To find lazy adults really grating?

Mature adults don't come on internet forums and peer down their noses at people in the way you do

Why? Because it doesn't align with your narrative that early risers can be the only ones who are successful?

Mature adults don’t judge and bitch about friends on internet forums (surprised you even had the time to come on here and start this thread!)

Just cut off the friendship and get on with your superior, grown up and better life. Clearly you two are not compatible.

OP have you ever worked in early years? I have done many different things in my life, but working in a nursery was the most exhausting thing I’ve ever done. It is incredibly rewarding, but very long hours and is both very physically and emotionally draining. Stop judging her until you’ve walked a day in her shoes.

You aren't friends.
Move on.

You sounds a right exhausting judgemental madam.
I'm successful in my career and have done lots of additional courses
My secret??
I do my best work between 11pm-5am and then sleep 6am to 3pm when I was on study leave/ days off/ weekends
It's almost like people have different circadian rhythms

And based on this thread, it’s a fact that you are unpleasant. I’d rather be immature.

As long as she doesn't develop a shed load of health problems from inactivity that require tax payer intervention and she can afford her lifestyle on. 30 hours work with absolutely no government help...

Exactly. Going for a few runs hardly balances out spending most of your waking hours stuck in an office.

Or it will be the opposite.

Why is an extrovert more likely to buy a house and car than an introvert?

OP has not said which one of them gets paid the most but she has said that she has a lot of hobbies that cost money, whilst her ‘friend’ doesn’t.

The friend is much more likely to be able to buy a nice home in the future by not spending all of her money.

It was the OP who is raising it to the level of a virtue, not you.

I think you have become a bit overly-defensive because you enjoy going to the gym - which, make no mistake, I am sure all of us think is absolutely fine - so long as you own it for what it is: a choice in the way you spend your time that isn't necessarily how everyone else would choose to go about keeping fit and healthy.

We are all free to make our own choices without people like the OP condemning - and there will be a variety of views about what is more productive than something else and the best way to spend one's time. That's what makes us all different.

Maybe the friend earns 200k and already has all of those things.

Maybe she doesn’t want to find Prince Charming right now.

Is that what women should do - do things to only find a man.

She has a busy, active job and prefers her own company during her time off.

If she was looking for a man then she’d be more likely to find one online using a dating app, rather than at the gym or sewing anyway.

Exactly this!! 👏👏

Surely having a happy life is the biggest marker of success.

Why is forcing yourself to do something that you don’t really enjoy something to be proud of, just because someone else has decided that’s what makes them happy.

There will be people looking down their nose at OP because she hasn’t chosen to have children yet and she’s out ‘wasting her time’ on the gym and socialising, instead of being at home cooking and cleaning for a husband and kids.

As long as people are contributing to society and not committing crimes, let them live how they want to.

Why do you care what other people do?! If you were as busy as you make out you’d have neither the time or energy.

I suspect what she's mocking you for isn't genuinely the fact that you're 'productive'. She's doing it to wind you up.

You're so smug and superior and so full of yourself about what a sensible, productive grown-up you are that she's very clearly winding you up on purpose in retaliation. Which to be honest, is exactly what I would want to do to someone who is judgemental and uptight.

It's interesting that you think your friend is immature because to me, you sound like a teenage mean girl who wants to start a bitchfest with her mates about a girl she's fallen out with.

You don't like your 'friend' and haven't got a single good word to say about her, and this thread is just unpleasant. Grow up and stop being 'friends' with people you clearly actively dislike. You're not in Year 10.

I think we are soul mates, ScholesPanda 😆

I’m in bed now. And you sound like a bit of an idiot

Listen, you do you. That's all you have at your disposal.
I will say that you sound a lot like my MIL, who was always up at the crack of dawn and had harsh words for anyone still in their pit by 8 am. It wasn't an endearing character trait. People will do their own thing, and only think badly of you for your unwanted judgement. Drop it.

It's not very nice of your friend to be openly judging how you spend your time but you're judging her back so this sounds like a friendship to gently let go as it sounds like you're not very fond of each other.

I did vote YABU though as you keep saying about being an adult not a teenager. Being a morning person over a night owl doesn't give you any sort of superiority and makes you sound a bit childish, sorry.