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Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 21:42

I am a man without children in his 20s but my mum said it's ok for me to ask questions here so here goes.

I have been a Cub (8-10 boys and girls) scout leader for about 10 years, running a week-long camp in the summer, less than an hour drive away from home, for those 10 years minus Covid. Past few years have become harder and harder to get signups.

I have great memories and experiences from camps I did at that age and older, every year the kids enjoy themselves on camp. It's hugely shaped me to become the adult I am today and most of my freinds are people I went to scouts with. I honestly believe scouting is a great organisation for teaching kids resilience and independence, and that's why I give up 5+ hours a week to scouting.

This year in particular has been a nightmare, almost none of the parents want to send their kids, camp is about £200 but it's an affluent area, we offer discounts to those who need so I doubt it's the cost. Some are genuinely on holiday but a lot of them genuinely insist it's to much for their child often telling me about how 20 years ago in brownies they didn't enjoy camping or that they would miss their child (am I wrong to think that they shouldn't worry about whether they will miss their child but only whether their child will have a good time?).

I hear about a lot of groups who have trouble running overnights and assumed their leaders were the probelm but now starting to question if that's just the parents of today.

I have a WhatsAppgroup with the parents and put photos in of the kids everyday enjoying themselves, I had to make it admins only a few years ago when the parents ask stupid questions like why does my child look tired, why are they wearing a jumper, I now get those questions in DM.

The kids sleep in canvas tents, sing campfire songs, do activities like archery and kayaking, play in the woods, I can't get how being on a screen or sitting bored in holiday camp is even remotely comparable.

I might cancel the camp, I might suffer through the 5 parents who have 'volunteered to help' to come along as a condition to their children attending then just stop running longer camps and only do 1 or 2 night camps. Ultimately, they're less prepared for longer scout and explorer camps, and it's a spiral until you get 18-year-olds unready to go to university.

I don't get it, I know I don't have kids and maybe I will feel different if/ when I do but I don't feel I am a bad person for suggesting their children would benefit from some experiences away from their parents.

YABU- You're the pied piper of hamelin
YANBU- Parents are being to precious and camp sounds great

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hugasaurus · 11/06/2026 22:18

I am a GG leader and have helped run Brownie camps so similar age. I stick to two nights, any more and you have either the girls who are reluctant or the parents (plus it’s personally too much time for me and to ask my volunteers to take out of their lives). I think if you stick to two nights and are able to reduce the price, you will find uptake much higher. Especially if you are able to accommodate single-night stays for anyone anxious - these can be a good investment as it gives the kids and parents confidence to come longer next time.

I would focus on shorter camps but more frequently as those are much more accessible. You will get some parents and kids gung-ho for a longer experience, but it rules out a lot of people from the get-go.

I think we have to remember too that these are children who have gone through Covid - it’s just a different scene post-2020, I think. A lot of kids now have never even stayed with a relative, so a week-long camp is a big ask. I’d work at making them accessible for as many as possible.

TakingThePeanutsCarol · 11/06/2026 22:15

We do a lot of camps through scouts, and previously cubs. The max duration has been 2 nights away. Even the school residential is only 3 nights. A week is just too long unfortunately, maybe for older scouts it could be ok.

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 11/06/2026 22:15

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:08

Yeah, I think I remember my childhood one way and have some rose tinted glasses on. We run a one night sleepover and 2 night camp as well which work out ok, we do some district events. Maybe the answer is to just move to that.

Rose tinted glasses for sure. I have very fond memories of my childhood camps in a farmer's field away from anything. Collecting water from the farm and being skirt in to "duties" so managing the wood collection, cooking, the emptying of the elsan loos in to the toilet pit......

But just generally having a blast! We would get taken swimming mid week to wash off summer of the mud and pong!

Last year we went to a very rural site with no mobile signal. I loved it. My cubs loved it. The scouts were dropping like flies. If they didn't pull out last minute they were begging us to call parents to have them picked up after the first night. I think they couldn't survive without their phones.

Genevieva · 11/06/2026 22:13

They have no idea how lucky they are. This is the stuff idyllic childhood memories are made of.

To answer your question: you are not being unreasonable, though I’d probably reduce the length of the trip to 3 or 4 nights to see if that improves uptake.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:13

InflagranteDelicto · 11/06/2026 22:09

My husband is a scout leader and like you, is finding it hard to get enough signed up to the annual week camp for similar reasons / excuses. Likewise, as a brownie & guide leader I've found a weekend is all I can get them to sign up to and even then it's not easy. Kids seem soft these days compared to 10 years ago. A weekend doesn't feel long enough either, as soon as they're in the swing of it, they're packing to go home.

For comparison I offered Wings to my guides (cost £450, plus parents provide travel), week long event and the Guides were all full of excuses about how it wasn't for them. I'm still going - it's going to be a blast!

Keep going. The kids that do engage, even with just the weekly meetings, will get a lot of of it.

It does feel like even 10 years ago when I started being a leader, kids and parents are very different. Covid seems to have changed everyone. The kids now have phones and expect to be able to bring them, the parents expect me to message them twice a day. I got off a bus last year and a parent said to me as soon as I saw them 'that was to long'

I run a weekend camp, and by the time you put the tents up, it's almost time to pack them down, maybe they get 2 activities in. Possibly it's just what everyone wants though.

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OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 11/06/2026 22:10

grapefruit100 · 11/06/2026 21:47

Are you the only adult with the kids (except the parents?)
What are your safeguarding procedures?
Camp sounds great but maybe you’re missing something.

Well clearly he wouldn't be the only trained person on camp. Scouting has strict procedures and he would have to submit a nights away notification detailing the membership number of every leader attending, who is first aider etc and the approving lead volunteer would need to verify that everybody had completed basic training including safety and safeguarding and that there were enough first aiders with the appropriate level qualification for the location and activities and that if undertaking any adventurous activities that they had the right permits.

Plus a risk assessment needs to be completed, submitted and approved.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:10

SecretSquirrelSect · 11/06/2026 22:05

My dc have all been Beavers, Cubs, Scouts and Explorers. So I am not new to this.

A week is too long for cubs.

£200 is too much.

For working families, esp if they have more than one child, then the summer holidays are a painful dance of balancing childcare and working commitments.

Having just one child away for a week is not always a blessing but an added hassle. You have to get them there and back, sometimes during work hours. The childcare you use may not keep their space or need a block booking. The others kids may not want to drive there and back to drop off and pick up.

DC may have other commitments or things they don't want to miss for a week.

There will be family events like holidays, weekends away, weddings and meet ups in the holidays.

I don't want my kids coming home so sleep deprived and filthy they are then ruined for the following week too.

So many reasons.

I know our cohort has a lot of SAHPs and so it's not just that but I hadn't considered the finer details of holiday clubs so you might be right as well.

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Heatwavestrawberries · 11/06/2026 22:09

Cub camp here is about £100 for two nights. My son goes to done but not others. He finds the free time difficult and prefers it structured.

InflagranteDelicto · 11/06/2026 22:09

My husband is a scout leader and like you, is finding it hard to get enough signed up to the annual week camp for similar reasons / excuses. Likewise, as a brownie & guide leader I've found a weekend is all I can get them to sign up to and even then it's not easy. Kids seem soft these days compared to 10 years ago. A weekend doesn't feel long enough either, as soon as they're in the swing of it, they're packing to go home.

For comparison I offered Wings to my guides (cost £450, plus parents provide travel), week long event and the Guides were all full of excuses about how it wasn't for them. I'm still going - it's going to be a blast!

Keep going. The kids that do engage, even with just the weekly meetings, will get a lot of of it.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:08

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 11/06/2026 22:05

Fellow cub leader here. We only do 2 nights now, we find that quite apart from leaders not being able to get the time off work for longer camps (we use our annual leave for our families!) parents just don't seem to want to send kids for any longer. Scouts too.

It's a shame but if you get the balance right then you can still have a great time. I would get the parents together and actually ask what they want. Do a survey monkey or something with options.

I usually do a sleepover for 1 night indoors in autumn or winter, often joint with beavers which appeals to my younger cubs and then alternate in the summer, one year the crazy county festival/jamboree style camp and the next year a 2 night back to basics style camp with a hike, fires and pioneering. Often joint with the scouts so means the cubs get to know them and it eases transition for my older ones.

During the year we do a couple of the district or county competitions and do an activity day and a hike. So not overnights but good opportunities to try something new and put skills to the test.

Yeah, I think I remember my childhood one way and have some rose tinted glasses on. We run a one night sleepover and 2 night camp as well which work out ok, we do some district events. Maybe the answer is to just move to that.

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Luckyforsome23 · 11/06/2026 22:07

Here brownies camp for 1 night and guides for 3. I think it is too long.

SecretSquirrelSect · 11/06/2026 22:07

Conchiglie · 11/06/2026 21:59

I think age 8-10 is young to go on a residential camp for several nights. I don't think that means they won't be ready to go to university at 18 (I have a child at uni who is managing fine).

My siblings cried on every sleep over at that age.

Moved abroad on a gap year and has rarely been back!

I don't think being reticent to do a full week away at 8 means anything for the uni years!!

Sadgirl101 · 11/06/2026 22:06

Way too long for 8-10 year olds. We did 2 nights (Friday after school until Sunday afternoon) when I was a brownie, we did a couple of 7 days camps when we were at guides, but I'm not sure we would have coped with a week at 8. Not just from a homesick and can't cope away from home angle, but camp was intense, full on, very busy, with lots of activities, and I don't think I would have had the stamina at 8 years old to sustain that for a week!

OakleyStreetisnotinChelsea · 11/06/2026 22:05

Fellow cub leader here. We only do 2 nights now, we find that quite apart from leaders not being able to get the time off work for longer camps (we use our annual leave for our families!) parents just don't seem to want to send kids for any longer. Scouts too.

It's a shame but if you get the balance right then you can still have a great time. I would get the parents together and actually ask what they want. Do a survey monkey or something with options.

I usually do a sleepover for 1 night indoors in autumn or winter, often joint with beavers which appeals to my younger cubs and then alternate in the summer, one year the crazy county festival/jamboree style camp and the next year a 2 night back to basics style camp with a hike, fires and pioneering. Often joint with the scouts so means the cubs get to know them and it eases transition for my older ones.

During the year we do a couple of the district or county competitions and do an activity day and a hike. So not overnights but good opportunities to try something new and put skills to the test.

SecretSquirrelSect · 11/06/2026 22:05

My dc have all been Beavers, Cubs, Scouts and Explorers. So I am not new to this.

A week is too long for cubs.

£200 is too much.

For working families, esp if they have more than one child, then the summer holidays are a painful dance of balancing childcare and working commitments.

Having just one child away for a week is not always a blessing but an added hassle. You have to get them there and back, sometimes during work hours. The childcare you use may not keep their space or need a block booking. The others kids may not want to drive there and back to drop off and pick up.

DC may have other commitments or things they don't want to miss for a week.

There will be family events like holidays, weekends away, weddings and meet ups in the holidays.

I don't want my kids coming home so sleep deprived and filthy they are then ruined for the following week too.

So many reasons.

piscesangel · 11/06/2026 22:04

Agree it’s a duration issue - for ours it was 2 night camps for cubs and only longer when they went up to scouts

ScrambledEggs12 · 11/06/2026 22:04

I pulled my son out of Cubs because in 2 years they only had one 2 night camp. Yours sounds great!

DelurkingAJ · 11/06/2026 22:04

We don’t, despite me being the Group Treasurer, because a week means DS missing cricket fixtures that he’s desperate to play in. I suspect that’s a big change from 25 years ago…most of his friends have summer sports or music things.

Geneticsbunny · 11/06/2026 22:01

Please keep doing camps. They are so important for kids. They learn about independence and loads of other great stuff. I keep signing my kids up to them and they always get cancelled at the last minute and it is such a shame.

Besidemyselfwithworry · 11/06/2026 22:01

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 21:59

It's 5 days, so about £40 a night and has some activites, a printed shirt, we do get pizza on the last night. A weekend camp I would charge about £60. It's been around that price for a few years because the area we're in no one has seemed to mind. In future, I might try to make it cheaper.

Poacher is only £300!

JohnnyFedora · 11/06/2026 22:01

You should plan a 2 night camp at that age.

Drop off Friday afternoon/after school. Pick up Sunday just before lunch.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:01

Notmytelescope · 11/06/2026 21:58

I think it might be the week part that is the stumbling block. All our cub camps are only a weekend - Friday to Sunday. I think a week away is too long for many kids of this age and also makes it expensive ( although 200 for a week residential is great value).
it’s also likely to be easier to find other volunteers and parent helpers for 2 nights instead of 7. Most people with jobs and families just don’t have a week they can devote to cub camp.

Maybe try cutting back to weekend camps and seeing if the uptake improves.

in my experience longer camps are normally only for the older sections. In our group only the Explorers go for longer than 3 nights away on any given trip.

I do run a weekend camp early in the year as well and get fairly good attendance. I may move to 2 offerings of weekend camps.

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yummychocolate · 11/06/2026 22:01

My son goes scouts and it's amazing. However, at cubs they only did 1-2 nights of camping. 1 week is too long for that age.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:00

Seeingadistance · 11/06/2026 21:58

So, if that was the initial plan, what's the plan now?

Will probably be a few extra parents coming along who have said if their children are coming they need to come as well. Still DBS check etc

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JohnnyFedora · 11/06/2026 22:00

Also, cubs are fairly young. Id have thought no more than 3 nights away?