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Should they describe this menu item better

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holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:06

Went to a cafe for the first time it’s not for profit and does stuff for the community. I had been wanting to try it out for a while and finally went to day with my toddler I checked the menu to see if he would eat anything and saw baked beans. I ordered him baked beans on toast with a sausage turns out the beans where homemade and spiced Aibu to think they should state this on the menu as there is a big difference between tinned and home made. I said to the girl behind the counter it was my first time coming she could have said did I know the beans were spiced when ordering for my son. Obviously he refused to eat them.

not linked to my Aibu but my full English came with toast and I got toast for him too. The wait for food was long so they gave me my son’s toast early which I hadn’t asked for. I then didn’t revive my toast with my meal and he then had no toast for his beans. I would have said something but my son was screaming as he was hungry and pushing his pot of beans and spitting them out so I just inhaled mine and left. The person that also works there had gone upstairs and I didn’t want to wait.

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hourspassed · 12/06/2026 14:07

I think they should advertise them as home made baked beans, although spicy to some people isn't spicy to others?

If it's not for profit it's probably run by volunteers. So I'd cut them some slack tbh. You gave it a go. You know to just order toast next time or go elsewhere I guess!

Iiyama21 · 12/06/2026 14:06

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:58

I had a baked egg dish thing with spinach he hates eggs spiced food and eggs is something he hates he had already eaten some toast the cafe only gave us one portion even though I paid for 2 I assumed more toast was coming so we had half each

Your original post said full English?

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 14:06

Definitely spicy even I didn’t eat them I as they where spicy I am a wimp though and don’t even like pepper. Definitely had cumin in and some other spices they made my mouth feel slightly burning @wishingonastar101 I don’t let him spit out food but he took a mouthful and they burnt his mouth being spicy with I guess chilli and he’s only 1 @CoastalCalm I said full English as was easier to say than baked eggs with spinach

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JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:05

CoastalCalm · 12/06/2026 14:04

You had a full English according to your original post

hmmm, starting to sound a little.... suspicious.

CoastalCalm · 12/06/2026 14:04

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:58

I had a baked egg dish thing with spinach he hates eggs spiced food and eggs is something he hates he had already eaten some toast the cafe only gave us one portion even though I paid for 2 I assumed more toast was coming so we had half each

You had a full English according to your original post

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:04

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:58

I had a baked egg dish thing with spinach he hates eggs spiced food and eggs is something he hates he had already eaten some toast the cafe only gave us one portion even though I paid for 2 I assumed more toast was coming so we had half each

you said you had a full english in the OP? which i usually sausage, bacon, eggs, baked beans, tomatoes toast that kind of thing.

Iiyama21 · 12/06/2026 14:03

Why didn’t you just feed him stuff from your fry?

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:02

wishingonastar101 · 12/06/2026 13:51

Why did he need toast for beans he wasn't eating?
I would also not allow my child to spit food out in a restaurant!

because he ... was hungry and it was part of hid meal, and you can eat toast on it's own you know...

Jesus christ - people are fucking stupid today

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:01

msmolli · 12/06/2026 13:59

How do you "inhale" beans ?? @holidaybubble

in this context, it means to eat quickly.... are you really that dense? don't you read? can't you infer meaning in language? are you always so literal?

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 14:00

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 13:54

I’ve never been to a restaurant/cafe that served baked beans from a tin😳. If I got that I’d send it back as if I wanted that I’d go buy a tin from the supermarket.

We used to make baked beans when the kids were young, and they ate them. Makes me wonder whether the ones of OP’s were spiced/spiced or just normal food people would give kids?

What utter fucking nonsense that you've never been anywhere that serves tinned baked beans? You must have been to a cafe or restaurant or hotel or school canteen or anywhere similar that sells tinned beans for jacket potatoes, breakfasts and beans on toast etc

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:59

I should have asked for more toast but it had already taken 20 minutes for the 1st toast to come and the lady had disappeared upstairs for a meeting and now the chef was out back

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msmolli · 12/06/2026 13:59

How do you "inhale" beans ?? @holidaybubble

holidaybubble · 12/06/2026 13:58

I had a baked egg dish thing with spinach he hates eggs spiced food and eggs is something he hates he had already eaten some toast the cafe only gave us one portion even though I paid for 2 I assumed more toast was coming so we had half each

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Springtimeinsunshine · 12/06/2026 13:58

I agree with you OP. If somewhere is serving beans on toast, full English with beans or jacket spuds with beans then I expect beans from a tin, heinz or supermarket own. I would not expect homemade or spiced.

grumpygrape · 12/06/2026 13:57

didntlikethis · 12/06/2026 13:12

I have a significant allergy to chillies, so, yes, this would be a huge deal for anyone with the same thing. I wouldn't think to question baked beans in a café.
There are chillies in bloody everything these days!

You have an allergy to chillies and 'they are everywhere ' but you wouldn't think to check. ?

JohnnyFedora · 12/06/2026 13:56

LizardyGuts · 12/06/2026 13:10

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them. Onus is on you. They served you beans as described.

The toast coming at the wrong time is unfortunate, but just a typical thing which commonly goes wrong with restaurant service. Not worth a Mumsnet post.

😂

Describe the baked beans.... are you mad?

anyone reading a childss; menu of bean on toast and sausage would not expect anything other than tinned baked beans, white toast and a plain sausage - if no further description was offered.

CharlieEffie · 12/06/2026 13:54

LizardyGuts · 12/06/2026 13:10

If I had a child who I knew would reject some foods, I would ask the staff to describe the baked beans before ordering them. Onus is on you. They served you beans as described.

The toast coming at the wrong time is unfortunate, but just a typical thing which commonly goes wrong with restaurant service. Not worth a Mumsnet post.

Sorry why on earth would she assume she needed them to describe beans ??? They served spiced beans. If the menu didnt say spiced beans they didnt serve her beans as described at all.

Totaldramallama · 12/06/2026 13:54

wishingonastar101 · 12/06/2026 13:51

Why did he need toast for beans he wasn't eating?
I would also not allow my child to spit food out in a restaurant!

He needed toast because he was hungry and the main component of his meal was not edible for him

HoppingPavlova · 12/06/2026 13:54

I’ve never been to a restaurant/cafe that served baked beans from a tin😳. If I got that I’d send it back as if I wanted that I’d go buy a tin from the supermarket.

We used to make baked beans when the kids were young, and they ate them. Makes me wonder whether the ones of OP’s were spiced/spiced or just normal food people would give kids?

Totaldramallama · 12/06/2026 13:53

I agree with you entirely op. Often DD has been served food, sometimes even from the kids menu, which is really not as described with unnecessary flourish or unexpected ingredients. It is so annoying and it wouldn't be that difficult for staff to note you are ordering for a child and let you know.

ProfessorBinturong · 12/06/2026 13:53

I would also not allow my child to spit food out in a restaurant!

Again, he's 1! It's instinct to spit out food that tastes 'wrong'. Yes, you train them out of it - but that takes time. You can't expect a 1-year old to politely swallow the first mouthful and then say 'I'm terribly sorry Mama, these aren't to my taste."

Beyondamountainandoverthesea · 12/06/2026 13:51

Saturnalio · 12/06/2026 13:13

Meh it's a community cafe.. maybe a bit annoying but I couldn't be bothered to think deep about it personally

Is the food free then? Never been to one.

wishingonastar101 · 12/06/2026 13:51

Why did he need toast for beans he wasn't eating?
I would also not allow my child to spit food out in a restaurant!

Honeyhonay · 12/06/2026 13:50

Things the toddler could have eaten off OP’s plate instead of being left to scream from hunger

  • more sausage
  • mushrooms
  • tomato
  • egg
WhatHappenedToYourFurnitureCuz · 12/06/2026 13:49

Overthebow · 12/06/2026 13:47

Spiced or spicey? I’ve had some lovely homemade beans in cafes before that you could described as spiced but in no way spicy, just beans cooked with homemade tomato sauce and some paprika. I think that’s perfectly acceptable and expected when cafes serve baked beans, I wouldn’t usually expect baked beans to be from a tin and happy when they’re not as less processed. If they were actually spicy then I’d expect the menu to have said.

Yeah I think I'm finding this thread so weird because some people seem to use "spiced" when they mean "spiced with chillis". To me it means containing any of the hundreds of spices in the world...