AIBU about the split of bills….

£800 a month all in for him and his daughter is a bargain. I have always split bills 50/50 with a partner and not included the mortgage but they haven't had a child with them. Frame it as rent rather than half the mortgage, I assume he isn't chipping in if you need a plumber or to replace a carpet, so rent is fair.

The other child?

How many are there?

He keeps losing jobs you say? Why?

How does he pay his share when he is between jobs?

He sounds like a prince.

Although I do agree he shouldn't be paying towards a mortgage he has absolutely no share in. That's about the only reasonable thing about the situation (based on the info provided).

There is not a single man on earth that I would live with and their up to 2 children rather than live on my own.

he should not be paying your mortgage, that hasn’t been fair. He’s been paying off an asset that is only yours.

he should be paying two thirds of the bills and food with possibly a nominal rent on top.

I would keep the mortgage completely separate to avoid him potentially being able to claim a share of the property further down the line. Decide how much rent you think is fair for him to be paying for him and his daughter to be living in your house.

All those saying he shouldn't be paying towards the mortgage, is that not the equivalent of paying some rent? Presumably half the mortgage is significantly cheaper than what he would be paying if renting his own place, which also doesn't accrue any interest in the property, so I don't see why it's not a good deal for him? Would you only charge him a share of bills?

This is exactly like those stupid bloody men that seem to think having a wife and baby means they only have to work now I.e. their (home) workload goes down.

Who would do their bloody laundry, vook, clean etc if they were childfree and living alone independently?? But apparently having a salary is contribution enough if you get married to a woman and have a baby.

He's taking the piss to think he gets to live rent free because you're building an asset. So is a bloody landlord but he can't choose not to pay to live there..oh wait, he has, because he's sponging off you.

You should be careful asking him to pay half your mortgage or anything towards your mortgage as he could be entitled to a share of your property if you split. Bills - fine.

Why shouldn’t he pay half the mortgage? It’s just the same as him renting. Maybe several years down the line you may want to reassess this, but absolutely not now.

So he has two children? One of which you house full time and one that stays the weekends? And he cannot hang onto a job and moved in with you because he was going to be homeless? I’m betting you’re doing most of the domestic labour to boot?

Where did you find this prince OP, and can you return him?

He moved himself in when he was going homeless and thinks death absolves Jim of paying "rent"?

No, he's exploiting you.

He's lost two jobs and told you what you needed to hear to get his feet through the door and now he's dropping the mask. Dump the fuck out of him.

How old is his daughter? For another adult then another 1/3rd of the bills would be reasonable but not if she is ,eg,6…
I think he should pay the amount that your bills have increased since their arrival and some form of rent to cover living in your home ( in which there will be more wear and tear of house,furniture etc etc)
I don’t think it is fair for anyone to pay directly towards a mortgage when they have no interest in the property which the mortgage is on.

By paying half the mortgage then he may acquire a beneficial interest in the property so not really in your best interest for him to pay this.

Council tax should be paid equally by all adults in the house unless exempt e.g. student. Other bills spilt by occupancy so he pays 2/3. Maybe a small amount of rent to cover maintenance and wear and tear.

Look into getting a cohabitation agreement to formalise this and write a will.

Whether you call it the mortgage or call it rent, he's saving money by not having to rent a two bed place which would be the alternative. So he has to pay something for a roof over his head.

Bills he should pay at least half or more than half if they've increased more since he got there.

But he sounds like he's just trying to get a free roof over his and his daughter's head! Where's the mum?

Could he get a fully furnished 2-bed flat including all bills for £800 a month?

My partner moved in with me and I pay my mortgage and he pays 100% for everything else house and food related. He’s paying around 1500 a month. If this guy wants to only pay 50% of bills I’d tell him to move out. He’s taking the piss. Let him rent then, or buy somewhere and furnish it for him and his child.

Nope, he shouldn't be contributing to your mortgage but he should be paying 2/3 towards bills and food shop

why would you expect to gain anything from him living there, mortgage wise? Surely you want them living there or not. I’d be wanting to protect your property from any claims he can fairly make if he contributes to it.

£800 for him AND his daughter? Including food and everything
Christ almighty, he saw you coming didn’t he? Tell the cheap git to move out if he doesn’t like it

edit - mortgage is making it sticky but he should be paying some sort of rent plus bills imo . And £800 is bloody cheap

Of course he shouldn’t contribute to your mortgage without being added as an owner. Which id strongly advise against. He should pay 2/3 of all bills and household expenses.

Give him a choice - he can either pay 2/3's of all the bills including food at your house, or he can move out and pay rent and all the bills somewhere else.

He shouldn't pay half your mortgage but he should pay more than half the bills as he has his daughter living there too.

Bills, there is no argument he pays 2/3

Mortgage to be really honest I see his point. However I guess his decision is would he rather move out and pay rent or live with you?