Has anyone ever actually called a friend at 3am?

Yep just the once….rang 2 friends the night my first husband died….they were fabulous and they know I would do it for them in a heartbeat x

I have, when my partner died of a heart attack out of nowhere, our daughter was 2 at the time. Goes without saying the most traumatic night of my life. She came at once. It's a blur but I remember she did a lot of phone calls to break the news to various friends and family which I'll forever appreciate.

Not at 3am but I’ve called four people in an emergency and they all dropped everything and came over. One when my father had a stroke in another country and my mother was on her own. Called a friend and she came and looked after my children for four days (she was retired) while me and my DH flew to support her (yes my DH could have stayed behind but I needed him). Another time my DH died suddenly and a friend came over and stayed with me (she had three small children of her own her DH looked after them). Another time my son had a motorbike accident and called me but I was 80 miles away and I called a friend near him who went and got him, took him to the hospital, waited several hours then brought him home and made him lunch. Another friend had to do something similar and stayed til 4am. I am truly grateful to these people who cared enough to help me when I was in need, or step up to be loco parentis.
I can’t imagine not being contactable by my children. They’d only call me in a real emergency but I am their person.

I haven't, but I've had others call me around that time. My Mum - to tell me she was in hospital. My friend - once to tell me she'd left her abusive OH and could she come over as she had nowhere else to go, another time to say she'd gone into labour and could I come collect her daughter as whoever was meant to have her had their phone switched off.

I'm always fine with being called with a genuine emergency, or if someone is upset and needs to talk then I'll gladly get up to chat with them and put the kettle on.

I went downstairs to get a drink of water in the middle of the night once and I fell down them, breaking my ankle. My two friends who had spare keys didn't answer as they kept their phones on silent overnight. Had to phone around to get someone else to contact them in person, so the ambulance crew could get in.

I’ve never thankfully needed to call a friend in the middle of the night but have had 2 of my close friends call me. One because their husband had been in a serious car accident and she needed me to look after their children while she went to the hospital and one because something had happened to her child and she wanted me to go to the hospital to be with her for support.

I know I could call on my group of close friends at any time if I needed them and they would come straight to me if I wanted.

I've had a phone call from my sister at midnight when her fiance was dying.

And I've had a knock at the door at 3am from a friend who had been domestically abused.

Both times I was thankful they had called on me for support and I gave it in a heartbeat.

A drunken chat call, I'd be a lot less impressed with.

I wouldn’t answer my phone because it’s downstairs on silent at night.

Not quite 3am but I was once up most of the night talking to a friend whose partner had disappeared and she needed comfort and distraction. She lived the other side of the country but messaged me at midnight to say he'd not come back and we spent the night chatting. It turned out he'd drowned, which is what she'd feared.

Another time my friend's baby was admitted to hospital very late at night and she had nothing with her so called me I went round to hers to get some clothes and nappies and stuff and spent the night with her there.

Both times more than happy to pick up the phone and help out.

Only ever done it once. Someone had died. She answered straightaway.

I had a friend ring me years ago after they had surprisingly tried one of those packets of "legal drugs", you could buy at dodgy shops. He sounded really paranoid he could just make out 2 men stood in his back yard just staring in at his window one tall and thin the other short and stubby, not moving just standing and staring he said they had been there for ages .After he came down turned out to be two local pervs Mr clothes post and Mr wheelie bin go figure

DD called several times around 3 am for a lift home, I always said I'd rather that than her walk home, it's not far but town centres at that time is no place to be alone drunk and female!
On one of those trips I also helped another young man who was lying outside, very very drunk in February so ended up picking him up and getting him home, also was 2nd on the scene of a nasty crash although the occupants had legged it by then. 3am is never a good time 😳

Yes I called a friend once. I had a severe fever and 111 told me to get to hospital myself asap because an ambulance would take too long. My Mum wasn’t answering her phone and I couldn’t even crawl to the next room level sick Nevermind get to her house. I called my friend and asked him to knock on my Mums door and get her attention for me. I’m glad I did as I had sepsis and would likely be dead had I just gone back to sleep! A&E were waiting for my arrival and I got IV antibiotics immediately and was put in isolation. It was scary!

Said friend is now my partner!

The problem is with filtering only for important people’s numbers is that if they have to call you from another number it won’t come through…

I've answered very late night calls to friends for help with childcare (single mum friend being rushed to hospital middle of the night for example). However, I am a night owl/have insomnia and very likely to be awake at that time and people know this about me! So I don't mind. I've been the one people message with their newborns early hours when the baby won't sleep or feed. Not even particularly close with some of them but I do remember how lonely those nights could be.

I am so old, I grew up with the norm being that you didn't phone anyone after 9pm unless it was an emergency. Obviously this is before mobile phones!

I have been called several times at 2am, but that was when I was on-call for my job.

Well, maybe you need to get yourself some new friends.

I recieved a phone call at 316am from a very good friend and was up and dressed and out the house within moments despite not being able to catch the whole conversation due to a bad connection.

It was the worst day of her life I knew she wouldn't.call at that time if it wasnt.

I have received a phone call for emergency childcare at 1am.
I rang my friend when I went into labour, in the early hours. She was and wasnt expecting it, she had offered to help - baby came 4 weeks early!

I once rang my friend at about 1:30/2am after my ex had pushed me against a wall, screamed in my face and thrown his shoes at me (I still have no idea why) She got to me in record time, took me to hers and just sat with me while I cried.

Yes but we’re not talking about them, we’re talking about the person who gets woken up. I’ve got a drama queen friend who would think her period pain feels like life and death, she still shouldn’t call me at 3am
about it.

Exactly this. Too many people seem to judge situations on wether it is literally life or death. Things can be really really bad and serious and important and need immediate attention without them being potentially fatal.

It really is

Not everything has to be life or death to feel like an emergency to the person experiencing it.

My phone is permanently on silent except my son & my dad so I doubt I would pick up but of course if I had a call from anyone at 3am I would help them.