most toddlers from being so hungry that they were screaming?

SleepingStandingUp · 12/06/2026 13:38

LizardyGuts · 12/06/2026 13:10

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them. Onus is on you. They served you beans as described.

The toast coming at the wrong time is unfortunate, but just a typical thing which commonly goes wrong with restaurant service. Not worth a Mumsnet post.

oh come on, unless it's an artisan fancy place it's pretty reasonable to assume baked beans are just.... baked beans!! spicy food should be labelled.

I've never considered asking if the baked beans are home made, if the tomatoes are tinned tomatoes are canned on-site, if the eggs are ostrich or quail etc.

op it sounds like the staff are inexperienced/ under trained or overworked. offering toast early if he's clearly hungry, absolutely greedy. sending toast and beans for beans on toast 20 minutes apart, not ok.

I wouldn't return but I wouldn't make a huge deal with the venue over it

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 12/06/2026 13:33

I would definitely expected Heinz baked beans too YANBU. I’m not sure why they gave you son’s toast separate from the beans either…

aLFIESMA · 12/06/2026 13:32

I don't think I've ever questioned the provenance of 'beans' on a menu, always assumed Heinz would be forthcoming Grin DP once ordered a sausage bap and received a patty with what was his first experience of sourdough too.....

Paganpentacle · 12/06/2026 13:30

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:18

It’s weird to assume it would be tinned in a restaurant without checking, baked beans do not exclusively come from a tin.

It would be weird to assume they were spiced, when no mention of them being spiced was made anywhere at all.....

Paganpentacle · 12/06/2026 13:29

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them. Onus is on you. They served you beans as described.

They didnt though. They served SPICED baked beans.

ProfessorBinturong · 12/06/2026 13:25

They should state the beans are spicy.

Beans on toast means beans on toast. Not toast, and then beans on a separate plate some time later.

And they forgot the toast with your order.

Yes, things go wrong, and I give more leeway in a community cafe. But that's multiple pretty basic errors.

However, was there nothing on your plate he could have had as a stopgap?

WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 13:25

Heinz beans are also spiced.

Ablondiebutagoody · 12/06/2026 13:24

ProfessorBinturong · 12/06/2026 13:20

He's 1!

Fly them into his mouth like an aeroplane rather than leave him pushing the pot around while you eat.

boohoomootoo · 12/06/2026 13:24

I’d expect there to be a description if they were anything other than tinned baked beans. If there wasn’t, I’d be pissed off too.

OttersOnAPlane · 12/06/2026 13:23

"Homemade" baked beans or similar would have been better, especially if she knew you were ordering them for a toddler.

I'd expect the waiting staff to say something because it's just common sense to let someone ordering for a small child know that what they've ordered is spicy. (I say that as someone who loves spicy homemade baked beans)