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Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 21:42

I am a man without children in his 20s but my mum said it's ok for me to ask questions here so here goes.

I have been a Cub (8-10 boys and girls) scout leader for about 10 years, running a week-long camp in the summer, less than an hour drive away from home, for those 10 years minus Covid. Past few years have become harder and harder to get signups.

I have great memories and experiences from camps I did at that age and older, every year the kids enjoy themselves on camp. It's hugely shaped me to become the adult I am today and most of my freinds are people I went to scouts with. I honestly believe scouting is a great organisation for teaching kids resilience and independence, and that's why I give up 5+ hours a week to scouting.

This year in particular has been a nightmare, almost none of the parents want to send their kids, camp is about £200 but it's an affluent area, we offer discounts to those who need so I doubt it's the cost. Some are genuinely on holiday but a lot of them genuinely insist it's to much for their child often telling me about how 20 years ago in brownies they didn't enjoy camping or that they would miss their child (am I wrong to think that they shouldn't worry about whether they will miss their child but only whether their child will have a good time?).

I hear about a lot of groups who have trouble running overnights and assumed their leaders were the probelm but now starting to question if that's just the parents of today.

I have a WhatsAppgroup with the parents and put photos in of the kids everyday enjoying themselves, I had to make it admins only a few years ago when the parents ask stupid questions like why does my child look tired, why are they wearing a jumper, I now get those questions in DM.

The kids sleep in canvas tents, sing campfire songs, do activities like archery and kayaking, play in the woods, I can't get how being on a screen or sitting bored in holiday camp is even remotely comparable.

I might cancel the camp, I might suffer through the 5 parents who have 'volunteered to help' to come along as a condition to their children attending then just stop running longer camps and only do 1 or 2 night camps. Ultimately, they're less prepared for longer scout and explorer camps, and it's a spiral until you get 18-year-olds unready to go to university.

I don't get it, I know I don't have kids and maybe I will feel different if/ when I do but I don't feel I am a bad person for suggesting their children would benefit from some experiences away from their parents.

YABU- You're the pied piper of hamelin
YANBU- Parents are being to precious and camp sounds great

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CoralTrout · 11/06/2026 23:08

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 23:01

our scout group charges 400+ for a summer camp, some of our explorers spent 4000 to go to south korea, so it never felt to much compared to them but maybe these days the money is a lot

But the comparison to South Korea is irrelevant as totally different experiences and expectations re self funded fundraising and sponsorship for example. £400 for summer camp in the UK is wild. We live in a ok area economically and few would pay that.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 23:01

CoralTrout · 11/06/2026 22:55

Too long. Too expensive. I've been involved with Scouting for nearly 20 years and camps are never more than 3 nights / £75. The only one that was a week was overseas Kandersteg. This weekend is Explorers camp. Two nights £10 although at that age they are pretty self sufficient.

Before I forget THANK YOU for volunteering!

our scout group charges 400+ for a summer camp, some of our explorers spent 4000 to go to south korea, so it never felt to much compared to them but maybe these days the money is a lot

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Ineffable23 · 11/06/2026 22:57

moggerhanger · 11/06/2026 22:55

Basic fee is £300. Your own group will be adding costs for food, gas, transport, gala tent hire if applicable, etc. We're charging £400 but we don't need to hire any kit, just a van to transport it all, and we're not arranging transport for the kids themselves.

Makes me realise how spoilt we were at my group - we had our own big tents, trailers to transport everything, I think we basically had all the kit. We actually used to raise money lending the big tent out for weddings and community events.

moggerhanger · 11/06/2026 22:55

1willgetthere · 11/06/2026 22:39

Your scout group must be subsidising that, I have paid £500 for my son to go to poacher!

Basic fee is £300. Your own group will be adding costs for food, gas, transport, gala tent hire if applicable, etc. We're charging £400 but we don't need to hire any kit, just a van to transport it all, and we're not arranging transport for the kids themselves.

CoralTrout · 11/06/2026 22:55

Too long. Too expensive. I've been involved with Scouting for nearly 20 years and camps are never more than 3 nights / £75. The only one that was a week was overseas Kandersteg. This weekend is Explorers camp. Two nights £10 although at that age they are pretty self sufficient.

Before I forget THANK YOU for volunteering!

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:53

Honeyhonay · 11/06/2026 22:42

You are not owed the parents wanting to send their children with you though.
I would never send my 8 year old away for an almost week with someone they met once a week. Clearly many parents agree which is why uptake is so low. Perhaps look at your own strategy rather than lashing out and blaming the parents.

thanks

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Ineffable23 · 11/06/2026 22:52

I'm just trying to recall the camp schedule from when I did it. I think we used to do a 1-2 nighter that was a county camp for the eldest cubs and the youngest scouts in about late September time. a 1 nighter end of October that was always absolutely freezing, a spring camp during the may bank holiday, again usually 2 nights and then a summer camp during the summer holidays which was 2 or 3 nights.

As leaders we often went down the night before and pitched the cooking tents and our own tents so we could have a night "off" as well, and then the kids could arrive early on the Saturday morning for one night camps. Get tents pitched and usually keep them til late afternoon the next day for the shorter camps.

I think most of the the point of it (at that age) is the tent pitching and the washing up and the camp fire etc. Add in some orienteering in a field and a bit of archery and everyone's had a great weekend.

I think it's really important to remember that the aim of cubs is for them to have fun and then for them to want to go to scouts, really. So it's about preparing them and readying them for that - can they do a few knots, not throw themselves into a camp fire, get their tent up with adult supervision, keep their sleeping bag successfully inside their tent (we still used the old fashioned tents rather than "hike tents"), get to sleep without mum and dad there, manage to go to the loo in the night, eat unfamiliar food. That's the entire point of camps in cubs.

WellThatsAllRightThen · 11/06/2026 22:51

Beaver leader here and mum to a cub (and a beaver and Squirrel...). My cub has recently just done a weekend (2 nights) which seemed enough tbh and cost £40 although I appreciate you may be in a fancier area. I was also a scout (in the late 90s) and did week long stays but my son who's 8 was pretty wiped after 3 days (2 nights) full on activities. I'd rethink the length tbh and rein in the cost. Good for you though for being thoughtful though. Its a thankless task more often than not. If it weren't for my scout leader back in the day and my eldest being a mini explorer I would never have signed up. I too am very much of the mind that without scouts I'd be a very different person. Would also love if parents appreciated the impact (although I dont expect any gratitude its often overlooked as cheap babysitting)

purpleme12 · 11/06/2026 22:45

Although I'd make it less than a week I have to say....

1willgetthere · 11/06/2026 22:45

I think its great that you give your time to scouting , and sure its appreciated by all involved.

My son joined as a scout and now an explorer, its been great for him, and he has loved the camps but think the longest his group offers is 3 nights. Poacher will be is first long one. They do 4 weekends a year.

purpleme12 · 11/06/2026 22:44

How weird

This is not my experience of cub scouts children

Honeyhonay · 11/06/2026 22:44

OP thinks parents are being precious about sending 8 year olds away for only 5 nights but asked his mummy whether he should post mumsnet. Make it make sense.

Honeyhonay · 11/06/2026 22:42

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:32

Maybe it's inflammatory and baity, I have put a lot of work in for a decade into scouting and am grumpy and can't say how I feel to the actual parents. I see these children every week, some of our leaders have children in schools with their children, I don't think I am a stranger to the children or the parents.

You are not owed the parents wanting to send their children with you though.
I would never send my 8 year old away for an almost week with someone they met once a week. Clearly many parents agree which is why uptake is so low. Perhaps look at your own strategy rather than lashing out and blaming the parents.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:41

JustGiveMeReason · 11/06/2026 22:37

YABU- You're the pied piper of hamelin
YANBU- Parents are being to precious and camp sounds great

I haven't voted as your poll question is ridiculous.

I've been involved in different roles for over 40 years, and I've had 3 dc go through all sections, all totalling nigh on 200 nights each by the time they hit 18, so I am all for camps and all sorts of experiences that the children get on camps, but I don't know of any groups that take cubs away for a week (or 5 days as you later said). I suspect that is your issue. Cubs are of an age where 2 nights is usually enough. Possibly 3 for the older / more experienced / more confident ones. I've not come across a Group that does a longer camp until the dc are of Scout age. Even then some of the younger ones struggle.

I do agree things have changed a lot since COVID, but I do think cub camps are better over a weekend, and leaving them wanting more, and that has always been the case since before you were born.

The poll question was a little facetious because I am grumpy.

I did a week-long camp when I was a Cub, I cut it to 5 days as an adult leader 10 years later when I became section lead, I am taking under advisement that most people agree 5 days is too long.

There is a lot of other older leaders who think 5 days was a mistake and I dread telling them we're dropping to a weekend but I can see that may be necessary.

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1willgetthere · 11/06/2026 22:39

Besidemyselfwithworry · 11/06/2026 22:01

Poacher is only £300!

Your scout group must be subsidising that, I have paid £500 for my son to go to poacher!

Ineffable23 · 11/06/2026 22:37

I used to be a leader on cub camps about 15 years ago. The longest we did was 3 nights and honestly it was too long. The kids didn't sleep well, therefore we didn't sleep well. I got about 8 hours sleep over 3 nights between all the kids who were up and down. We used to mainly do 2 night camps which were the sweet spot I think. And then scouts would run 2-3 nights the rest of the year and a week in the summer. And then explorers could run longer ones. I don't think we ever saw an issue where they were unprepared for the next stage, and my dad ran the scout troup so I am pretty sure I would have known about it.

It's wonderful you run camps but I would go for 2-3 nights I think.

JustGiveMeReason · 11/06/2026 22:37

YABU- You're the pied piper of hamelin
YANBU- Parents are being to precious and camp sounds great

I haven't voted as your poll question is ridiculous.

I've been involved in different roles for over 40 years, and I've had 3 dc go through all sections, all totalling nigh on 200 nights each by the time they hit 18, so I am all for camps and all sorts of experiences that the children get on camps, but I don't know of any groups that take cubs away for a week (or 5 days as you later said). I suspect that is your issue. Cubs are of an age where 2 nights is usually enough. Possibly 3 for the older / more experienced / more confident ones. I've not come across a Group that does a longer camp until the dc are of Scout age. Even then some of the younger ones struggle.

I do agree things have changed a lot since COVID, but I do think cub camps are better over a weekend, and leaving them wanting more, and that has always been the case since before you were born.

Scoutleader01809 · 11/06/2026 22:32

Honeyhonay · 11/06/2026 22:29

Your poll is pretty inflammatory and baity. Parents are not precious because they don’t want to send their children overnight with strangers.

Maybe it's inflammatory and baity, I have put a lot of work in for a decade into scouting and am grumpy and can't say how I feel to the actual parents. I see these children every week, some of our leaders have children in schools with their children, I don't think I am a stranger to the children or the parents.

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moggerhanger · 11/06/2026 22:29

Beaver and Scout leader here. I think 2 nights is enough for Cubs. £200 for a 5 night camp is pretty good value BUT it's just a bit long for 8-10 year olds. I've taken Scouts on week-long camps and that's hard enough. Drop it back to 2 nights and take the pressure off.

Honeyhonay · 11/06/2026 22:29

Your poll is pretty inflammatory and baity. Parents are not precious because they don’t want to send their children overnight with strangers.

giemepeace · 11/06/2026 22:26

I’d say it’s very unusual for children aged 8-10 to go away for a week; that wasn’t even the norm when I was that age. What is the build up? I’d be cool with between ages 8-10, beginning with one night and building up to 3 max by the time they are 10. For me a week would be suitable from more like 12. It’s a bit exaggerated to say kids won’t be ready for university if they haven’t been away from parents for a week by 10.

I do agree in some respects, that parents these days are particularly anxious and as such they restrict their kids from opportunities for independence that they need. I disagree strongly with tracking kids for example and view that as being 90% about parents soothing their own anxiety. But resilience comes from feeling secure and building independence gradually.

Fatiguedwithlife · 11/06/2026 22:23

My cub does 2 night camps although she would like to go longer I think

hugasaurus · 11/06/2026 22:22

And just to say thank you for volunteering your time, it’s so important to give children these opportunities and allow them to gain independence and take risks in a managed way like camp or PGL. These events are a heck of a lot of work to organise but the kids get so much out of them. I love seeing an anxious girl absolutely flourish over a weekend at PGL or similar.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/06/2026 22:18

I think it’s too long for the age group, as others have said.

Two nights max for cubs, I’d say.

At our local Scouting group, they don’t do week long camps until Scouts, and that’s once a year, and tbh a lot of the Scouts just do the weekend ones still.

Also, £200 isn’t a lot for what they’re getting, no, but it is a lot for some families to find.

I think it’s that rather than it being a bad idea to camp as such.

My DS adores Scout camps if that helps - he is 12 though.

Bitzee · 11/06/2026 22:18

DD9 has brownie camp next weekend. It’s 2 nights- after school Friday to Sunday afternoon, £80, no actual camping required as they have dorms in a building on the site which is one of those typical outdoorsy scouting centres. It gets a great turn out. In winter they also do 1 night sleep over in the church hall.

Anything during the school holidays always runs a risk of clashing with family holidays. £200 is a lot of money for some families and stops it being as inclusive. 5 nights is also a long time away from home for an 8YO and a long time to spend roughing it camping. DD had 2 nights camping on her school residential and that was more than enough for her, we’d have no issue with her being away for 5 nights per se, she’s doing a 6 night school ski trip next year, but honestly she wouldn’t want to camp for that long.